OMG Blue! Pardon my focus being straight on to your tax return, wiping out some bills!
Possibly being able to drop another day!
omg, I'm so excited for you... MARVELLOUS news.
The relief is tangible. lol. Phew.
Hey Croix and anyone reading too!
I began writing a post dealing with the infidelity tooing and froing but deleted it. I'll say a few things further down.
I won't get into another divergent tangent on your thread too Blue!
IDK how LONG it will take me to recover from the stuff on mine.
I am SO hearing you about the lock down mad ness!
EXACTLY the same things are happening at our work with impossible demands on my time.
Impossible every thing.
I've had to be on site, and some NEVER have to, not bec of illness either. GRRRR.
ALL the affirmations of "I'm grateful I have a job... " etc etc are not cutting it atm.
Re: the cheating garbage.... NO WAY IN hell would I ever have sympathy for an affair partner lol!!
Cheeses! Where on earth would that thought even come from?
That's EXACTLY what Narcs feed off of.
Narcs are definitely one extremely selfish group of ppl who commit adultery. Nope no way Jose!
For me FOR YOU, this is nothing about the cheater or the affair partner.
There are multiple sites to help you work out THEIR MH disorders.
This is about YOU Blue.
YOUR recovery from infidelity.
No one else.
Because YOU are important.
You are deserving of a loving STABLE relationship with a beautiful human.
I AM SO GLAD HE'S THERE with you right now.
All the feelings that come in right now for you ARE real.
They have a direct line BACK to that offender.... then precursors to the parent / child stuff.
But no way if someone came in and obliterated someone's home, threatened their ability to work, took their relationship away entirely and left.... would that person be "okay with that".
LM IS a different person thank God lol but it is STILL an intimate relationship you have with him.
So there's the thing.
Now you're engaged to be married, this can bring another wave of doubt, questioning, intrusive thoughts... just stuff from your past. Not bec of LM.
You aren't denying yourself marital bliss (lol) and you're showing resilience and courage in taking this step.
The progress is seemingly apparent.
Is this how you feel?
How are you feeling?