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Topic: My dad is dying

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  1. MM Jack
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    2 May 2021

    And I'm in a different country. I have a toddler, and I'm on a casual contract for work so I have no paid leave. I can't afford to miss weeks of work and weeks of pay.

    It's upsetting that it feels like it comes down to money.

  2. geoff
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    2 May 2021 in reply to MM Jack

    Hello MM Jack, my thoughts are with you and feel the sorrow for the situation you are in as it's not a position anyone would want to be in.

    I'm definitely so sorry to hear about your father's condition and it certainly puts you in a very difficult situation, perhaps if I can make a couple of suggestions, and please these are only to try and help you in any way possible.

    Are you able to contact him via skype, zoom or duo and these are the only ways that are free to talk and view each other, so I'm not promoting anything that requires any money at all and can be done via computer or mobile phone.

    Compassionate and bereavement leave is a possibility, and you may be able to get a credit card to pay for the trip, I know it puts you in a difficult situation as you still have bills to pay, but try and contact him through family/friends via one of these media contacts, at least you can talk with him, I'm sure he will understand what position you're in.

    If I was the father in your position I would certainly understand how difficult it may be to travel o/s to visit me, and I mean no harm in saying this.

    I hope this may help you, but very sorry for you to be in this position.

    My best.

    Geoff.

  3. missep123
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    2 May 2021 in reply to MM Jack

    Hi MM Jack,

    I'm so sorry to hear that you have been going through this.

    I really wish I knew what to say to comfort you but I wanted to respond to your thread nevertheless to show support.

    We are here for you

  4. white knight
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    2 May 2021 in reply to missep123

    Hi MM Jack

    I'm sorry, I join with others here hoping you'll be ok.

    MMJACKS DAD

    You might not be with him

    And you couldn't have gone

    But just like his slippers by his bed

    He will never be alone

    For he'll remember you as a child

    He'll be well aware

    In his shadow in the garden

    For the day to care

    His will always be inside you

    Wear him like a medal proud

    Tell the world of his love

    And tell everyone out loud

    Just like his slippers beside his bed

    You'll never be out done

    You'll always be in his shadow

    You'll always be as one...

    TonyWK

  5. MM Jack
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    3 May 2021 in reply to white knight
    Thank you, this is beautiful
    1 person found this helpful
  6. missep123
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    12 May 2021 in reply to white knight

    That is beautiful TonyWK

    We are here for you MM Jack

    1 person found this helpful

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