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  1. Nippy
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    21 July 2019

    I have a bad problem with alcohol dependence, I am so desperate to stop I will try anything. I have endured much emotional pain in my life. During the last 3 months things have gotten considerably worse as I have developed chronic neck and back pain. I find the alcohol helps with sleep and coping; however the next morning its not so good so off I go again as soon as I finish work its a bottle of wine. I am hoping to find people with positive views to assist me in my recovery and help to keep me there. I have been drinking for a long time and I know its going to take my undivided attention and willingness to try my best to recover. I look forward to hearing from people and thankyou in advance.

    Lee

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  2. geoff
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    23 July 2019 in reply to Nippy

    Hi Lee, and a warm welcome to the forums.

    I understand what you are having to go through and feel very sorry that you have to cope with this, but you aren't alone with this problem.

    Can I please get back to you very shortly, but this will put your thread back on page.

    I will reply this morning.

    Take care.

    Geoff.

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    23 July 2019 in reply to Nippy

    Hi Lee, the first point which you have realised is that there is a problem, and I'm sorry that you do have neck and back pain because people use alcohol for many different reasons, as I used it when I was depressed and you to cope as well as to sleep.

    There is a difference between someone who drinks alcohol socially, compared to those who are addicted to it, the former can control it, while the latter needs it, and I was one of these while in depression.

    There is some particular type of medication which your doctor can prescribe to you, this will help you with your cravings and stops any buzz you get from alcohol, however, if you do decide to drink while taking this medication the effects from it will still happen.

    There is more to this, so if you could get back to us, I'd really like to talk with you.

    Take care.

    Geoff.

  4. Nippy
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    4 August 2019 in reply to geoff

    I would really like to talk to you to Geoff its time. You are correct there is much, much more to this. So a little about me to start, My whole life has been an emotional rollercoaster and many times I have come to realize I am the root cause. I tend to have the habit of putting myself in situations that deep down I know are not right for me. I seem to always put others before myself and then fall to pieces with the consequences of my own actions. Now I live alone with my beloved puppy (Jax) he is the center of my world. I dont make friends anymore, i am to afraid to so it gets a little lonely. Unfortunately the biggest down fall I have had is with my own sister who pretty much tore me to shreds (a long story). All i want is for someone to talk to, someone who will be honest with me, give me all the constructive criticism you need to, help me to learn to help myself.

    Cheers

    Lee

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    4 August 2019 in reply to Nippy

    Hi Lee, I'm so sorry I haven't got to you much earlier, but I've had computer problems since early this morning, but I will definitely get back to you very early in the morning, as I get up at about 1.00 am.

    You're loved puppy Jax is always something you can cuddle and show your affection to, just as I do with my puppie, she is 8 years old but is always someone I can talk to.

    Take care.

    Geoff.

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    5 August 2019 in reply to Nippy

    Good Morning Nippy, sometimes we fall into situations that we don't want to be in, it's certainly happened to me and then we have to try and find some way we can get the help we need and sometimes that's not easy.

    When you think as though you are the root cause leads you to negative thoughts and this is where you need to realise that it may not necessarily be caused by you, but by something else.

    If you put others before yourself, then you may miss out on important information about who you are as a person and stall the way you could improve yourself, and this is possible because I've been down there so many times but have come back up to see the light once again.

    I'd like to hear about what happened with your sister, in your own time, but you need to set boundaries where you feel comfortable and when you need assistance.

    The thought of having a bottle of wine after work is a coping mechanism, the way you want to feel relieved, to try and be relaxed, but if you aren't feeling the best then you will only build on your thoughts, that's the time to talk to someone.

    I really hope to hear back from you.

    Best wishes.

    Geoff.

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  7. Nippy
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    13 August 2019 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff

    What a lovely reply thank you. this week I have made an appointment with a psychiatrist to address my inner thoughts. I have never really dealt with what my sister had done to me. Being me I ran with only the clothes on my back and my Jax, he is truly the center of my world. Crystal Brook to Cairns in three and a half days, 3.863 kms. Got to Cairns immediately found a job and started again (had to have a home for Jax), first and formost. Noting I could afford wenr ti Innisfail got a unit ans an assistant managers job (full time). I hated it my Jax was all alone, however this was our way back and unfortunately money does matter.....With in 12 months I made made a new home a new life, but full time work was killing me its was very physical and I'm 55. Plus my dog was so lonely

    geoff said:

    Good Morning Nippy, sometimes we fall into situations that we don't want to be in, it's certainly happened to me and then we have to try and find some way we can get the help we need and sometimes that's not easy.

    When you think as though you are the root cause leads you to negative thoughts and this is where you need to realise that it may not necessarily be caused by you, but by something else.

    If you put others before yourself, then you may miss out on important information about who you are as a person and stall the way you could improve yourself, and this is possible because I've been down there so many times but have come back up to see the light once again.

    I'd like to hear about what happened with your sister, in your own time, but you need to set boundaries where you feel comfortable and when you need assistance.

    The thought of having a bottle of wine after work is a coping mechanism, the way you want to feel relieved, to try and be relaxed, but if you aren't feeling the best then you will only build on your thoughts, that's the time to talk to someone.

    I really hope to hear back from you.

    Best wishes.

    Geoff.

  8. Nippy
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    13 August 2019 in reply to geoff
    geoff let me know if you got the first part of the post dont know what happened. And let me know if you want to know the ending WHOOO
  9. Nippy
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    13 August 2019 in reply to Nippy
    Are you a Councillor for this site; or a wise owl LOL
  10. geoff
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    14 August 2019 in reply to Nippy

    Hello Nippy, thanks for your lovely reply, and yes I'd really like to know the ending if possible.

    No, I'm not a counsellor, I've just been around the traps several times, and thank you.

    Look forward to hearing back from you.

    Geoff.

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