Dear AlwaysForgotten~
I've been through and read a lot of you previous posts, many giving help and
advice to others, and quite frankly find a lot of your views very sensible
I know firstly that you were adopted and your adoptive parents have now past
away and if I've read things correctly you have no family to draw upon. In addition,
although you have been married around 12 years that since a visit by your wife
to a clinic she would appear to have drawn away from you, and now you have
reached the stage of separation, with communications between you being minimal
on her part
Your wife does have a number of illnesses, including a mental condition and
from your account is reaching out and making friends of her own now you are
separated. I have to admit I do not know if you yourself suffer a mental
condition, if you have in fact set this out I apologize, it can be hard to pick
up everything in a number of scattered posts
I have very much picked up that you have had experiences of misdiagnosis and
lackadaisical or misdirected treatment in relation to your wife, and yourselves
as a couple, and as a result do not hold the areas of medical practice you have
tried to rely upon in high esteem. Unfortunately this does indeed happen on
occasion and I believe you have been most unfortunate
Now there is you, the dog, loneliness and doubt
OK, you wonder if you simply are writing
to saying how bad things are, a vent. Well, yes, and good! I firmly believe
this is a necessary part of the human condition, and not to do so simply makes
things worse
Obviously, the response to such an outcry makes all the difference. People
often from their own successful treatments tend to offer possible partial
solutions, and I'd agree that this can sometimes makes things seem worse
I'm not going to try to offer any advice, you have as many brains as I (it
comes though in your writing) and have some obstacles to overcome, including
uncertainly over how to treat or cope with your wife, a probable difficulty in
easily attracting friends due to a life where many have disappeared through
no fault of your own - starting with your natural parents plus isolation and
little faith in the medical body
May I turn things around and firstly ask what you would like from me or others here , and more broadly what you see as possible
ways to cope with, and even sometimes overcome, your problems
Again I apologize if I have missed out / misunderstood something of
importance
I do look forward to your reply
Croix