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Forums / PTSD & Trauma / Ptsd . Domestic violence. . Chronic physical pain and more

Topic: Ptsd . Domestic violence. . Chronic physical pain and more

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  1. Flower Earth angel
    Flower Earth angel avatar
    8 posts
    7 February 2019

    Hi IM new And trying to tackle all of the above,

    Ptsd . Domestic violence. . Chronic physical pain and ear and sound damage . Financial grief, isolation, anxiety . Unemployment Low self worth.

    I’m not sure what to do.

    i have


    gamlbing cousnellor



    im getting nowhere for years,

    i want someone to manage my money but I am very anxious about the idea as o feel I will eventually go back and gamble.

    i don’t know if shud find an addictiontherapist,

    im severely overwhelmed .

    i use 1800redpect but as I said I am getting nowhere for 4 years.


    i ve been in Narcissitc abuse . I haven only close girlfriend but joking a womengroup weekly enact Wednesday ,

    my life is doomed I’m 35 and am not sure how I will meet someone have kids my health and hormones are ruined.

    my parents wont let me get a kitten which would help

    im tired of everything I take anti depressants been a few months not helping,

    does anyone know good mindfulness they can recommend or anything.




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  2. Sophie_M
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    7 February 2019 in reply to Flower Earth angel
    Hi Flower Earth angel,

    We are very grateful that you have reached out to the online community for support, and are sorry that you are tackling so much at the moment and feel like you are getting nowhere.

    Please know that we take reports of abuse seriously and are concerned about your wellbeing.

    If you are in immediate danger, please call 000.

    If you are not in immediate danger, White Ribbon Australia provides a list of domestic violence hotlines ( which we would encourage you to take a look at. There is also a link to local services and programs in your local area. We’d urge you to continue to reach out for support.

    Keep reaching out and checking in with us to let us know how you are going, when you feel up to it.

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  3. Croix
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    7 February 2019 in reply to Flower Earth angel

    Dear Flower Earth Angel~

    I'd like to join Sophie_M in welcoming you back here to the Forum. I've read of your troubles over the last couple of years and know life has not been fair. I'm very sorry to read your about your ear damage, and pain, did you end up getting the matter of your tooth sorted out? I do hope so.

    Wanting to meet someone, have kids and life a life with support and love is something many of us realy want. Also of course the chance to support that other person ourselves too -a very special feeling. 35 is a good age in a lot of ways, life experience lends wisdom and children are still very much a possibility.

    I know you have had difficulties with medical professionals, and perhaps the idea of keeping on seeking the right one can be pretty daunting, especially repeating everything you have said before all over again. From my own experience I can say it is worth the effort, no matter how hopeless it can seem. I went from a real mess to someone who has a pretty good life with family, accomplishment and enjoyment.

    To stop endless repetition perhaps writing everything down first and sharing the paper might help?

    Medications were not right to start with and it took time and perseverance to find the right ones. Help is sometimes completely necessary, not only for your illnesses but also with the gambling. Trying on your own is discouraging and not always successful.

    Can I suggest you give our 24/7 Help Line a ring on 1300 22 4636 and discuss what is available in your area.

    With mindfulness I use a program on my smartphone. It is called Smiling Mind and is free. It took me a little practice but I have ended up relying upon it to take my mind way from harmful thoughts and also to relieve stress. Even the short 2 minute introductory session can make a big difference. I've used it tons of times.

    You said before you were living with your parents, may I ask how you get on with them?


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  4. smallwolf
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    8 February 2019 in reply to Flower Earth angel

    Hi flower,

    Just a short post (I am on phone and typing with one finger). I saw your post and wanted you to know that I am listening.

    Thereare some things I want to say, but need to be at my computer.

    But in relation to your question there are two things...

    Croix mentioned smiling mind, and I will mention virtual hope box and relax melodies. There are others I tried. See what works best for you.

    The other thing I have are prayer beads. Can use in conjunction with an app or not. The difference is that beads are something that you can see, feel, touch, etc. So they get my focus.

    Please come back to chat. You will be supported by the people here.


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  5. Flower Earth angel
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    8 posts
    11 February 2019 in reply to Croix
    Thanks. no the dental just starting slowly im a mess. ear same and ptsd.. Parents bullying me. and yelling coz i want to work for myseld. or study.. They dont know of the abuse i have had. im viewing some properties for womens housing soon. Im in bad state. i hate having this situation and having to hide from family what i went through coz i feel ashamed. anyway i guess this is my destiny.
  6. Jay C
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    17 posts
    13 February 2019 in reply to Flower Earth angel

    Hi Flower Earth angel
    Im with you in almost everything except no physical pain and no friend. 37 m
    I also have ear and sound damage which is weird.. makes me wonder if it was inflicted on purpose,
    How did you get yours?

    I would be careful with pets around narcissists, they use them against you. Mine convinced me for a few years to keep medicating my dog with flea stuff in the flea season. She would get a skin problem from it, but through stress and emotional manipulation, my mum convinced me it was from the fleas. Which ended up me having to keep paying for her to go to the Vet. Financial abuse. Im glad i caught onto it. My dad also used to get them super excited to make them bark all the time and stress me out. No boundaries.
    Sick people that i still cant get away from.
    Raised codependantly and never been validated, seems hopeless i know.
    They've ruined my life
    I hope it gets better... but it cant while im around them.

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  7. Fiona2
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    1 posts
    21 February 2019 in reply to Flower Earth angel
    Hi I read your post and can relate to a lot of your worries.I try to meditate and watch a lot of u tube videos to give me a way of thinking to deal with my down times.Theres no quick fix as you know and I think the first step is to realise a lot of feelings you won' get rid of but have to learn to manage.many things seem to never go away we have to learn to manage those times when they take over.Some videos I look at daily are mooji,saghguru and the Dalai Lana.We have to be kind and compassionate to ourselves don' stress over bad days just accept them and be kind to yourself and know that it will pass.Do what it takes to switch off your mind from negativity like watch a DVD go for a walk eat some chocolate sit in the sun.Biggest thing is don' beat yourself up be kind to yourself and know you will overcome many things one step at a time there' no switch to flick just over time working on yourself you will be able to silence a lot of this.I wish you all the best in your journey and that' what life is some have more obstacles on the journey but it will put you in a better place when you overcome are being forced to walk a new path that will be better for you.put your trust in the universe.

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