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Forums / Long term support over the journey / I Choose To Survive (Battling anxiety, depression & avpd)

Topic: I Choose To Survive (Battling anxiety, depression & avpd)

  1. Emmy.
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    20 July 2018

    Thought:

    If you truly loved someone wouldn’t you walk away so that they didn’t have to deal with your demons also. What would be harder for the one you love. To be left alone or to have to fight the battle also.

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  2. Music_Freak
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    20 July 2018 in reply to Emmy.

    No need to rush and visit threads Emmy. Visit one a day or something if you so desire, if not, don't :)

    **Maybe the person who loves you, warts and all, is more than willing to fight the battle alongside you**

  3. Chloe_M
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    20 July 2018 in reply to Emmy.

    Hi Emmy

    its great to see you again

    as starts said don't rush, don't feel the need to go around to everyone all at once

    i haven't been a round much either, and am just starting to get back into routine

    the details are on my thread, but don't feel the need to visit, only in your own time if you want

    xx take care

    Chloe

  4. Chloe_M
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    20 July 2018 in reply to Music_Freak

    Ahhh sorry MF I accidentally wrote "starts" instead of you 😬😬 I was thinking about something starts said and it came out!!

    How have you been?

    Emmy

    think about this

    the ones who truly love you and who you truly love may get tired of dealing with your problems. Especially if they have their own. But during the darkest of times is when our strength is shown and character is built. I saw this quote once "if you love someone, you have to be prepared to set them free"l. I agree and disagree with this quote. I think that if you truly love someone, you have to be prepared to fight for them. And no matter what happens, even if you do set them free, they always come back.

    i learnt this just this week. Do not give up hope on whatever is bothering you (sorry I haven't had time to go back and read the previous posts, but I will)

    chloe

  5. Emmy.
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    4 April 2019

    Not sure if anyone will see this message as I’ve not been on here in forever.

    Has anyone had experience with EMDR that can chat with me?

    Thanks xx

  6. Music_Freak
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    4 April 2019 in reply to Emmy.
    I don't know much about EMDR, and have nothing to offer to help you Emmy, but just wanted to say how good it is to see you here :)
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  7. Ggrand
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    6 April 2019 in reply to Emmy.

    Hello Emmy,

    Its so good to see you back here...Not good if your struggling with your mh..it’s just nice and comforting when someone comes back after being gone for a while and we know that they are still struggling, but doing okay..

    Im sorry hun I don’t know anything about EMDR... There is a thread here called EDMR..it’s not old of a thread...Maybe if you search it then ask on their someone knowing about it, may answer you...

    Good luck dearest Emmy, I really hope you are feeling better then okay,

    Hugs and love dear Emmy..💜🤗.

    Grandy....

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  8. Emmy.
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    7 April 2019 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Narelle & Grandy,

    Thanks for your messages!

    Yeah still struggling with life but do feel I’m in a bit of a better place thanks to my psychiatrist - he has honestly been a godsend. He’s taught me so much and the one of biggest things he keeps trying to remind me is that it’s ok to be me and to communicate what I need to others. Even though he’s a psychiatrist he isn’t about labels or you should be like this or like that but getting you to a point where you can function. Well this is at least how he treats my mental health. I feel like I’m getting somewhere. I recently stayed on my own for a week while my husband went to overseas and I was ok.

    The new psychologist I’m seeing has a bit of a different approach though. My psychiatrist recommended I see a new psychologist to start DBT therapy for my self harm behaviours. But instead the psychologist did some EMDR last week and I felt like I wasn’t ready for it. It took so much out of me and left me feeling very depressed. I remember my previous psychologist made me to a quiz and she and my psychiatrist decided that EMDR wasn’t suitable as I disassociate too much.

    Feeling a bit confused by all that so I’ve come on here for some advice. Sometimes I felt like I was just staring at his hands going back and forth rather than being back in the memory.

    Anyway I’m going on for too long as usual lol.

    Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend. The weather where I am is 31 today... sunny and warm.

  9. Music_Freak
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    8 April 2019 in reply to Emmy.

    Oh Emmy, why is life so complicated for us/some...I wish I could help, but I struggle with my own life, and don't want to hijack your thread. Maybe you can raise your concerns about EMDR at your next sessions?

    But in saying that (or not much at all), I was so happy to read you spend an entire week on your own and managed ok - that's fantastic - go you!!

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  10. Emmy.
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    12 August 2019

    Feeling really flat and don’t know where to turn.

    Had to go to my GP today for my review and he was reading a letter from my psychologist and saw that he’d mentioned my complex PTSD (something he’s never told me I have). Why would that be. What even is complex PTSD? I feel like it’s just another thing to add to my list; generalised anxiety disorder, major depressive disorder, avoidant personality disorder, highly sensitive person and now this complex PTSD. Don’t know where to turn and I’m feeling confused and lost. Any advice / help appreciated.

  11. Music_Freak
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    13 August 2019 in reply to Emmy.

    Oh Emmy...

    Please try to not focus on the “list” of things you perceive are “wrong” with you. EVERYBODY has a list of things like that, mental illness or not. Us humans are complex creatures. When you come back here, please write a list of good things about yourself. I'd love to read it :) I know you love real estate and have talked about that. I may even start a thread about that shortly, to give you somewhere to post. I will certainly need advice down the line. It's clearly an interest...what else is there??

    Maybe your doctor not mentioning it is a simple oversight. You are more than the diagnosis, remember...

  12. Emmy.
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    13 August 2019 in reply to Music_Freak

    Thanks Narelle for your message. That’s true about not being your diagnosis, and this letter was from my psychologist. And I know he and my psychiatrist communicate together and my psychiatrist doesn’t like “labelling” - he’s told me once or twice what I have but then has never referred to it again. He tells me I am what I am. I should remember that.

    I hate who I am so I’d find it hard to list good things about myself. But my doctor said to be yesterday that I have a very gentle and soft nature - so perhaps that’s something even if I don’t see it.

    How are you doing Narelle? So I don’t come on here very often anymore.

  13. Emmy.
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    13 August 2019 in reply to Music_Freak
    *sorry I don’t come on here very often anymore
  14. Peter 2050
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    25 January 2020 in reply to Emmy.
    Hi Emmy

    Such an amazing poem. It could have been written about me. I have had AvPD all my adult life (I'm now 60) although I only got around to seeing a psychologist last year. I guess it was due to the 'Real Men Don't Cry' syndrome that it took me so long to get a diagnosis.

    Thanks so much for sharing.

    Cheers

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