Hi Mona Marie
Welcome to the bb forum.
I read your post and deeply felt your heartbreak, I’m so sorry about the situation that has developed between you and your son.
You sound like an amazing, kind and loving mum who certainly does not deserve to be treated so poorly. You are very brave to have taken action to protect yourself. I can’t even begin to understand how difficult that must have been for you.
I feel for your son, too. I’m sure he’s not the man he wants to be right now and the hardships he’s experiencing are really tough. Such a sad time for him.
A family member of mine had the same sort of complex issues—pot addiction triggering paranoia coupled with alcoholism, divorce, a new and highly undesirable partner leading them to commit crime. The family did everything possible to help.
Money, the booking of countless psychologist appointments that were never attended and multiple offers to organise rehab. It was all rebuffed.
It took some 25 years but he eventually clawed back his life. He’s now re-married, has a child and full time employment.
I guess what I’m saying is there’s always hope for your son. But for now, you need to live your best life. I hope with support that you will be able to do this.
I am a parent of two adult children but have never been in your situation. I’m posting to let you know that you’ve been heard and that someone cares and wants to support you.
My post will also push yours “up to the top”, where I’m hoping someone who has walked in your shoes will read it and respond.
Kind thoughts to you