hello, depression is such an awful illness, that seems to take us to another world, oblivious of what it is doing to our spouse or partner, and although there maybe a faint inclination of how we feel to other people, it's certainly not a priority.
This is depression at it's best, and we do use ways of trying to numb this illness, and one of them is alcohol, and I am guilty of this myself.
I kept on pushing away from contacting a psych. and how long this was I can't remember, but my ex kept on asking me to do something about it, but I was in denial, I thought that I would get better by myself, but how wrong I was.
You can't overcome depression by yourself, and although some people believe that they have is questionable, because there are factors that lay deep within us, that either we don't want to pursue, or we don't realise that they are there, but contribute to our depression.
We aren't trained to find these, and if we do find them, how the hell do we cope with them, so we push them aside.
Personally speaking I had no desire for any sexual activity, and if my ex thought that if we did this it would change my mood and make me overcome this illness she was wrong.
It's a horrible existence both for the sufferer and the person living with them, and although people try to support this person at first there is no positive reaction, and the relationship may stay dormant for a short time or for a long time.
This is an illness that changes all our thoughts, we don't want to think about any positive changes, because we just don't have the capacity or the strength to do so. Geoff.