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Topic: Staying/Getting/Doing Well – Moving goalposts or fixed target?

  1. Hanna3
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    15 January 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws,

    Sam has to sleep a lot more now and the hot weather we're in for over the next few days is really hard. I understand Woofa just needs to rest more!

    I'm sorry you're feeling blah, these times don't help. If you google pandemic fatigue there are so many people having difficulty doing anything like their usual routine and being forgetful, irritable and sleeping problems seem to be very common.

    I wonder if sometimes we have to allow ourselves to be a bit "off" and not expect too much of ourselves and if it goes on too long then we need to make ourselves do something.

    This morning turned suddenly cold and rained hard so no outdoor Cafe but with the virus you can't go to an indoor Cafe safely and can't shop, even the library is almost empty, so the day becomes dreary, and now the sun is blazing and it's 30 degrees, you can't plan the day!

    So I give myself permission to have a day where I don't get much done and I try not to feel guilty about it... Not always easy to do!

    Can you watch a nice movie in the evening or read something happy or funny, I find this can help.

    We are in unsettling times and I think everyone is a bit "off" so maybe how you feel is pretty understandable!

    Big hug! 🤗💖🐕🐶💝

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    16 January 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws

    I may have mentioned at some point that Stormy used to be friends with two GD “sisters”. One reached bloody miracle age. She was lovely. Stormy enjoyed playing tug of war with her. The GD really didn’t need to exert much effort for it to be an even competition lol.

    Sending your lovely fellow a big smooch.

    Thinking of what you wrote, would a practical tool help perhaps? Have you heard of “taking your thoughts to court”? My friend told me about it. You can google and find a worksheet, if actually sitting down doing something practical might work better for you.

    Anyway, only a suggestion. Not easy to get off the hamster wheel…

    A pleasant 28 here today and I’m being fairly useless. Might start a new book :)

    Hugs!

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  3. Hanna3
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    16 January 2022 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy

    I've been useless here today too - it's been too hot to do much outdoors and I can't go indoors into aircon in the cafes because of the virus😯

    I think feeling apathetic is a sign of the times!. Hope you managed to get some reading done. Have you ever read Monkey Grip by Helen Garner?

    Pats to Stormy.

    I was looking forward to watching Djocovic play - oh rats!

    Take care of yourself over there 🙂🐶💖🏖️

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  4. Paw Prints
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    20 January 2022 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Katy, Hanna, Deebi, Grandy,

    Katy ( don't know how you survive without aircon given the temps you are getting over there... my old place didn't have aircon until the last few years before I moved... but at least I didn't get the days of unbelievably hot weather you are getting...

    I think Stormy is showing great wisdom not wanting to go for a walk... could you tempt her with a swim...

    I had to chuckle at you saying "A pleasant 28 here today".... I had to shove Woofa over to sit on the couch earlier as he was already in front of the fan here, well before it even reached 28.

    Oh I love the thought of Stormy playing with a GD... I used to love watching my previous Dane playing with smaller dogs... he would usually let them win if they played tug... Woofa was getting good at learning to tone his playing down to their level before he was attacked... I feel sad for him he misses out on that now.

    Today's achievements... I washed some of the mountain of mugs & glasses that have been building on my kitchen bench... my hands are playing up so I dropped & broke two... I filled the draining rack so I will wash more later (touch wood)..

    I have emptied & cleaned the bird bath & refilled it... the fairy wrens must have been watching as they started using it before I even made it in the door...

    One of my nieces has covid... so she is isolating in her spare room... her youngest is struggling with the fact he can't see mum or cuddle her... but he has given her his favourite cuddly toy to keep her company...

    My thoughts are with the people in Tonga & their friends/family who are unable to make contact... the footage of the eruption is frightening...

    Hugs to all

    Paws

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  5. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    22 January 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws

    How very lovely to have fairy wrens in the garden. They’re such a joy to watch ♥️

    I’ve just remembered that I must go scout for fallen passion fruit. It’s my vine’s first proper fruiting season and yesterday I found four. They were only wee but full and yummy. I’m sure you mentioned blackberry bushes - do they fruit? I think they’re my favourite of all, but so expensive to buy!

    How is your niece going? And your family member that was unwell? Hopefully both as comfortable as possible under the circumstances.

    Another warm day here and I’ve spent it with a fabulous book, yet again ignoring my dishes or anything else productive.

    Off I go to check my vine… Hugs x

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    23 January 2022 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hello Hanna, Katy, wave to everyone,

    Yes I love watching the fairy wrens use the birdbath... I placed it so it gets afternoon shade but I can still see it from my lounge... they are ferocious little birds though... if a lark or willy wagtail is using it & the fairy wrens want to use it they will chase the bigger birds off... I am wondering if I need to make another deeper one for the bigger birds like Kookaburras as they don't use this one at all.

    My area is under an extreme heat warning for the next few days (mid to high 30s) when I read it I thought of you Katy & how that would probably be a cool change for you after all the 40 deg days over your way.

    Hanna with the heat up your way are you managing to get out early (or in the evening) to the park with Sam... I think the two of you would go stir crazy if you have to stay home for a few days in a row...

    I'm wondering if I'm being overly concerned... I have a group of friends in the city... we usually catch up a few times a year... of course we haven't been with covid... but they have arranged a catch up in a few weeks... everyone except me has said yes to going... we do lunch at a pub & then spend the arvo there catching up... everyone is jabbed & our usual table is well away from other diners... but I don't feel comfortable with omicron everywhere to spend hours in a pub dining room... what do you all think... am I being silly not going or am I right to be wary.

    Yum passionfruit... I have bought a raspberry bush but it is still too small to fruit yet... there are wild blackberries growing along all the roadsides & in my neighbours paddock & I noticed I have a new one growing among some bushes in my front yard that I missed when I sprayed last year... if they fruit then the wildlife must eat it all as I've yet to see any ripe fruit on them... though the cows in next door's paddock is using one bushes long canes as a back scratcher...

    Hugs

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  7. Hanna3
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    23 January 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws,

    I am just about to have a late dinner I've been out this afternoon but just saw your post. Today's been very pleasant here and quite a cool breeze tonight but I think the rest of the week will be hot.

    Rosemary caught up this morning because her sister in another town in this area has died suddenly from a heart condition and she asked if I could check on her husband who is ill when she goes to the funeral which of course I'm happy to do. She's naturally very distressed.

    I'm not sure about the pub dinner! Is there an outside area where you could all sit? That would be preferable. It's a risk with Omicron isn't it.. If you'd had a booster I'd be happier. On the other hand it's such a shame to miss such a lovely catch up!

    Could you pick near a window/door, well ventilated position?

    I'd prefer to be outside if possible. Can you ask them if they can do this? It would be so nice to go along. What do you think?

    I guess life involves some risk in these times. I'm weighing up a similar problem with music lessons and haven't decided what to do yet. Not much help to you am I?!!! 🤔😕

    I've found people in the dog parks here to be very friendly, hooray! We've been chatting for ages, men and women and kids and our dogs! Very nice 🐶

    Good luck with your decision Paws, that's a tricky one. Over to you! I'm not sure what I'd do. Now I've had the booster I'd probably take one risk...

    Hugs, I have a happily exhausted dog passed out next to me!!! 🙂🐕💕

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  8. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    24 January 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws, Hanna, all 😊

    You’ve got our warm weather, and we’ve had a welcome cool change roll in. I’m glad of the reprieve. Stormy kept me awake the other night with her panting rocking the bed! I hope you guys manage to stay cool.

    I’d be cautious about the pub lunch too. It seems any length of time indoors without airflow is risky. As Hanna mentioned, I’d be inclined to look for an outdoor venue. I’m sure it wouldn’t be too difficult if that would suit everyone. It would be a shame to miss out again.

    Hugs x

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    26 January 2022 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hello Hanna, Grandy, wave to everyone,

    Well I've made up my mind & I won't be going to the catch-up... I've also said no to a catch-up at my sil's as well... not so much because of covid... more because my sleep is still topsy turvy & I don't think it would be wise or safe to try driving that far... plus Feb is usually hot here & I would worry about leaving Woofa... I would be gone roughly 12 hours & I couldn't shut him in for that long so he could have the cooling... but leaving the door open for him means he risks over heating & I risk another snake coming in. My sil has suggested a catch-up at my big town (where I go to the chemist) with my sister & I... I said yes... so she will organise a date that suits them & get back to me.

    My elderly relative has felt more like eating a little... which is wonderful news... she is still sleeping most of the time & even with her immediate family can only cope with brief visits when she is awake... I'm still hoping covid gives us all a break so I can visit her sometime soonish.

    Still horribly hot here... thunderstorms due later today & rain tomorrow... but the temperatures are still expected to stay in the 30s for the rest of the week... so there will be awful humidity to go with the heat.

    I wish I could list some achievements I've managed... or that I'm managing a healthy bedtime rather than going to bed with the dawn... I'm tired of fighting my thoughts all the time... I'm a grown adult... I should be able to say "I will do xyz" & then actually do it... I should be able to do the basics without even having to think about it...I'm the one responsible for my actions (or inactions) no one else can make my mind behave... why is it so hard???... It really feels like the last couple of yeas I've been going backwards... the only things I seem to have got better at are avoidance & cocooning... hiding away from reality.

    Huggily hugs & pats to all the lovely furs

    Paws

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    26 January 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hello Dear Paws...

    I think you’re doing the right thing by not attending the catch up...You’re mental and physical health is most important and traveling so far without proper sleep isn’t the best thing to do...I think even though you’re all vaccinated you still can catch the virus and with not knowing if the other patrons in the pub are vaccinated it would probably put a damper on the catch up as well as you would be worrying about your gorgeous Woofa being inside a hot home...

    Its Lovely that your sister is going to organise a catch up for you both later on....

    I can relate to your last paragraph so much...I uttered those words to my Dr. about being an adult and not being able to decide this or that...she told me that it’s not my fault, I have a illness that prevents me from doing so....hmm didn’t make me feel any better..it’s easy isn’t it Paws, to say tomorrow I’ll do the washing, or the kitchen or make that dog bed cover...(I’ve been wanting to make them for years)...then in the morning all our good intentions from the night before...disappear, who knows where and our motivation goes with it....

    I wish I had the answer for you Paws...and know how to keep our motivation alive and learn how to make simple decisions...Children seem more capable then I am at decision making sometimes....Do you think that determination needs to be apart of decision making?..

    Paws, Dear lady, you have come a long way since I’ve known you..it might feel at times like you are going backwards, we all do at times...but in reality we take many many more steps forwards...we stumble a bit, occasionally we fall...but you/we/us always get back up and start going forward again....and that’s the best we or anyone can do....

    Sending both you and Woofa a big hug with my love and care...🧸🤗💜.

    Grandy..

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  11. Hanna3
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    26 January 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws and everyone

    I wish I could type properly on a computer instead of trying to do it on this tiny phone!!! I think you've done the right thing and a catch up at your big town sounds much less stressful! Driving a long way in the heat and leaving Woofa alone when he's elderly doesn't sound good at all.

    I wonder how much the trouble with getting motivated to do housework is to do with nobody calling in? I suspect that's at least part of my problem. I've been decluttering one drawer at a time this afternoon sitting in the aircon in the lounge and carrying a drawer in from another room to declutter it in cool comfort with a trash bag ready. I have decluttered the bathroom and part of the bedroom so that's something. I wonder if you could try that?

    It's nice to see a tidy uncluttered medicine cabinet in the bathroom!

    Sam's been very tired so we're having a quiet day here and everything is closed anyway! It's hot this afternoon.

    Paws I've been reading a lovely book called The Orchard Thieves by Elizabeth Jolley, an old Australian author. It's narrated by the grandmother about her daughters and grandsons and I wonder if you would enjoy it? I'm sad to finish it!

    You are doing the best you can dear Paws. Don't be so hard on yourself. My friend G a while ago told me that I am my harshest critic, and I think that applies to you and Grandy too.

    Big hugs!

    🤗🐶🐾🐕💖

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    1 February 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hey our Pawsy 🐾 and lovelies too ☺

    Sounds like a wise choice passing on the reunion for now and a good compromise with your sister and sil coming to you. It would be a worry Woofa being alone in that heat. You're a good Mum you all are to your beautifuls

    How lovely hearing of your relative wanting to eat some more. Must be a goid relief hearing that Pawsy. Clearly you care very much it'd be hard not seeing them.

    Yip hearing you word for word on doing things. Stinkin motivations a very hard one isn't it.

    I think we tend to focus on what we haven't achieved more so than what we have. The nature of depression is to let us pretty much only think on negatives. Our jobs to create some light that opens our minds a bit making more room for more positive thoughts and memories. It's hard yakka eh ☺ pretty whacky really, we want to be happy and free of pain yet it's like another presence dictating our lives. Pfttt

    I reckon we can and will get there girls. It's a slog but worth the yards. Our m8nds are powerful we've gotta take the reins.

    Humiditys horrid it wipes us doesn't it. I don't like being smothered in heat blaghh some love it. Don't understand except maybe having that blanket around them.

    Hope there's some sun today there Pawsy that you can enjoy with dear Woofa.

    Take good care lovely one ☺🤗🐾🌞⚘

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    4 February 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Deebi, Hanna, Grandy, Katy, wave to everyone,

    Thankfully a cool change has swept through so we are humidity free.... Yay!!! Woofa is out on the back verandah in the cool... busily making up lost time chatting with the other dogs here about.

    Some small achievements today... I went & got my booster... I did the dishes... that's about it

    Not having a smart phone, I have read all the bumph the government puts out about how to get a copy of your vaccination status without one. They say you can ask your doctor to print one off for you... well not at my doctors... they didn't even know how to look up when I had been given my second shot to confirm what I was telling them... so that means I will have to go to the medicare office to get one... (I did try online but it wouldn't go through & then it locked me out) grrr

    Paws

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    5 February 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws

    I think they’re pretty good achievements :)

    I saw a news story about how much difficulty people are having trying to provide proof of vax. 400 people on a wait list in a regional WA town seeking assistance from the local library. Ridiculous! Hope Medicare can get it sorted for you without too much fuss.

    Cool change expected here too, which I’m sure my furs will appreciate. Hugs (and an ear scratch for mr wonderful) x

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  15. Hanna3
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    5 February 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws

    There was such a cold wind here this morning it felt winter-ish, but it's supposed to get hot during the week so it's very strange weather.

    When I mislaid my Medicare card I rang Medicare and the wonderful woman in Canberra I spoke to also organised for a hard copy of my vaccination certificate to be posted to me as I wanted it as a back up to my phone proof.

    If you ring Medicare it only took her moments as all the records are on their computer system and they will post it to you. You just need to wait a couple of weeks.

    It's an overcast rather blah afternoon here now. I'm going to get a hot coffee!

    ☕🔥😊🐕🌞

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    Hi Paws,

    You haven't posted here recently and I thought I'd bump you up a bit!!!

    I'm sorry you've been feeling not good lately. I was going to post here and you beat me to it on my thread. Is there anything we can help with here? You know you have friends to listen to you here...

    Paws I wonder is there a chance of you finding some way to meet people casually like I am in the dog park, where people just turn up when and if they feel like it.. nobody has to book... it's just a casual chat but everyone is supportive.

    Is there anything in your town like a neighbourhood centre, or charity that offers a cup of coffee, where you could mange to go and chat to someone friendly? You seem to be very isolated and it's OK but if you ever need help, is there anyone there you can turn to?

    I know trying to go to that meetup one time was too much for you, so I am thinking of something similar to what I have here, where you just rock up if you feel like it... The first time is hard, and after that it gets easier and easier.

    Would it be worth looking around? I do get worried about you being so alone. Unfortunately here we can't actually talk to you, it's just typeface!

    Could you try a small walk with Woofa, and maybe get talking to someone, so people would get to know you a little bit?

    Just some random thoughts. I know it's not easy. If you just found one person you could call on if needed, or chat to occasionally, you might not feel so down? Your thoughts?

    Music is this week and I have hardly had time to practise!!! Eeeek. I spent ages at the dog park this arvo and I meant not to, but we were having an interesting discussion about corruption on local councils!

    I'm reading a lovely little book by Elizabeth Jolley, The Orchard Thieves. It's just lovely. I wonder if you have a library there that might have it?

    Sending big hugs from me and slightly tired, fluffy ones from little Sam, who is currently snoozing in front of the fan - it's hot here!

    oxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

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    Hello Hanna, Grandy, Katy, Deebi, wave to everyone,

    I know what has triggered this rough patch... though they passed many years apart both of my brothers & my dad's anniversary occurs over a 5 week period from late January to this week... add to that he latest news about my elderly relative is her appetite has gone again & they are struggling to get her to even take the liquid meals... with covid running rampant I don't dare try to visit her...

    I went to the chemist early last week to fill a script & they printed my vaccination status for me... yay I don't have to attempt centrelink....

    I reread a book I haven't read in decades last night... Tirra Lirra by the River... by the Australian Author Jessica Anderson... it was written in the seventies & won the Miles Franklin Award... it was strange rereading it with 2022 eyes... it is definitely a book of it's time... it's about a woman trying to escape the life conventions/society say she should live... perhaps it's just a reflection of my mood, but I found it a sad story this time around.

    My sister & sister in law are planning to meet up with me in big town for lunch on Saturday... it is a tentative date as my sister is not sure if she will be free...

    I did my dishes this morning... so that is one achievement for today

    Hugs to all & pats to furs

    Paws

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  18. Hanna3
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    21 February 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi paws and everyone

    I was hoping to reply from my laptop which works for a few minutes but the BB site won't let me log on.

    I'm glad you have people visiting when it's been a sad time Paws! I'm sorry about your elderly relative

    Can you at least talk with her on the phone? If she is able to talk.

    I loved Tirra Lirra by the River and it was sad about her father in the book (and in real life). I have her book Stories from the Warm Zone which is partly reminiscenses of her childhood around Brisbane. She writes beautifully.

    I've spent much of thus afternoon chatting online with an old friend back in coastal town, it's been nice!

    It's terribly hot and I gave Sam a bath to cool him down. We had a huge thunderstorm last night and he was terrified poor little guy, so we haven't had much sleep!

    I hope you feel better soon, big hugs! 🙂💝🐶🐕🏡🍀🌄🌞

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    Hello Hanna, Grandy, Deebi, Katy, wave to everyone,

    Vet visit this morning... Woofa wouldn't get out of the car again so the vet did the consult there... arthritis needle & some stronger anti inflams... I had wanted the vet to see for himself some of Woofa's issues... such as if I touch a part of his spine his back legs go... plus he is starting to have trouble getting up & down... the only issue the vet saw though was Woofa had an accident on the back seat... he has been having more accidents of late usually just little nuggets that he isn't even aware of passing... the vet's opinion was he has a pinched nerve in his spine probably due to his arthritis... there isn't a lot they can do apart from the anti inflams & pain relief... the vet brought up the knowing when it's time conversation... we agreed he is ok for now but the spine issue may worsen slowly or it may deteriorate quickly & I need to judge what is best for him... he doesn't do zoomies or play more than a minute or two with his toys anymore but he is still happy in himself... so unless his back end fails suddenly there isn't any reason to let him go just yet as he is healthy apart from that.

    Woofa was very good when we got home & stood for me whilst I washed the poo out of the fur about his rear end & paws... he is fast asleep beside me after his outing... & I now have the not enjoyable job of cleaning the back seat... yuk!!

    I will try to send some of the cool weather here to all of you still sweltering... it sounds bad still in WA & almost tropical in NSW with the heat & storms...

    Hugs

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  20. Hanna3
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    22 February 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws,

    Poor old Woofa! That would explain his behaviour, a slipped disc, ouch. I would go with the vet - as long as he doesn't seem to be in constant pain and seems otherwise content and enjoying life, that's what counts. Let's hope the new meds will help with the discomfort. Poor dog, no wonder he hasn't wanted to get in or out of the car!

    At least now you know.. perhaps do your best to keep him warm and comfy in the winter as it gets cooler.. I give little Sam a gentle massage regularly, he does enjoy that and it relaxes him - it's good to relax the muscles which tend to get tense when there is pain - would Woofa permit you to gently massage him?

    I'm sorry to hear you have this worry, but let's hope Woofa will be all right with pain medication and your kind and loving care. Keep us updated on how he is.

    Little Sam and I send hugs and cuddles your way!!! oxoxoxoxoxo

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    22 February 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hello Dear Paws, Hanna and everyone...

    Awe I’m really sorry about Woofa..hopefully the anti inflammatory helps a bit with the pain as well...Poor little guy....I hope he feels better soon...🤗💚🙏.

    The joys of having fur babies...My fur girls didn’t travel very well years ago...and every outing led to them both being sick all over the back seat and floor....They are not so bad travelling now as long as I stop around every hour so they can get some fresh air and a little walk....

    I do hope you get to meet up with your sisters on Saturday...

    Its sometimes hard on anniversaries of bad things happening....even if we don’t think about them...their always seems to be something that happens around that time to trigger memories....I’m sorry you were triggered into not feeling the best....

    Hugs dear friends...and fur hugs for our pets..💜💜.

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    23 February 2022 in reply to Ggrand

    Hello Hanna, Grandy, wave to everyone,

    I know they say sharing is caring... but you really didn't need to share your hot weather... today has been hot & muggy... blah!!... seriously though I hope you are both safe with the storms & tropical downpours hitting NSW...

    Woofa loves his massages... I've been giving him them plus detailed physical examinations since he was a puppy... I've done it with all my dogs as apart from being enjoyable, it also gets them comfortable with being handled (useful at the vets)... more importantly as an old family friend taught me as a child... it helps me be familiar with what is normal/healthy & enables me to pick up sooner anything not right... which is how I picked up the sore spot on Woof's spine.

    I enjoy it too... I find it so calming that it is one of my go to's on my mh safety plan.

    The power will be off tomorrow as they will be doing maintenance work... I must remember to fill up some bottles tonight with enough water for my cuppa's & for Woofa... it is a pain needing power to have water.

    I'm off to water my pot plants... they look in need of a drink...

    Hugs

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  23. Hanna3
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    23 February 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi paws

    I hope you keep a Thermos of hot water to make a cuppa tomorrow.

    It's good you've been giving Woofa massages! Sam goes all sooky!

    It's been muggy and warm here but no rain. I think we are in for more storms tomorrow.

    I have a dental problem so have to try to get an appointment tomorrow, so I'm a bit sore tonight.

    Sending you hugs! 🙂🐕🌞🌄😷🐶🏵️🌻

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    26 February 2022 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello all,

    Lunch was cancelled... my sister couldn't come... so it has been put off until ???...

    Grandy thankfully all of my furs over the years have been good car travellers... I'm glad you have found something that helps you furs manage... it must have been so hard for you in the beginning... I wonder if they make travel sickness med for dogs or if it would be ok to give them human ones?..

    Am I the only one shaking my head in disbelief at the news footage showing children playing in the flood waters... I can't believe any parent would allow that... flood water has sewerage & all sorts of unhealthy, disgusting stuff in it... plus it would be so easy for a child to go too far into the water & be swept away or caught on a submerged item... it only takes seconds for a child to drown.

    Hugs

    Paws

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  25. Hanna3
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    27 February 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws, waves to everyone,

    I am sorry your lunch meet up with relatives was cancelled, that's disappointing for you, I hope they can rebook it soon.

    I'm sorry I don't have much time to be here at the moment, there is lots to be done here in real life as it were - I didn't see the footage of kids in the water... the floods look very bad. How is Woofa going on the new pain meds, are they helping? I hope he is going OK, we worry about our pets..

    Grandy, Mrs NSC is probably very upset if she comes from around the area where the war is... people from these parts have such a terrible history with so much suffering.. and they are very nationalistic.. I suspect the people from these areas have never recovered from their terrible history of suffering.. she probably was upset, please don't take it personally, perhaps she needed to vent her feelings. I would give her space, let her speak a bit then as Deebi says, make an excuse to have to leave..

    Big hugs oxoxoxox

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  26. Paw Prints
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    28 February 2022 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hanna, Grandy, wave to everyone,

    Woofa's meds seem to be helping... but being him... he gave me a scare last night... he has been showing signs of the early stages of doggy dementia for awhile now... last night for about 2 hours it went to a new level... he was very confused & disorientated... he just kept wandering about the house looking lost... he couldn't settle & it was like there were invisible barriers preventing him passing certain spots that only he could see... if I went over & walked through he would follow otherwise he just stood there getting more distressed because he couldn't pass... he also couldn't get on his beds or mine... he just stood looking at them as if he either didn't know how to step on or he didn't know what they were for... by the time I finally got him to settle my worry levels were through the roof... then about 1/2 an hour later he got back up, happily went outside to puddle & then went back to bed all as normal... no longer showing distress or confusion.

    The neighbour has been working with heavy machinery in the paddock beside me today... Woofa has felt the need to bark ferociously at these scary interlopers... from inside as they were far too scary to go outside & bark at... so to save my sanity I have spent most of today settling him whenever one of the machines moved.

    Very humid here today... yuk!!!... the forecast said it wouldn't rain today, but there seems to be a storm brewing... fingers crossed as we need rain.

    I'm tired enough for bed already & I have the start of a headache... I will be glad when today is over

    Hugs

    Paws

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    28 February 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hello Paws, Hanna and everyone...🤗.

    Im really sorry Woofa hasn’t been very well...that’s so sad..I need to google doggie dementia..I didn’t even think that it was a possibility they could get it....It must have been very worrisome for you to see him acting that way....I do hope so much that he will be okay...

    I had a smile when I read how Woofa was barking at the monster machinery from inside, because they were to big and scarey to do it from outside....My 2 girls do similar...They will run inside and bark when they bring their tractor out from across the road...I wonder what the dog’s brain interrupts them as..

    Hanna, I know your right about not taking it personally...Just over her knowing everything and putting Australian people down and the government...whoa the language and yelling is just way to much for me....

    Its so humid here, strange for regional areas to be so humid...I wish we could take some of the rain away from Queensland....

    Paws, Hanna I hope your both doing okay and your fur babies as well...hugs to all...🤗🤗.

    Grandy..

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  28. Hanna3
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    28 February 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws,

    Sam was getting confusion at night - he would get up and wander down the hall and didn't seem to know where to go.. it would take hours to settle him down as if I put him back on his bed he would get off and wander again.. he needed lots of comforting and cuddles... I was getting very little sleep as we were up for hours until I got him settled by playing soothing music (harp music seemed best - my friend who plays, played harp at the vet's once here and she said all the animals fall asleep to harp music).

    I took Sam to the vet who couldn't find anything physically wrong, as he said sometimes this behaviour is caused by pain. I wonder if you might need to check with the vet again that Woofa is not getting pain at night when it cools down? It might be possible this is causing the behaviour.

    The vet gave me a sedative tablet to give Sam half an hour before bedtime if I thought he was distressed, or during the night if he had an episode. I crush it up inside some cream cheese. It works a treat, together with lots of comforting (he's actually very scared and confused) and the music playing. They also recommend a soft light so the dog can see where he/she is.

    The other thing was take him walking all different places so he has new sights and smells, play mind games , and more socialisation with people and other dogs. It's all worked a treat, he only has an episode very rarely now.

    I don't know if this is helpful, but this is what we did here. I hope you can get some help for your poor Woofa, it's no fun having this distress..

    Sending you big hugs, as I know how much we worry about our beloved furs. oxoxoxoxo

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  29. Hanna3
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    28 February 2022 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy,

    Yes the swearing and putting the govt down isn't nice for you and she shouldn't be doing that.. you're quite right to dislike the language.. she does sound like she can be difficult!!!! I'd have some excuses ready so you can make a quick exit when she starts...

    It's very humid, I keep thinking it would be better if we had a good thunderstorm and it rained, instead it's like this day after day.. it makes me and Sam very tired. Does it have this effect on you? The other women in the dog park don't like it either.

    When I lived in coastal town the humidity was around 90% often in summer, now I don't know how I coped!

    oxoxoxo

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  30. Hanna3
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    28 February 2022 in reply to Paw Prints

    Paws, there are some very helpful utube videos on doggy dementia but I know you have difficulty with the computer playing them.. I don't know if there is some written information on the internet about it, but my dear friend in coastal town's little dog behaved like Woofa by the sounds - she was a maltese - would walk into corners and couln't work out how to get out again, that sort of thing. She would stand in a street and not know where to go, she would stand looking confused.

    Maybe a check with the vet to check the pain and meds? Do let us know how things go, it's worrying for you. Big hugs! oxoxo

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