A very warm welcome to the forums..
I am so sorry that your daughter was pushed by her playmate and has broken her elbow..
Its hard for any mother to see their child being injured..and yes we do blame ourselves and start questioning ourselves about the accident...The problem is that we cannot be watching them every second of the day...Please try to be gentle on yourself..It wasn’t your fault that your daughter got hurt...
Do you know if this child deliberately pushed your daughter to cause her harm, or was it caused accidentally?..Children can get very ruff in play sometimes and accidents sometimes just happen whether we’re their or not..
I remember one of my sons was annoying me because I told him I would take him out to the pools that day... I told him to go outside and play on his bike until I was ready to take him....Not 10 minutes later he was crying in the back yard for me to come out...When I did his finger was caught in the chain...I released it and took him to the DR...he received some stitches...I had felt so guilty about that, it played on my mind for weeks, and never again I told him to play on his bike..he did so when he wanted to...My son healed, eventually my guilt disappeared...
Things happen to our children that we have no control over..I hope your daughter heals quickly and that you also begin to realise..that no matter how much we care and try to protect our children..we can’t be with them all the time..
Please Dear Tamu, try not to blame yourself..and be gentle on yourself..you didn’t let your daughter down..nor let yourself down..You’re a very loving, kind and caring mother..
Sending you my kindest thoughts with care.