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Topic: Duck

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  1. Sommer
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    7 posts
    2 August 2021

    I lost an Uncle, who was like another father to me around 4 years ago and it was sudden. He left to go and cut wood and never came home.

    I can still remember the phone call from my mum, i have never been able to get over this, i know from that day i haven't been myself and not sure how to? Any ideas? He was someone who had been in my life from the day i was born, he wasn't suppose to die, he was always going to be in my life. I don't have the answers, and i feel lost many days, i feel cheated. I didn't go to his funeral, i couldn't because i didn't believe it was real i guess. To this day, i still look for him in places he loved, i can still hear his last words to me and see him walking up the street to his house. I just don't see why the world had to take him :(

  2. geoff
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    2 August 2021 in reply to Sommer

    Hello Sommer, I can't express the words I want to say because they are too priceless and I'm not sure how I can tell you except to say that I am really sorry your uncle has passed away, if however, we were face to face then I could show you.

    If you loved him as much as did, there is not any disgrace in not being able to go to his funeral, it would be too devastating to say goodbye with his family and friends attending, it couldn't be the personal way you wanted to do this, as he meant so much to you.

    Sometimes when someone you love passes away, you are still able to carry them on your shoulder and definitely within your heart everywhere you go, you look for the advice they would have given you and then act on it in this way.

    My heart goes out to you and remember, he's still with you and you can hold this for as long as you want.

    My deepest thoughts.

    Geoff. x

  3. Sommer
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    2 August 2021 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff, thank you for replying. Thank you for saying it was ok not going to his funeral, i have felt very guilty at not being able to, but it would have just been too hard. I know he is still with me for sure, you are right, they never really leave. I can still hear his advice and voice so thank you for being so lovely.

    I really appreciate it xx

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