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Topic: Store Your Happy Memories Here:

  1. Croix
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    31 December 2019 in reply to Doolhof

    Dear Mrs Dools~

    That's a good idea, if I keep some in the boot it will be there when we are able to have an unexpected trip there. Mind you I think they would only be happy with a truck-load. A couple of loaves of bread disappear in no time.

    Yes, I too take great pleasure from watching the birds, both at the river and at home, where there are numerous containers of water around. I have to be careful though they are to difficult for Sumo Cat to reach, fortunately he is very lazy and unless one almost lands on his head will do nothing but snooze.

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    1 January 2020 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix and All,

    The birds will love you if you arrive with a boot load of feed! My husband delivers parcels and bought a bag of dog treats to help him befriend dogs along his route.

    One day he had a dog actually jump into the van and he had trouble getting the dog out again! The dog wanted to go for a drive!

    My happy memory for today was created earlier this morning when we went to the beach. I had a swim while my husband went off and did his own thing for a while. I enjoyed my time in the ocean, I find it so refreshing.

    Happy New Year to you Croix and to all here.

    Cheers from Dools

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    1 January 2020 in reply to Doolhof
    Hi all,
    Good shot. My favourite, forehand cross and I won the game.
    Tennis was a favourite past time of mine. Killer serves, winning matches and taking home trophies.
    I would practice for hours on the wall at home occasionally hitting the stained glass window and eventually putting cracks in it.
    I had dreams of becoming a tennis star.
    Tennis was my life.
    Sprained ankles,sore muscles, practice, practice,practice.
    I was fierce and competitive.
    Singles,doubles,mixed doubles...I wanted to win them all.
    Ace...ace...ace.....
    Until...
    The divorce of my parents.
    I no longer had anyone to fund my coaching and take me to tournaments....
    Dream washed away...
    I picked it up years later though and played in competitions.When I started working I funded it myself and even payed for some coaching. By this time I was more into lifting weights and body sculpting and spent a lot of time in the gym and dieting. Training everyday and eating right. Going for long walks and runs.
    I had my own personal trainer and training /diet programs. It felt great having all that adrenaline rushing through my body and pushing myself beyond what I thought I could do. Smile was bright and happiness was soaring. Sometimes I'd go to three different gyms. I could do a lot. My body was built to endure...

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    2 January 2020 in reply to monkey_magic

    Hi Monkey,

    Thanks for the reminder of what is possible.

    This morning I am going out for a walk, I will see what is around me that I can enjoy and appreciate today.

    In the small town where I grew up, there were tennis courts. We used to like having a bash with our second hand bats and old tennis balls. I don't think we really knew how to score properly, we just hit the balls around and had some fun.

    Like you mentioned, it was only the richer kids who could afford to join the team and have coaching. We still had fun though.

    Congratulations on your achievements!

    Cheers from Dools

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    2 January 2020 in reply to Doolhof
    Hi Dools,
    Walking around to see what you can appreciate sounds lovely. Yes tennis can get expensive. Doing it for fun is the way to go, what's life without some fun hey. I'm glad you had that to look back on after my post.
    I think I'll do the same today...a mindfulness walk. Gone are the days where I could push myself really hard. Now I have to work around injuries just like a lot of us here.
    Happy new year!

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    2 January 2020 in reply to monkey_magic

    Happy New Year to you too Monkey,

    I had my mindfulness walk this morning. I didn't go as far as I had planned as I was very mindful of a horrid pain in my leg! Not what I wanted to be mindful about! Ha. Ha.

    I walked along a different street in our tiny town and appreciated some of the old stone buildings there.

    The creek and water hole dried up in about 2018 here. While looking at it, I was reminded of a creek we used to go to as kids where we had lots of fun and where I have always wanted to take a boat or a kayak to see what is up around the bend!

    These days I would need a motor on the boat and someone else to paddle a kayak for me.

    One day I might get to do this boat trip! Just need a boat!

    Cheers from Dools

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    21 April 2020 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix,

    That is a beautiful story. I feel like I know Sumo Cat.

    This is a lovely feed. One day soon I will post one of my special memories.

    Take care and stay safe.

    Mara

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    22 April 2020 in reply to Mara56

    Dear Mara~

    Glad you sorted out the navigation. I thought you might think it was worth it. I would look forward to you popping something in here when you feel you can - does not have to be big or seem important. Your memory may just strike a chord with someone else who at the time simply can't think of any happy memories of their own.

    Thank you

    Croix (who is being "supervised" by Sumo Cat right now.)

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    22 April 2020 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix,

    I promise I will write something in the next couple of days.

    Hopefully Sumo Cat allows you time to read it 😹

    Cheers

    Mara

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    23 April 2020 in reply to Croix

    Hi,

    Most of my happiest memories are time spent with my children. In particular, time we spent in the country. When my children were young, I started my therapy journey. The organisation I chose to do this work with also had a holiday camp about 90 minutes drive from the city. The camp was nestled amongst the trees. It had chalets, dormitories, a tennis court, and a swimming pool. It also had 3 halls where they held workshops. The complex was used during school terms for therapy but during the school holidays low income families could book the chalets at a greatly reduced cost. Every school holidays my children and I would head off for a week of relaxation. For my children, who were very sick kids, it allowed them to be normal kids for a week. They climbed trees, collected old railway nails from the old railway track than ran alongside the village. Often the same families would also book at that time. So over time my children built up a network of friends, as did I. My favourite memory is walking with my children, along the bush path, that led to the look out. The sunlight would be dappled through the leaves of the trees. I loved those times. And even today when I try to meditate the first image that comes to my mind, is walking along that path with my two beautiful babes. It is a beautiful memory I will treasure always.

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    23 April 2020 in reply to Mara56

    Dear Mara56~

    I loved that story, thank you. It pointed out to me we have somewhere to go in our minds to gain a moment's respite, you have htat dappled walk

    You can find me talking of mine here:

    https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/permalink/qrCDc3HzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

    Croix

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    24 April 2020 in reply to Croix
    A happy memory,

    Being on the dancefloor and podium in clubs dancing to the music getting that adrenaline going.

    There were ppl everywhere, bright lights, groups dancing together, guys trying to pick up girls, ppl drinking, ppl pashing.

    I had so much energy and endurance and lasted a long time. I just wanted to dance dance dance. I was secretly doing it to maintain/ lose weight as well.

    We would be there as friends and make other friends throughout the night.

    The nights were pumping and you could hear muffled chatter throughout the loud music. It was really hard to hear ppl talking.

    It was a lot of fun.
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    24 April 2020 in reply to monkey_magic

    I was able to create a new happy memory recently.

    I drove to a friends place with my own fold up chair, thermos and cup. We sat outside had a cuppa together and a chat before I went to work.

    We were able to make the new requirements work and had a lovely hour together.

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    24 April 2020 in reply to monkey_magic

    Dear MM~

    I can just imagine you dancing away in that noisy club, wearng out dance-partners:) A fun time to look back on. I think some of that girl is still inside you. I'm sure many will remember similar scenes with fondness.

    Croix

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    24 April 2020 in reply to Doolhof

    Dear Mrs Dools~

    You manage to remember contentment and a measure of release even when going though very bad times. Your story here is a simple one, going for a cuppa with a freind on the way to work. It gives an aura of togetherness and a simple pleasure, tea. A halt from the difficulties of life for a moment.

    I too remember cups of tea, but in very different circumstances. As a small boy I was taken round by my Welsh grandmother to one of my many "aunties". I think I had more "aunties" per square mile than anyone I've ever known.

    We would always sit in the kitchen amongst the polished brass and copper drinking tea poured from a tea-pot covered by a knitted cosy. They talked Welsh, I didn't, or at least not well enough to understand. Every now and again the musical flow of the language stopped. In the silence that followed all heads would turn towards me, regard me appraisingly, then turn back and talk resumed.

    I never knew why.

    Croix

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    25 April 2020 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix,

    Maybe all those ladies were admiring you and thinking what a lovely boy or young man you were.

    One of my Aunt's would use lovely tea cups and decorative plates. I don't really remember her kitchen much. I do remember that if there were 5 of us present, there would be 5 little pieces of cake and 5 of each different biscuit or slice.

    You were allowed to have one of each, but not two of anything. Battering and swapping was not allowed either.

    They had a telescope on the front verandah and I used to be intrigued looking through that.

    Thanks for this thread Croix and for the reminder there are happy memories to recall.

    Cheers all from Dools

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    25 April 2020 in reply to Croix

    That is a beautiful memory Croix. I can just imagine being there.

    It’s so important to have these peaceful memories to focus on when our minds turbulent.

    Cheers

    Mara

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    25 April 2020 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix,

    Thank you for your link. I enjoyed reading about your dappled place.

    Take care

    Mara

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    26 April 2020 in reply to Doolhof

    Dear Mrs Dools~

    You are welcome, it helps me too.

    They too had lovely tea-cups and saucers, but the (large) teapot was always brown . I only rated a mug on most occasions (you never can be too careful of nephews). All aunties seemed to have the same kitchen, brass-work fender around the fire, copper kettles and fry pans hanging, Stafforshire china dogs on top of the dresser. Patterned oilcloth on the table.

    I'm not sure I agree with your assessment of their thoughts, more likely they were gossiping and saying something scurrilous, then stopped and wondered how much I'd understood.

    My normal expression of dull incomprehension must have reassured them.

    Mara~ I'm glad, a retreat can be really necessary at times.

    Croix

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    27 April 2020 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix and All,

    It would be interesting to know what they were saying!

    Decades ago I stayed with a friend in The Netherlands. She spoke reasonable English and I spoke no Dutch.

    We went to lunch at a family members home. At the end of the meal I was given an orange. I ate it as I normally do, I peeled it and ate all the segments, politely removing the pips.

    All present looked very concerned and a quick conversation was happening in Dutch. I asked my friend what was going on. She told me they all thought I must still be starving as I had eaten the whole orange. Apparently they just sucked the juice out of the segments and left the flesh part.

    They had not started their oranges as they were all watching me.

    They had been discussing what else they could feed me. I was already bursting at the seams!

    A friend at school used to eat the orange peel, now that would have really had them falling off their seats!

    Cheers all from Dools

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    28 April 2020 in reply to Doolhof

    Dear Mrs D

    I think you displayed miles of couth, you did not spit a single pip at a passing pedestrian

    -C

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    1 June 2020 in reply to Croix

    This is just a simple one and it'quite short, but it's important to me.

    I was lying in bed in winter with my fluffy pajamas and thick bed socks, buried under my doona. Pressed against my stomach, my chubby ragdoll, softly snoring over the quiet hum of the heater. I wouldn't dare move, as it would wake the sleepy beast and he would leave, taking his valuable body heat with him.

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    Dear April~

    I'm delighted you came here to this thread, it is a retreat from the hard world at times -a necessary thing and after reading your account I can see why it is important to you.

    Being warm and snug , safe in bed is a wonderful feeling for a child, and to have a freind, rag or otherwise, makes it complete.

    Maybe there is something about being a child and being snug, if you would like it here is another of my happy memories

    https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/permalink/qmJ6p3HzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

    (Nain and Tide are my grandparents)

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    19 August 2020 in reply to Croix

    Wondering through the suburban streets with one of my best friends after school. We would talk for hours about anything/everything, and just kinda relish in the orangey sunset light (like at sunset when it hits the trees n stuff real nice?).

    We would muck around at play grounds, just do stupid teenage stuff - I haven't felt like that since lock down but I hope to again soon :)

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    20 August 2020 in reply to cathyxd7

    Dear Cathyxd7~

    Welcome, it's nice to see you here.

    You paint a picture a lot of have had, and will again.

    Why not ave a look around, somethng might appeal

    Croix

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    20 August 2020 in reply to Croix

    Hello Mr. Croix...

    I am making a happy memory from yesterday...

    I was sitting outside..it was freezing, I had a blanket over me, I was toasty warm except for my face...I love the cold on my face...

    Anyway..while I was sitting their, these tiny little white things started floating everywhere..ohh I though snow..so I popped my goggles on to look at the “snow”..

    Nope not snow..you know those weeds that people hold in front of them and blow, then tiny little white seedy, fluffy things float around in the air...I think their called dandelions...they looked so pretty, fluffy on top with the little seed underneath..twisting, dancing and floating down so gently, their were thousands of them...thinking they came in with the breeze...

    It was something I haven’t seen before... probably never see again,,,so I’m making that into a new happy memory..

    Grandy..

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    Thanks for sharing your memories of feeling great and playful. It's important that we all stay hopeful and we will get through this lockdown together!
    Warm wishes to you
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    21 August 2020

    Hi all,

    I have a happy memory I'd like to store.

    Last weekend my hubby was manning the sausage sizzle station at Bunnings. I let my son know so that he could bring his sons down. I arranged to meet them there at the same time. When I got there my son only had his eldest with him. My Grandson's face lit up when he saw me. After a few moments my son took me aside and said "I had a bit of trouble getting him here (meaning my grandson.)" He said "he asked me if it was just going to be Grandad because he only wants to see Nanna" My heart melted when my son told me this. I'm so blessed to have 2 beautiful grandsons.

    Cheers

    Mara

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    21 August 2020

    Dear All~

    My own happy memories seem mostly to be taken from the past, I'm enormously pleased you have the ability to treasure the present too

    Croix

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    22 August 2020 in reply to Croix

    Hi Everyone,

    It is interesting that happy memories can be created 5 minutes ago or many years ago. I was going to say 5 decades ago, but some of you probably aren't that old!

    Some of my happy moments have been spent with other people's children enjoying activities like creating with play dough, finger painting, flying a kite, listening to a child's view on life and creating a cubby house out of cardboard boxes.

    As a child I enjoyed making sandcastles, exploring the creek near us, riding my bike, fishing and reading books of far away places and travel stories.

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