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  1. demonblaster
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    14 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hey bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩 and everyone ☺

    Dear lady it sounds like you're in a bit of a pickle there. Not so good hey 🤗

    My initial thoughts were maybe it would be a relief and easier that Betty would be working out front with you. But nah because the ones out the back are performing like they are the rotters that wouldn't sit well with you darlin and I wouldn't like you to feel uncomfortable with them.

    I think it's after December the usual co-ordinator comes back if I have that right?

    Grandy I reckon take that as a huge compliment them wanting you in charge.

    Is there someone approachable you can talk too at all? It's tricky isn't it cause it'd pull you down being out the back with the rowdy slackers. I like but really do sympathize Grandz that you've had/having time out the front to reintegrate slowly with people again, it might make it easier in time for hospital visits I truly hope not and appointments etc.

    Could you talk to your mh lady and could she talk on your behalf maybe.

    Grandz could Betty serve the men all or most times.

    Hey lovey it's ok that in your words " it's not the best post " we want to know how you are precious bbff. I'm just sorry you have this worry looming over you. I also believe in you Grandy love that no matter what obstacles lay in front of you you're able to work through them. Trouble is though out the back eh.

    Beautiful it's another gorgeous day here. My love 😍 and I had a lovely walk up to a water area loaded with trees and lovely bush with walking tracks. Was Mr's second walk which I'm hoping for us to do daily.

    Love affection and care always to you beautiful and your gorgeous little furs. D & E send their tiny we meows and play.

    PubAok Grandy love. You mean the world 🤗💜👩‍❤️‍👩🌈🦋☀️😍⚘🗯

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  2. Hanna3
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    14 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy

    Is there someone at the store you could speak to and ask to be out the back again? I can imagine it's busy out front. I think you've been amazing how you've coped with it all!

    Are you OK there in this wild weather we've been having?

    💖🐦🌳🐕🙂

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    15 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hello Grandy,

    Just popping in to see how you are after today in the front of the shop... you should be so proud of yourself for even trying it last week... I'm hoping today might have been a bit easier for you now you know what to expect... it's ok if it wasn't... it is such a big change from what you are used too... & it sounds like the girls out back are making it 10 times harder for you.. lass if you don't feel able to continue out front that is ok.. it isn't for everyone... the big thing is you are trying & you can text the boss at any time & say you don't feel able to continue in the front & they need to choose someone else.

    Sending you the biggest of bear hugs

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    16 November 2021

    Hey Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 and all 👋

    Sweet friend hi darlin just popping in to see how your poor heads 🤕 going. Gee they knock us around don't they.

    Destiny & Eternity wanted to come they're giving you a very relaxing neck massage precious. Here's a yum Coffee frappe wow! they're good aren't they!

    Really hope you're feeling brighter beautiful dear bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩💜🗯💗👀🌞

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    19 November 2021

    Hello Grandy,

    How are you lass? I've been wondering how you are going with all the changes at work... I hope you have been able to see your Dr or to talk to your support worker... they are there to help you lass... you have been very quiet here so I would like to think you are talking to them & getting all the support you deserve... remember lass there is no pressure for you to reply...

    I hope your furs have been giving you lots of cuddles...

    I'm sending you a big bear hug & Woofa sends you ear snuffles

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    19 November 2021 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hello Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, Hanna, Paws and readers..

    Thank you all for your kind posts...

    Sorry I haven’t been here for a bit...

    I am struggling with me and my non ability to speak up when the girls just don’t listen to me and do what they want...I have been running the front of the shop, then when no customers are in, I go out back to help sort the clothes and then do the vacuuming out there as well at the end of the day after I’ve balanced the days takings....They are out back talking, joking and sorting through bric a brac when it comes in and not doing the clothes...The clothes are always first....

    Its getting me down a lot....Betty* has changed since she doesn’t want to learn the new till....geez... she is serving customers and not putting the money through the till..the customers are not getting a receipt...she will tell me later on but forgets the item/s she sold...problem is everything has to be itemised on sale...

    My support worker is on leave..her stand in told me to leave, Betty is trying to make me leave at Christmas, when she does..(but I doubt she will)....Some workers are telling me to leave...Okay Maybe I should for my mental health..I’m sure it will improve....I’m just so sick of me failing and feeling hopeless doing things that are a part of everyday living....I don’t know what I’m going to do about work anymore....I am so confused with me and my emotions...I feel like I’m a doormat at work and that doesn’t sit good with my mh....I feel the lion in Wizard of Oz...unfortunately I don’t have the drink of courage from Mr Wizard man..

    I’m not working this Monday nor the next Monday...due to commitments on both those day....so they are closing the shop both Mondays....Hoping the next 2 weeks won’t be so hard on me by only doing the Tuesdays....

    I hope everyone has some light in their day today..and those with fur babies are getting plenty of love and cuddles..They really are the best..

    Hoping your okay my bbff...Lots If hugs with extra love.,🤗💜🦄👼..

    My love and hugs to everyone reading/posting..🌹💜🤗..

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy..

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  7. Hanna3
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    19 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy

    It's 8pm and I'm just home and saw your post. A couple of thoughts in point firm below!

    1. I would see if you cope better with just the one day instead of two, over the next couple of weeks.

    You may find it's less stressful if you only have one day there. I think it's worth seeing if this helps?

    2. I used to get very upset about colleagues at work who did the wrong thing/didn't do their job well - just as you are feeling about Betty and the girls out back.

    I learnt the hard way to realise that I couldn't change them and I wasn't responsible for what they did or didn't do. I had to learn not to get upset about them.

    Is there any way you can just do the best you can at your job and try to worry less about what the others are doing?

    3. Try not to decide about leaving yet. See how one day per week goes.

    I can understand how all this is getting you upset and flustered... You can't change yourself and become a very assertive person all of a sudden, it's OK just to be who you are - a lovely kind person. 🙂

    Give it a bit longer and don't worry because you think you should be able to deal with it all.

    You're not responsible for the behaviour of other people.

    If it's really concerning you, can you talk to the boss there?

    You've come such a long way and you've been doing brilliantly!

    Keep chugging on for a while and see what happens.

    I think a day a week at the store is good for you rather than being home all week.

    What do you think?

    We have faith in you here!

    😊👍💞🐦🍃☔🌻🐕🐋💌

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    19 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hey darlin bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩 hey everyone

    Beautiful dear Grandy I feel so sorry for you in this situation you sweet gentle lady 🤗

    I think try not to be too hard on yourself hun you didn't ask to be in this position.
    They sound like hard work out the back.
    It's not fair on you Grandy and you'll cop the brunt if works not done I assume

    Geez and Bettys not helping by not using the register ahh darlin it really does sound a lot poor love.

    Leaving is an option which you could choose which is ok if that's what you want.

    Though I think the fact you're kind of questioning yourself isn't a bad thing either.
    It sounds like something deep down there Grandz is awakening which I reckons going to help you through this.

    Out the back they're here to bloody work!
    You're in charge. Would Betty stand by you or the bosses if it comes down to putting them straight.

    A lot for you to think about I know darling bbff.

    Just please don't allow beasty anxiety and memories to sway you. Listen to the part of you speaking for... not against you.

    No matter what you decide I'll always be with you dear friend.

    I think you have a lot of courage and are doing so well. You're an assett there and to anyone that's lucky enough as I am to be your friend. It's an honor and privilege beautiful soul.

    Do what feels right Grandy 💏✊🤝 you'll always have us.

    Love you very deeply sweetyheart. Sorry it's taking so long to reply at mine ☺ All very good thx hun.

    Hope your heads better 🤕 sweet love.

    Always 🗯 with so much love 💜

    Sleep well beautiful/s 😴🤗🌈🌞💗🌱

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    22 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hello Grandy,

    Yay you!!!! I saw over on Shell's walking thread that you went for a walk along a street in your village... that is such a biggie for you to do... I especially love that you felt able to notice the things about you & that you picked yourself some flowers... it is sad to think of all those empty houses... but being able to take cuttings from the plants in them is a bonus... like you I would be tempted to keep an eye out for when that passionfruit vine's flowers turn to yummy fruit.

    Are you going to put your pigface cuttings in a pot to grow them out or are you going to just try them straight in your garden? I've not tried growing them from cuttings so I don't know how easy/hard it is to do. I tried for many years at my old place to strike hydrangea cuttings, but they never worked.

    I hope all the rain hasn't flooded near you & you are managing to sit on your verandah & soak up all the gorgeousness that nature has for us...

    Hugs for you & pats for your furs

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    23 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy and greetings to everyone reading,

    I'm sorry to read you are having a hard time in the shop. I really like Hanna's reply to you, I am going to take on board a lot of what Hanna has written when I at my work place.

    Paws mentioned the pigface, where I grew up it was a coastal region, the pigface was all along the cliff tops and down at the beach in the sandhills. We have very dry patches here in our garden so I have tried some pigface here and it does well.

    Hope you have success in your garden and you have been able to go walking again.

    Wishing you all the best with the shop work. Have pride in what you are achieving Grandy. Cheers from Dools

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    23 November 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hanna, Paws, Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, Dools and readers..🤗..

    Thank you all for your inspirational posts..

    I am trying hard to like being the co-ordinator for both days...It’s hard for me... Both my days have only 3 workers, 2 out front and 1 outback...the other days between 4-6 workers...So there work gets done...over the weekend our blue Vinnies clothes bin is overflowing and onto the footpath with donations...I serve customers, plus help out back sorting when I got time to....

    Okay we can’t get it all done and I am trying to accept that...Things half done..gets me down thinking ‘failure’...logically I know differently..I don’t think my mind is equipped with logicality....I don’t know what’s happening to me...Tuesday’s is cry day for me...and I’m so over it...

    We don’t have a boss...I am boss* Monday and Tuesday...another girl is boss on Wednesday and Friday...we don’t open Thursdays...enough of work..

    I promised myself I will stay until Christmas break, then think about it more...In a way I don’t want to quit..because that will be like quitting with my mh....confusion really is the pits...

    The big hospital rang me today...and told me I’m booked in this Friday for day surgery to remove my abscess...such short notice...I hate those numbing needles..they hurt so much...I have refused to go under anaesthetic....I need to be awake to trust him...Surgeon said he will do his best..that’s all I expect of him...

    Deep love and care bbff...with an everlasting hug...💚🕊🧸🤗..

    Much love, care and hugs to everyone..

    Grandy..

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    23 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy

    I'm sorry I'm here late and don't have much time... I'll try to check back tomorrow.

    Good on you for not giving up! Can you tell whoever runs the store you can only do two days until Christmas and then they need to find something else for whichever day you don't wish to work?

    It sounds as if it would be much less stressful for you if you just did one day a week like you used to?

    I think if you can get one day a week it is good for you to get out each week. Try not to give up the store totally. It is not your responsibility to find someone for the day you can't be there.

    I'm sure they will manage, and I think just one day would be much easier for you.

    What do you think?

    I'm sorry Tuesdays are upsetting for you! Big hug and in the New Year hopefully you will go back to just a day each week.

    Big hug! 🤗💗🐕👍💌

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    24 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi dear Grandy,

    All the best for Friday. When you arrive at the hospital, if you are too stressed out, could you ask for some kind of calming medication?

    Do you also have some strategies or procedures that help you to calm down? I know we are limited with what we can take into hospital, having some plans in place might help.

    Wishing you well with this. Sending you kind thoughts cheers from Dools

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    24 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy

    I'm sure you will be fine on Friday, they will take good care of you at the hospital and I'm sure you will feel much better with the abscess cleared away. I understand you're not looking forward to it. Can someone take you to the hospital and back home?

    Have a couple of easy meals ready for when you get back in case you're a bit sore.

    Hugs! 💕🐾🐾👍🙂🌻🌳🍀

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    24 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Dear bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩 hi all ☺

    Good on you sticking it out for a bit.

    Sweety I don't know that your brain doesn't think logically it's more I think that sides been downed so much over the yrs. You're hearing good reason I think it's for us to allow that to be how we go.

    I too am sorry hearing Tuesdays are upsetting you so much poor lovely soul 🤗 Keep in mind sweety you're doing your best which is why they chose you I'd say because clearly you have excellent work ethics.

    Ahh darlin Friday will be good to be free of that nasty absess. You poor love doesn't sound very good at all. Hoping it'll be a quick recovery. No doubt be easier sleeping with that brute a gonner eh ☺

    Keep going beautiful you're an inspiration and friend to so many people ⚘

    Always always deep love care and constant 🗯 dear friend 🤗🌞💗👀👩‍❤️‍👩💜🌈☄

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    24 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hello Grandy,

    Oh lass Tuesdays sound so very hard for you... though I think it is better that you are letting all the stress out with your tears rather than bottling it up...

    You are being so strong trying to stay through to Christmas... but if you need to cut back to one day to manage that is ok lass...

    It's good to hear that you will finally be rid of that yucky abscess... at least with so little notice it is less time for you to worry about it... I hope you will have your support worker (or her stand in) to drive you & be there.

    Huggily hugs

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    Hi Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, Dools, Paws, Hanna and readers...🤗..

    Well Friday came around quickly...I need to leave home around 6am tomorrow to be at the hospital for check in at 7am tomorrow....My support isn’t able to take me tomorrow, because it’s too early....Betty volunteered to take me to the hospital tomorrow and then take me home....

    I will be hungry after surgery as I’m not allowed no food or drinks unless they are clear with no sugar...I want to buy lunch for Betty tomorrow for her kindness in caring for me..Not sure yet where we will go....I really don’t know this bigger town at all, so it will her choice where we eat our lunch...

    Dools...I have several fidget toys I keep in my bag and I use them in waiting rooms or times of stress..If I don’t have something in my hands, then my poor arms are the recipient of my stress...

    Hiya..bbff... 💭 of you with deep love 💖 and hoping your okay..🧸🤗🕊🦄👼..

    Thank you all for your beautiful care and well wishes for tomorrow....You guys are super special to me..💜🦋🦄🧸🕊...Hugs and love to you all..

    Grandy..

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    25 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy

    Wishing you all the best for tomorrow, I'm sure you it will all go well. Enjoy lunch afterwards with your friend!

    Big hugs! 🙂💗🍀🐕👍

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    25 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hey sweety bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩 and all ☺

    Always you're on my mind sweetyheart 🤗 with deep love and care dear friend.

    Wow Friday sure has boomed along phooey.

    You're sweet taking Betty to lunch I'm sure that'll be lovely you two having a nice time out. Hope you enjoy your meal.

    Be so nice when that heals which hopefully won't be long geez you'd always be aware of it I imagine.

    So glad it's going to be sorted ☺

    I'm good thank you beautiful friend.

    Truth hun you're always in my 🗯. Love you so so much darlin. PubAok my sss yAdimh pubAok yadimh awyis 👩‍❤️‍👩 lysvm

    You mean the world sweety love 🤝👀💗🌈☄⚘😙

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    26 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hello Grandy,

    How are you lass after your op yesterday?... I hope they have given you some pain relief meds & that you managed some sleep last night...

    You are so very lovely taking Betty to lunch...

    It sounds like you might be getting good weather for staying snuggled up today... do rest up lass...

    Sending you a gentle hug

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    26 November 2021 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hello Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, Paws, and everyone...🤗..

    We nearly didn’t get to the hospital today due to the road in to my town flooding....I ended up taking Betty for Chinese...it was yummy....

    I had no idea I would be so sore...only otc pain relief doesn’t seem to be working....The cyst sack went deeper then the surgeon thought it did...My back and shoulders are feeling really ouchy 😢....Not sure how many stitches they put in...um feels like they unattached my back and sewed it back on 😂😂😂😂..

    Sleep sounds good to me and my body right now...so that’s what I’m going to do after I have a cuppa tea....(Self Care)..

    Love and hugs to everyone.....Speak tomorrow...

    Grandy...

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    26 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Tip toe-ing through to your nice warm beddy byes precious darling. Ahh looky she's fast asleep after a massive day poor love.

    Oh good she drunk her nice hot cuppa tea 🍷 with all those nice healing nutrients 🍫🍨🍹 and must've felt all that warmth and love from her bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩 and her many beautiful friends & family here and rl that love her dearly.

    Shhh Ebony and Kya that's the way lovelies I'm just vewwy gently tucking our beautiful dear lady in.

    So glad you enjoyed the Chinese yikes and made it to hospital. Bit crook just otc geez. Shakes head. Pfftt.

    Beautiful calm happy dreams our treasure.

    Always the deepest love dear friend 🤗👩‍❤️‍👩💜🌈☄🌞🍨🌞😚

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    28 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hey beautiful lady 🌞

    Dear bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩 I imagine you'd still be very sore you poor darling. Not expecting replies honey just rest up and heal sweet friend.

    Just want you to know you're in my thoughts with the deepest love and care 🤗 very gentle hug sweetyheart.

    Leaving a Coffee frappe in the fridge and a lavender candle burning gently with Reo...umm...🤔... uh oh stuck on his name well he's playing the pan flute in the background just for you darlin Grandy.

    PuAbok lysvm yAdimh honeyheart 🤝👩‍❤️‍👩💜🍨😴🌈☺⚘

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    29 November 2021 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, and everyone....🤗..

    Thank you so much for your care...

    Its not too sore, anymore.....except when I walk or use my arms or move my head....and also It feels like I have ants under the bandage having a big disco dance...the itch is so incredibly annoying..just doesn’t stop....

    Mrs nsc changed the dressing yesterday and I asked how many stitches....she said 13 of them covering a 3” area....and a lot of swelling around that area....

    I might ring the nurse at my Drs office to see if I can book in this afternoon for her to check it and change the bandages....That is if these ants don’t stop disco dancing on it 😂....

    Deep love Dear Aunty bbff...💚🧸🤗🦋🕊...with some soft 🧸🤗..

    My love, and hugs everyone..💜🤗

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy..

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    29 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    💃Hellooo my gorgeous bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩 and everyone ☺

    Couldn't be bothered running so skipping in.

    So good hearing it's easing but still sounds ouchy hun. Love your descriptions ahh darlin that'd drive ya nuts eh. Tell them the parties over! Good plan seeing the nurse. Poor thing sounds a lot to have been going through. You're tough bbff 🤗 Nice Mrs nsc has been helping. Hope she's calming somewhat.

    Been wondering how you're feeling mentally too darlinheart. I hope your mind and thoughts are being kinder. It's mighty trying to not go with down thinking isn't it. I know a lot of sads have been going on lately. Care so deeply about you Grandy love 💜🌈

    Please be very gentle with yourself sweet friend to many.

    You're always in my 🗯 with so much love dear lady 😙👩‍❤️‍👩💜🍨🌞🤝

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    29 November 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hello Grandy,

    Wow 13 stitches is a lot... sorry but I did chuckle at your description of an ant disco on your back... truthfully though that must be very irritating for you poor thing... it is good to hear Mrs nsc has been helping you with changing the dressing... getting the nurse to do a change & just check it out sounds like a good idea...

    Do take things easy lass & rest up as much as you can... I hope your furs are behaving themselves & giving you lots of snuggly support...

    Gentlest of hugs

    Paws

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    3 December 2021 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, Paws and everyone...🤗.

    Just a quick update....

    Thank you for your posts...The ants are slowly getting tired from the disco..not sure what’s worse the bruising from the surgery or the ants dance afterwards.😂😂..still hard to sleep...everytime I turn around I’m woken up by the pain I still have their.....

    Mrs nsc changed the dressing again this afternoon and noticed that it’s slightly infected...I see my Dr. on Tuesday and hopefully get the stitches out as well...

    I will be back sooner rather then later...not really up to talking just now....Mentally I’m okay but my brain isn’t working properly tonight on me...for anyone else it’s okay...

    4eva much love bbff...💚🌹🤗🧸..with 🐻 🤗..

    Love and hugs everyone....💜🤗🌹..

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy..

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    4 December 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi my sweety bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩 and everyone ☺

    Thanks darlin for that update you're so good at wording and keeping in touch I need to take not just one but severaL notes from your book. Now I say that it doesn't sound right 😆

    Nasty stuff that stinkin abscess sweet I truly hope it's on it's way to healing quicker now. The ants 😆 (not laughing at you...never beautiful... just adore how you describe so well ) tiring could be a good sign. When skin itches after trauma I think is the beginning to it healing.

    Good catch Mrs nsc spotting infection. That too when dealt with should ease pain too. Roll on Tuesday. Geez few stitches Grandz you poor love and as well that hopefully will ease the discomfort too.

    So good hearing you're ok mentally. Yes totally can relate to being ok upstairs for others but not ourselves.

    Oh Grandy you're always with the deepest love I think I've ever had for a dear bbff in my 🗯 so often daily that'll never change. Having you as such an amazing bbff gives SO much light. God I wish we could be in rl 😢 I reckon that's amongst the biggest downs I have. Love and care so much Grandy 🤗💏💜🌈✨

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  29. Hanna3
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    4 December 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy and Deebi and everyone

    I hope you get something to help that ulcer on Tuesday it sounds uncomfortable!

    It was terribly hot here yesterday but better today. Sam's had a big swim in the river and we have to go to big town on Monday to get him clipped.

    Had to vote at local elections today.

    Good luck with the thousand piece jigsaw, I've never tried one with that many pieces!!!

    Hugs 🙂👍🐕💝

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  30. Ggrand
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    5 December 2021 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, Hanna, Paws and readers...🤗

    Thank you for your posts....

    My back feels a lot better today...I left the stitches uncovered for a few hours yesterday and I think the infected part is drying up..and those pesky ants have run away....😁...

    I don’t like Mondays or Tuesdays in the shop...and feel very sad that I can’t do the sorting outback...then again their are now 3 girls sorting out back, which should be enough to get things done...well you would think it is...but nope more of a gossip group outback now, my support worker told me that I’m not responsible if they gossip instead of working...I am trying hard to learn that.....but it’s so hard fighting that silly trip that guilt puts me on...guilt for leaving most of the days work for the other girls on the following day...guilt for not having a clean place for the next days girls to work in....it goes on and on...but I’m trying to accept that I cannot do everything....But the blame for the state of the place comes back to me...and then I feel inadequate for my job....😢...I’m trying hard to get over these feelings....

    By Thursday I’m feeling better about myself, then along comes Sunday and anxiety sets in once again....

    My brother rang me to tell me he is not coming down to visit me again yet...he is heading up to the top of Qld..to check out the houses their...as he has sold his house and wants to move...Upsetting that he is going to moved so far away...Maybe I’m being a bit greedy by hoping he doesn’t find anything he likes their...I have offered him to stay at my home until he finds something he likes around here....It’s his choice to make the choice for his happiness...I am not going to persuade him at all...He needs to have no regrets...

    Anyway..I mowed yesterday...(again) because we are expecting rain for the next week...I hope the road into my closest big town doesn’t flood again...I have only a small car and it can’t swim 😂...maybe I should buy some big floaties and attach then to the sides of it😁..so it can stay afloat..

    Today is blowing a gale of cold winds..brrr..good weather to do some de cluttering and a bit of cleaning 🧹

    I hope your all doing okay and have some light in your day today...

    Hey bbff...I will pop over yours later to see how you’re traveling 🧳..Big sisterly love, care and cuddles dearest friend.,💚🌹🦋🧸🤗..

    My love, care and hugs to everyone of you awesomely beautiful people..💜🦋🤗..

    oh I have several 🧹 if anyone wants to help me.

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy...

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