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Forums / Grief and loss / Missing mum

Topic: Missing mum

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  1. Maffu
    Maffu avatar
    1 posts
    13 December 2015

    Hello im am completely new to this, i havnt been able to open up to anyone.

    ​2 months ago my mother passed away from cancer no suger coating she died scared and in alot of pain, i cannot even put into words how helpless and worthless i feel not being able to help her.

    Ive lost my mum, the person who was always there for me always listened to me loved me no matter what happened.

    i also have just currently lost my home my pet dog and cat, i feel like im still stuck in shock with moments of intense sobbing that last for hours. I feel so lost and alone ( i know im not i have my 3 best friends helping me) but i cannot shake this feeling and open up to them i keep rejecting everything.

    So im asking everyone please Please tell me your story of what it was like and how you broke out of that bubble of depression, fear and negativity. I need your help

  2. Shelll
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    7532 posts
    14 December 2015 in reply to Maffu

    Dear  Maffu

    I'm so so sorry for your loss of your dear mum.  And I know you miss her. Warm hug...  It sounds like she loved you a whole, whole lot.

    I am wondering if you are grieving, and I know there a few stages in this natural process, where ones emotions are all over the place.

    I am also sorry for your loss of your home, your pet dog and pet kitty cat. That is a lot of losses you are experiencing at the moment in your life. You must be hurting heaps. I"m so glad though for you, that you have some friends to help you, that is way good.

    In regards to living in a bubble with depression.... Well yes I can relate to that. For me it was like you are asleep, and things don't feel real or something. You heart feels heavy, overwhelmed or consumed by sad emotions. I also felt like I didn't matter to anyone, worthless. And tears were many as I curled up tight and hugged my pillow. It also felt safe inside my bubble as well. So is that like yours?

    I have also had fear, so bad I could not even leave the house.

    Anyway the way you are feeling, may be the natural process of grief. But I don't know for sure.

    Well I want to tell you that I care about you. And you are not alone.

    With many many hugs

    Shelley anne xxxx

  3. geoff
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    14 December 2015 in reply to Maffu

    dear Maffu, my sincere condolences for the loss of your mum, who must have been struggling with all the pain that cancer causes.

    The loss of your house, pet dog and cat is also a terrible ordeal to try and cope with , as I had to put my little dog of 18 years down and this was very traumatic for me and caused me to have a relapse, so I know that this must be a very difficult time for you.

    I would presume that you are in a fire affected area, and to try and overcome all of these events in one go would be so upsetting.

    I am so truly sorry for you.

    I wish that all of these matters could pass with a click of the finger, but there could be a wait for the insurance company to come good, but with so much grieving, I'm really so sorry.

    Having the three great friends is certainly a bonus, but I realise that this is not necessarily going to ease the pain that you are suffering, but it's some shoulders to cry on in your need for help, which you will certainly need.

    There are so many issues which you have to try and deal with, and all are very important and crucial, and want to let you know that we are here to help you, so please can you tell us which one you have to deal with first, because your post is one that hasn't been finished and that continual support by us will always be here. Geoff. x



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