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Topic: Three things you aren't sorry about today...

  1. Guest9337
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    17 July 2021

    I am not sorry for opening this thread. I am not sorry for Inviting everyone to have a go at it! I am not sorry for helping people practicing to not say sorry too much!

    Idea, a thread were we aren't sorry about hate, ingratitude, being safe, thinking about revenge and acting for fair restoration.

    In this thread people are encouraged to practice avoiding saying sorry in a moral and friendly way.

    I am not sorry that I stand up for rights about children.

    I am not sorry that I spilt the milk, but I will clean it up right now.

    Other forms we might take are less about letting go of sorry, and more about using what you are sorry about as motivation.

    I make no apologies for feeling hate about what is happening to children in detention centres and I'm going to write a letter about it!

    I refuse to be sorry for any one who wears hot red revealing shorts and a boob tube to a funeral and has been told they cannot come inside.

    I am not sorry that I said “fair go mate!” when someone elses child hurt my finger.

    I am not sorry that I broke up with my abusive partner, so that I can be safer.

    I am not sorry that you got drunk because you believe I told my best friend I like the movie One flew over the cuckoos nest, when I’ve previously told you I don’t like it.

    I am not sorry for changing my mind, I have new information now and am making a better decision now than back then.

    When anger rises, I will not apologise for being angry, because the thing that makes me angry is against the laws of Australia.

    Or how about.
    I will not be sorry about plotting a morally fair a legal revenge upon my abuser.

    I am not sorry for thinking about or wanting to kill someone that I will never meet and have no real intentions of taking action to harm them or anyone else.

    I cannot apologise for feeling hateful towards the people who purposefully and wilfully cause direct and severe harm to the elderly.

    I’m not sorry for feeling excitement about the potential of this thread not being helpful, because I hope and pray that peoples actions about my inspiration will be entirely helpful!

    dng

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  2. Guest9337
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    18 July 2021

    1. I am not sorry that I feel gratitude about this thread being published.

    2. I am grateful that I feel satisfaction about this thread being published.

    3. I am not sorry about making mistakes, because I can correct them gratefully.

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  3. Guest9337
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    18 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    1. I am not sorry that I hate what is happening to Australian children in Australian detention centres, because my hate motivates me to write a peaceful letter with the purpose towards incrementally improving the conditions of children in detention centres, which will decrease my feelings of hate.

    2. I am not sorry my anxiety is on a hair trigger because my survival needs are important and on the line right now.

    3. I am not sorry that I can turn my anxiety levels down to being comfortably relaxed in the safety of my own home.

  4. Guest9337
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    18 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    I am not sorry about avoiding pain.

    I am grateful to avoid pain.

    I am not sorry that I break my own suggested rule of "three" by choosing to ramp all this metacognition right up...

    My sorrowfulness is a 5 out of 10, because that is my normal state, between 0=nearly acting on suicidal ideation and 10=my best self-nurturing ideation.

  5. geoff
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    18 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Hello David, a good thread.

    I am not sorry for going to bed early, people complain why are you in bed so early, I don't worry.

    I'm not sorry for what I shouldn't be eating, if I enjoy it, then so be it.

    I am not sorry for what should be happening in life and it doesn't bother me if I don't shower every day, every second or even third day is OK in these cold mornings, especially in lockdown.

    More to come.

    Geoff.

  6. Guest9337
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    18 July 2021 in reply to geoff

    Greetings and salutations Geoff.

    Welcome to the party, practice well.

    I am not sorry that Geoff can read my words.

    I am not sorry that I have opportunity to write clearly that my favourite goodbye to say is "party hard".

    I am grateful when others can acknowledge my expression "party hard" as meaning, "goodbye and see you sometime with best intentions", despite that they may internally believe that the term "party hard" means to them something else, perhaps even the opposite of what I am gratefully trying to express.

    smirk.

    party hard.

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  7. Guest9337
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    18 July 2021 in reply to geoff

    Here is one that came out under stress of fatigue.

    I am not sorry that I just entirely lost my train of thought about (not sorry about ___) and had to instead on the fly write < that/this instead.

    Crikey and Struth, I really feel like that one could help many people.

  8. Guest9337
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    18 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    I would love to say I’m sorry about something, but I’ve forgotten what I was going to say sorry for.
  9. Guest9337
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    18 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    I abide in not sorry for people making decisions I have considered being sorry for and grateful for and anything in between or nearby or locally or distantly.

    I remain grateful to be watching aspbf on my .cp01WW10pc.

    I am gratefully _.

    I am not sorry for being _ery clearly on my pc.

  10. Guest9337
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    21 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    I am not sorry for having my own internal complaints department.

  11. Guest9337
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    22 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    I am not sorry for being a member of beyond blue forums for approximately 3552 hours.

    I am grateful for being a member of bb for over a single day.

  12. romantic_thi3f
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    22 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Hi david'n'goliath,

    I really love this thread. Sometimes thinking about these things are therapy for me.

    1. I'm not sorry that I said no to webinars and training opportunities because even though I want to attend I don't have the energy for it right now.

    2. I'm not sorry that I had to reschedule a catch up because I wanted everyone to stay safe during lockdown.

    3. I'm not sorry for throwing so much negative feedback at BB for the forums because I want to advocate for members here and help make changes for the better.

    rt

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  13. Guest9337
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    22 July 2021 in reply to romantic_thi3f

    Hi again romantic_thi3f.

    I am not sorry that I welcome you to this thread! party hard.

  14. Sleepy21
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    22 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    cool idea:

    i'm not sorry for sending a follow-up to someone who hasnt been super in touch with me

    i'm not sorry for losing my car keys because i was overtired. maybe i needed a break

    i'm not sorry for fastforwarding things that distress me

    i'm not sorry for asking my friend if she'd got my message

    i'm not sorry for posting genuine questions on BB even though they include hard-hitting ones because they are in defence of vulnerable ppl's rights

    i'm not sorry for being upset and angry over harm to others and myself

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  15. golden82
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    22 July 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    decision to do a 'friend' cull & stick to it; zero friends for me - but zero is better than thinking you have friends when they don't care about you. Thinking of it as a clean slate lol. Making space for ppl (better still animals) that value me.

    stayed in bed for 2 days - do regret it, but acknowledge the fact I am struggling big time at the moment with lockdown alone, and seeing previous point of actually seeing my life for what it is - I am doing the best I can.

    can't think of anymore??

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  16. Guest9337
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    23 July 2021 in reply to Sleepy21
    Sleepy21 said:

    cool idea:i'm not sorry for posting genuine questions on BB even though they include hard-hitting ones because they are in defence of vulnerable ppl's rights

    Thx Sleepy21!

    I'm not sorry for posting genuine answers on BB even though they include hard-hitting answers/questions because they are in defence of vulnerable peoples rights.

    I am not sorry for missing the mark of hardness or gentleness for utter perfect optimality.

    I am not sorry a work mate is unable to understand my words, I'm doing my best.

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  17. wail
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    24 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    no sorry for voting liberal no sorry for dobbing in housing trust fella for brake window no sorry for loud fart in supermarket [ all people have mask]
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  18. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    Not sorry for still ignoring my thesis

    Not sorry for being fabulous

    Not sorry for giving my dog many kisses - she’s cuuuuuuute!

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  19. golden82
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    24 July 2021 in reply to wail
    haha Wail - very funny post! - I am laughing so hard. I needed a laugh - so thanks a bunch :)
  20. Sleepy21
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    25 July 2021 in reply to golden82

    not sorry for running out of masks and having to stay home for bit

    not sorry for not cleaning much today

    not sorry for forgetting to report to centrelink because everything was so hectic... a day late is still "on time" enough for me

  21. Guest9337
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    25 July 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    I am not sorry that the definition of "prose" = the ordinary form of spoken or written language.

    I am not sorry that the definition above comes from the Macquarie Australian Dictionary.

  22. quirkywords
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    25 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Dng

    just discovered your thread .

    now this is a challenge fir me as I am queen of sorrry

    I am not sorry for watching tv shows that I find relaxingi am not sorry I haven’t sorted out the garage as quickly as someone else wishes I had

    I am not sorry for being sensitive

    i am not sorry for respecting people who disagree with me

    i am not sorry for having my own opinions even if that annoys other

    I am not sorry that I wear comfortable clothes and no make amd am not as classy and well dressed as a family members parents friends!

    I am not sorry that I forget things and are disorganised.

    I am not sorry I have done more than three things

    thanks DnG that was interesting and worthwhile.

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  23. Guest9337
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    25 July 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Well quirkywords, friend, buddy pal...

    I am not sorry you found a place to post about what you're not sorry for!

    I am sorry you didn't find this thread sooner.

    I am not sorry about that because I don't actually have control over that! lol.

    Love ya work quirky, see u in here again. dng.

  24. wail
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    25 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    not sorry for angry people not sorry for hiding not sorry for cheating
  25. quirkywords
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    25 July 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    sleepy

    I like this line of yours

    I am not sorry for fastforwarding things that distress me.

    Sleepy does that if you are distressed you will contact people or do things quickly rather than let things distress you.

    I may be confused, I like it because I let things drag on that distress me and I wont do anything to help me. I suffer.

    So I am not sorry that I will try to fastforword things in the future that distress me as I am tired of struggling at times.

    Thanks again everyone like everyone's contributions.

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  26. Sleepy21
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    25 July 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    thanks quirky :) yes you got it !

    i'm not sorry for needing clarity from my friend and contacting her a few times til i got it

    im not sorry for emailing my lawyer

    i'm not sorry for not talking to my family s they cant do more harm

    i'm not sorry for needing extra support from mental health professionals during lockdown. Im not srry if ill request that psych will visit me more than the require single time when i am in hospital

  27. Guest9337
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    25 July 2021 in reply to wail

    wail said:not sorry for angry people not sorry for hiding not sorry for cheating

    Hi wail, shout it loud man! Welcome to the party hard.

    I'm not sorry for angry people. I'm not sorry for hiding in safety. I'm not sorry for cheating - the game is rigged anyway!

    I'm not sorry having a laugh in a bath.

  28. CMF
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    25 July 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    I am not sorry for the way I feel toward my partner's sister and her intruding on our relationship.

    I'm not sorry that I'm sick of her living with him and never giving us privacy.

    I'm not sorry told him how I feel.

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  29. Guest9337
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    27 July 2021 in reply to CMF

    I feel grateful that I am not sorry for other peoples behaviour, I’m doing my best.

    I am not sorry for revealing methods of aggressive behaviours that people use.

    I am not sorry for myself, as life is hard work yet worthwhile.

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  30. amberlite
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    27 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    Hello David this is a wonderful post, liberating for me. I am not sorry for having an opinion. I am not sorry for posting my opinion. I am not sorry if my opinion was interpreted in ways that had no relevance to my opinion. I like things to be subject related because then we can discuss the subject and learn from each other. No one will ever see life as I do, so tolerance and a willingness to understand each others opinion is key.
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