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Topic: This bipolar life

  1. velvetfaerie
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    27 September 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Kind of hope he comes out as an advocate for the disorder.... but no one would take it seriously.

    I heard a radio segment a few mornings ago about adhd in adulthood.... by Basil Z. I was absolutely thrilled to hear they delivered correct info.

    More than I can say for my employer who should know better.

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    27 September 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet.

    My hand is up for making dumb decision past present and future usually when choosing a life partner.

    I have know idea who ben cousins is but guessing something to do with sport.

  3. wail
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    27 September 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Greeting Velvet and Quirky, yes Quirks Ben is a footballer who took a bad turn and god willing he's found a way back. I think Ben being an advocate would be great and your right Velvet generally people wouldn't take it seriously, but families and people affected would and we're who he could reach. I love it, Ben has my vote!

    I have bipolar with adhd comorbid my husband calls it , V8 bipolar. I don't want to say Velvet I'm glad you have it but I am happy, ok really happy to meet someone who understands the overwhelming nature of adhd.

    Today I have been re-beading the bead door curtain I got on ebay. It arrived with 30 orange beads and I have got hold of 90 natural wooden beads to fix the mess. We still have some lockdowns and I will not be fully vaccinated until mid November. I am scared, the virus has hit this side of town badly, so I'm laying low.

    Shout out to Aries, how is the exercise situation going? I upped my reps by 4 this morning and wondered how you are getting on. Restarting is hard but if done gently it's easier. I am cheering for you mate! Cheers

  4. velvetfaerie
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    27 September 2021 in reply to wail

    V8 bipolar. I smirked. Good way to describe it. I have a friend with both. So far I don't believe I have both. Merely misdiagnosed and undiagnosed for many years.

    I hope Ben continues his work in social work. I think he'd be a good person for that. He's walked the walk and the youngsters would already be attentive to him due to his afl career.

    When he talks, he lights up on 2 subjects: his kids and football.

    Bead door curtains are so cool.. and so hippy. That's what makes them cool!!!

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    27 September 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet aNd wail and everyone. I have said before I feel I have most of the symptoms of adhd but wonder at this stage is it worth being diagnosed.

  6. velvetfaerie
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    27 September 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    It's worth asking. Even to rule it out.

    I'm in 2 fb groups for adhd women and I've never felt more among my people ever, except here.

    Have a read about it. Additude magazine is a good resource. There are some good podcasts as well if you're into those. Also on YouTube "how to adhd".

    It's a spectrum like other neurodivergent conditions.

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    27 September 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    I have done a few quizzes for what they are worth.

    always come very high in adhd

    on cusp of autism

    online quizzes are know are unreliable.

  8. velvetfaerie
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    27 September 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    There are a couple the psychiatrists use and they're online.

    The one I did took me 3 days to do in little bits and needed mum to help regarding childhood symptoms.

  9. wail
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    28 September 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Greetings it is, cheap ar$e Tuesday, does that happen everywhere in Australia? We get cheap petrol, hire shops reduce their prices even the hairdressers, have a cheap cut price today.

    I realized this morning that my mental music has stopped and I feel very relaxed, I could do with a brake it is exhausting when my head is on rotation.

    Last night the marriage counsellor changed the course, so after 3 weeks of 'giving complaints' we now have to 'give compliments'. My husbands first compliment is ' she cooks good spaghetti '.

    If I interpret his compliment it means; she cares for me as well as my Mother did, but his version is funnier!

  10. velvetfaerie
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    28 September 2021 in reply to wail

    I wish I was heard and worked with.

    I am sick of it. It's like I don't matter so long as someone's benefiting from me being a doormat.

    I called a help line Saturday.

    Will be calling again today.

    I think it's time to end arrangements that aren't working.

  11. wail
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    28 September 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet I can hear your pain and the hurt they have caused you.

    Really good to hear that you use help lines, for sounding out these troubles.

    Time to focus on what benefits you, your skill set is in demand and you get to decide.

    I wish you wellness so take care.

  12. velvetfaerie
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    28 September 2021 in reply to wail

    I'm just over it.

    They're parasites.

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    28 September 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie
    Dear velvetfaerie,

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  14. velvetfaerie
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    28 September 2021 in reply to Sophie_M

    I've spoken to lifeline. Thanks.

    I've walked the furry dragon which was good.....

  15. quirkywords
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    28 September 2021 in reply to wail

    Wail

    My ex said he used to like a few things and now there was nothing. This was after I tried hard to say nice things. It was the beginning of the end.

    May be counselling has changed I have heard of giving Compliments but not Complaints.

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    29 September 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    Velvet I am glad this is a place that we can all tell each other what is happening. I am sorry you are going through difficulties but glad you are aware of what you needed and reached out.
    I hadn’t heard of walking the furry dragon.
    take care
  17. wail
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    29 September 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Greetings- thinking of Velvet and I hope your day gets better.

    Hello Quirky, you know Monday night when the course changed from complaints to compliments, my first thought was ah this is like boot camp training- they brake you down then, they build you up. My husband averaged 7 gripes and so she expects 7 compliments. Me, I was somehow ahead of this program, so less is expected of me. There is an issue between us but we are just skirting around it and so the issue remains.

  18. velvetfaerie
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    29 September 2021 in reply to wail

    The furry dragon is the doggo lol.

    Had a decent sleep. Work is a war zone.

    Counselling... kudos for doing it. It needs to be a balance of positive vs things to work on. My humble opinion.

  19. quirkywords
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    29 September 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet I see metaphors or new language everywhere lol

    wail I like the boot camp analogy.

    I found after counselling rarely we would feel good about each other for an hour after the session then it was back to emotional hurdles.

  20. wail
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    29 September 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Greetings from lockdown, everyone in the neighborhood seems a bit on edge today, I have overheard like four domestics. Also my husband is grumpy but I don't see us having a tiff.

    Velvet are you thinking about planning for a employment change or will you persist with your difficult employer. Before I drove cabs I worked in hospitality and I used to change employer every 6- 9 months, but I was young and pubs do like a new female face. When I started as a cab driver my job became permanent, working on my own was a good fit and I stayed 18 years. The cab I drove was sold, so when not in lockdown I drive for a private car company, only difference is now I mostly drive the same people around, which is safer, cause regulars don't rob ya!

    Quirky are you able to put your past relationship experiences to good use in your current relationship. Like does it get easier and would you do it over the same way.

  21. asdff
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    29 September 2021 in reply to wail
    School holidays are rubbish. My husband is working from home. So I have to keep the ratbags quiet. I’ve taken them out a few times. The teenager sleeps till nearly midday, the other one gets up early. I wanted to take them out today and the teen protested. Saying I don’t have to go out all the time! Yes but most kids want to be entertained. This is a real balancing act and not in any positive way. I left teen at home as Dad was here. The younger one is happy to hang with me. I feel like I’m torn between pillar and post.
  22. quirkywords
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    29 September 2021 in reply to asdff

    Asdff

    I feel your pain. You are such a good mum to want to give your kids outings .

    Wail, I don’t learn much from past relationships as keep choosing unsuitable men, one

    only like me as I was mother of his children., one was an alcoholic in denial and the present is a controlling one. So I have not learnt much.

    wail you like asking questions like I do.

    I can see you think a lot.

  23. velvetfaerie
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    29 September 2021 in reply to wail

    Wail, the war zone I referred to is people having break downs, exhausted, aabsenteeism due to that, and a team falling apart because they won't replace staff who have left. We lost about 1/3 of our workers (not management). They went to greener pastures. Not one was replaced. Same workload absorbed by the remaining staff including the managers. I know the managers are months behind on their stuff.

    A university who says they're broke. Meanwhile students over seas who can't get here are doing their courses online and still paying full international student fees. Broke? AS IF!! PURE GREED... using covid as the excuse.

    Half the team are fixed term contracts which run out end of this year. They've been told to expect a 3 months contract. Disgusting!!!! We can't afford to lose any of them.

    I'm staying on this sinking ship until the last moment. Until the waves wash me off. If I quit to work elsewhere doing what I do I'll lose 20 - 30k a year. Not joking. Looked into it yesterday. Redundancies TBA....

    I worked hard today. Different job due to no staff. Good physical labour. Who needs a gym!?

  24. velvetfaerie
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    29 September 2021 in reply to wail
    Cab driving and hospitality... too many people abahahab.
  25. wail
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    29 September 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Greetings to Asdff, Quirky and Velvet, Yes I am an inquisitive extravert, big nose loud voice!

    Asdff are your children the same sex. Quirkys why do you think, that you keep choosing unsuitable men. Velvet that sinking ship your on and those untenable conditions, is it not unlike The Titanic.

    Yes a lot of people get in a cab so here is my take- 50% were inebriated, 30% used the cab as a confessional and 20% had manners and were private, they were the best to drive but they never tipped. All the passengers were like brief encounters and knowing that made dealing with them a lot easier. I have hundreds of note books filled with short hand about each shift. I'd like to one day learn how to write and have a go at telling my night cab story.

    Wishing all you guys wellness and peace.

  26. wail
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    30 September 2021 in reply to wail

    Greetings we have woken to rain and I have imagined a book title - " Sux in the City ". Yep that about covers my experience and those I served. But all employment sux at times, and holding on during troubling times is brave.

    I think it's Thursday, I have lockdown brain, where ever you guys are I wish you all wellness.

  27. velvetfaerie
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    30 September 2021 in reply to wail

    I'm devastated. My bird died.

    So sad.

    Gonna work a little bit for familiarity.... don't wanna go home yet.

    At least in the veterinary field they all understand. One manager has hugged me and cried with me already.

  28. wail
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    30 September 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Cripes Velvet the sudden loss of your bird is awful and I am glad your work colleagues have your back on this.

    Take care and put you needs first, sending you hugs

  29. Airies
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    30 September 2021 in reply to wail

    Hey Velvet,

    sending you hugs, I know how much it meant for you. What a crappy year. Wail I tried taxi driving many years ago. Managed to get lost and floundered . I don’t even live in a big city. Trying to follow the Melways was a nightmare. Think I made $20 for the day. It was a weekend, the sun was out and there were better places to be .

  30. quirkywords
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    30 September 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet sending you comforting hugs. That is so sad.

    crappy year Airies , well disappointing 2 years .

    wail if I knew why I pick unsuitable men I would stop. I used to feel because if. I bipolar I really didn’t deserve someone kind so subconsciously I tend to set a low bar !,

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