Thanks for writing. I first put my post in the relationships section and it got moved. I don't entirely agree with them doing that as it was primarily about the relationship, but I guess someone just saw the trans bit. Re brother, well, I don't think she bothers him as much as she does me. He once said when she got started on the phone he'd just mutter at the appropriate moment and not really listen to it! We don't talk much at all, only a few emails but I did come out to him, I thought it would make things a lot less painful when we do actually need to pack up M's things. It will go to a cutoff between M and me, I think; it's got harder and harder to have a conversation with her, with her continuing to try to correct me and contradict me whether or not she knows what she's talking about. It feels like she doesn't even regard me as an adult; it can be something quite ordinary but because it's me, she has to *instruct.* Do I have to put up with this because she's elderly and has pushed various others away? I don't know.