Hi Lynne. Yes, obviously your mum was in agony, however, nothing you personally could've done would've helped her because you didn't know what was wrong. It's possible that even if she had tried to explain all that she may have said was: I've got a 'lump' in my throat. That wouldn't have told you anything because you don't have x-ray vision. I have a young 20 year old male client who suffers epilepsy and has a brain tumor. I have no idea about his meds because I'm not 'privvy' to this info, should be, but I'm not. I was transporting him home from his workshop one day when I noticed he seemed to in a daze. I called to him, but his eyes rolled back and he lost control of his bodily functions. I stopped as soon as possible and felt for a pulse, it was racing, he was clammy to the touch. I phoned my boss because I didn't have any other contact number. My boss ascertained my whereabouts and phoned the ambo. After what seemed an eternity (probably 10 minutes, but 10 minutes can seem an eternity). The ambo's arrived and examined him. I was chattering like a monkey, shock and not understanding. It turned out he had suffered a blackout due to exhaustion and being kept awake by another severely disabled adult. I was scared he was going to die and I also thought his tumor had erupted. Looking back, had I not known of his disability, I could've put his apparent daze down as just being slightly tired and ignored him. Because I had been made aware of his particular disabilities I acted. Had I not known, I too would've ignored. I'm positive had you known about your mothers mucus plug you would've moved Heaven on earth to assist her. Maybe she knew, maybe not, she's forgiven you because she knows you didn't know.