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  1. Ggrand
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    30 November 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hello Dear Farmer...

    Im still following along..not replying much but I do care for you dear man....

    I’ll be praying for you tomorrow that justice is served on this young girl....and you get your name cleared of any wrong doing....

    Please believe in yourself, you done no wrong....Your a beautiful soul that some young girl is trying to destroy...

    I pray that you will come out on top..and this can all be put behind you and your lovely family...

    My very best wishes dear Farmer...

    Grandy.. 🙏....💚🤗

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    30 November 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi Farmer and everyone ☺

    That's really good to hear. Good on you!

    Thanks to BB providing such an incredibly safe non judgemental place makes it possible for so many people doing the super hard yards to find support and advice from people that understand pain & some have been through similar

    I too have so much gratitude to bb as I know many do. You know it's most often horrid people causing pain to others like in your situation and here's the other side, the good people helping eachother.

    Don't know if you're aware with your situation and how you're coping and holding so incredibly strong would be an inspiration to so many people.

    Seeing someone go right down but not making the wrong choice and holding up shows we do have what we need although buried we can dig the strength up. I'm proud if you Farmer 👍gives people hope.

    Thanks will be good to know how it goes tomoz. Fingers crossed 🤞

    I hear what you're saying about her being smug and laughing. People like that trip and fall eventually usually. She's been getting cocky, they always end up falling. She'd be missing her sister. The life she's living will sometime turn against her. I hope but also think that.

    I'm only saying this to try and make your burden lighter dear man and I do it myself all the time. It does your head in.

    Try friend to not think too often on how she's laughing etc and taunting youse it'd send me right off. What happens is your pain anger frustration builds and strengthens and stews as you'd know.

    If you can see any positives in the situation like it's bought your family closer. There were good times, deep down I suspect she'd be missing the quality youse gave her.

    That gives your mind more to focus on in a lighter mode of thought as opposed to churning on the down thoughts that are totally understandable.

    Also by redirecting your thinking to what can be done to change the situation which it sounds like from the lawyer there's a lot.

    Remember good man keep breathing deeply and feel your muscles physically relax around your shoulders it can help ease the tension.

    Thoughts and care to you all 🍃

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  3. Farmer680
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    7 December 2020 in reply to demonblaster
    Thank you, it went to court lastTuesday the police said they will not be taking anymore applications from this person they are wiping there hands of it, it would of been over last week the intervention orders ect but she wants to keep Pursuing it so it has to go to court again in April, she loves the games I told my lawyer instead of the organisation giving her free lawyers so she can continue her games 11 intervention orders ect shouldn’t they put the money in to getting her some help it’s just a waste of massive amounts of tax payers money he agreed100% on court day she would of been jumping up and down with happiness. while my whole family are depressed not knowing what she will do next,it’s called mental abuse and she knows it, so we just have to wait again it will never end while her lawyers are free. someone has to put a stop to it she will do it to someone else and get the wrong person that will go after her sad but true.
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    7 December 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Farmer hey good to see you ☺ was wondering how you went. Hi all 👋

    Hope you're holding up relatively well after another delay.
    It'd be infuriating. I commend you holding it together as you are. A gentle reminder to keep reiterating everything that day you realized so much you have to live for.

    Mr Farmer April will be here before you know it. Xmas shoots us through to Feb I'm never sure what happens to January. Then as we know time moves us along pretty fast. It can move us in and out of good and hard times. You're all well due for some good luck which is creeping in.

    A starts that the cops are wiping their hands of her. Good job! That'd have to I'd hope at least be in your favour as showing her character.

    Ok so I feel the more she manipulates and mucks them all around like courts and everyone involved again another look at her character.

    Hope someone revs her legal aid too. Assuming she's being advised.

    This might help with redirecting your thoughts to potentially some goods in your favour.
    I do think she's so self absorbed and troubled she'll trip herself over.

    Agreed the $ should be towards her getting the help she needs and agree that if she carries on to the wrong person she'll be in a world of trouble. With luck someone might bring that to courts notice. Seems there's one of many loop holes.

    Try to keep in mind when you can remember which is hard because the negatives are in your face, the good you've all done. That takes focus onto a positive good truth.
    She's off the rails. From the care you've spoken of she's been well looked after.

    Her bubble will eventually burst I reckon.

    You're holding up incredibly well under such hard circumstances.

    My want and I know many here also would like to see you free of pain and to continue a good life. It's still there matey and so is your loving family and new friends here.

    See you later ☺ best to everyone.

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    10 December 2020 in reply to demonblaster
    Thank you, yes it’s very hard the minute you get down the dark thoughts try and take over it’s like they are waiting for you to give in to them, Legal Aid are beyond a joke when the funding from one lawyer runs out she applies for another lawyer and they give it to her straight away. They need a good talking to from higher authority surely they can see someone with 11 intervention orders that would have to red flag her but no it’s like they have endless amount of government money to waste. I was talking to a couple of Nuns at work they are very impressed with beyond blue they said you have saved a lot of people from going to heaven, I done some looking on the internet at phone addiction in teenagers it’s really bad why isn’t this ever talked about, people talk about drug addiction but mobile phone addiction is never talked about and it’s a very serious problem because once addicted it’s like taking drugs from them and we know we have seen it first hand what they do when their phone is taken from them but we are one of many many many cases in Australia that happens every year we don’t hate her for what she has done or doing we feel sad for her because she thinks now the only way out is to keep lying the nuns said she has mental issues but I told them when she was living on our farm she was perfectly normal doing good at school ect but once her phone was taken from her she’s now a completely different person a person we don’t know, how can someone turn on you after giving them ten years of your life to bring them up like they are your own children, if we had of said you can keep your phone she would still be on the farm happy as anything, but she had already had her mobile phone for 12 months before we discovered it her sister said she used to sneak out 4 o’clock in the morning and charge her phone in my shed then get up before we did and hide her phone charger sneaking around behind our backs then it was lie after lie after lie, until she took off and never comeback I told her your phone was more important than your family all I got back was what ever that’s the thanks we get. sorry about writing so much.
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    11 December 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi Farmer and everyone ☺

    I hope you're managing as well as you can with your extra workload on top of your worrying extremely hard times.

    Just dropped in to let you know I've read your post and please never worry about talking too much. This is where you can let it all out. I'm glad you are talking because it sounds like it is helping you which is fantastic news.

    Yes here is an amazing place. They work hard at maintaining a good space for people to talk openly of their pain without judgement and being safe to do so. I know here's helped untold people in so many ways myself included.

    I started yours and another post that I'll be back with as soon as possible. It's very late and a bit off today so a good sleep and new day hopefully will fix.

    By the way (Btw) been meaning to ask what sort of animals do you have on the farm. No need to reply to that, only what you're comfy talking about.

    Hope your wifes foots improving. Must be hard not being able to have it in full working order.

    Ok Mr Farmer. Keep on keeping on good man you're holding up incredibly well under rotten circumstances.

    🌿see you later 🖐

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  7. Farmer680
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    17 December 2020 in reply to demonblaster
    Hi it seems to be getting harder and harder its pulling me down I am trying to get back up its like I am in a silent world of my own , it’s the long hours I am working and all the stress on my whole family,that worries me I get sad a lot we gave the children everything they could possibly want but still wasn’t enough maybe it’s me that needs help before it’s to late, I don’t know I just feel betrayed we gave her the best chance in life possible. I lay awake of a night stressed I feel stressed most of the day the dark thoughts are taking over and I can’t stop them sorry
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    17 December 2020 in reply to Farmer680
    Hey Farmer680,

    We can hear how difficult it must be to cope with these dark thoughts, but please know that you’re never alone, and our community are here for you. It sounds like you have so much on your plate at the moment, with long hours working, on top of the stress that you’re feeling throughout the day and night. Do you think you’d feel up to talking these feelings through with an understanding counsellor? Please always know that our Support Service is here for you 24/7 on 1300 22 4636, as well as our friends at Lifeline on 13 11 14 and the Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467. We’d really encourage you to reach out to the caring counsellors as often as you need during overwhelming moments like these, when these dark thoughts take over.

    We hope that you continue to find comfort in the kind words from our community, and keep reaching out whenever you feel ready to. We’re all here to help support you through this.
     
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    17 December 2020 in reply to Farmer680

    Hey there dear Farmer man good on you keeping in touch. It"s so sad knowing good people have to suffer so much pain especially being innocent in a malicious disturbed persons cruel treatment.

    I hope you can get some release contacting some of the caring people Sophie suggested. You know we"re not leaving you here don"t you.

    Something I"m hoping can put some light on your position is that when your wife's foot improves that"ll be a big load off you with the extra work.

    Matey I really do understand for other reasons how our pain gets unbearable and the mind feels it can't take anymore but somehow we do get through and each day we"ve made it and can do another.

    Matey please Don"r let this viscious girl beat you. Avoid any thoughts of finishing . You are much stronger than you think friend.

    There has to be better times ahead than now. You have a lot of love. Draw on that and support here good man.

    Thoughts and wishes for this to be in the past.

    Hold on matey . You"re not alone.

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  10. Farmer680
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    30 December 2020 in reply to demonblaster
    Hi hope everyone had a good Christmas mine was ok my father come out he is 84 my mother died at 51 and I went to the cemetery for the first time since my mother was buried 25 years a go, I could never go near the cemetery but after 25 years I went to my mothers Grave and cried so much it’s all this anxiety stress that’s made me so sad inside then when I went to the cemetery it made it worse, this is never going to stop she has been doing this over 12 months she just keeps making up more false lies she keeps going from one lawyer to the next because they are free so the games will keep going and going because no one is going to stop her and she is laughing all the way it’s putting a massive amount of stress on me and my family she knows it too I don’t know what to do I have come to the end of the road I keep falling down but get the will too get back up then after seeing my mothers grave what’s the point anymore sorry I don’t know what to do anymore
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    30 December 2020 in reply to Farmer680
    Hi Farmer, 

    We are so sorry to hear that visiting the cemetary has made you feel worse. We can understand that having to deal with this for so long must be really exhausting - we want you to know that we recognise how hard you've been working and how much you are doing. You are so strong, and you have come through so much. 

    We are concerned about your wellbeing, so we are getting in touch with you privately to check in and offer some support.

    Thank you for reaching out here tonight and letting us know what's going on for you. It sounds like it's been a really tough day and we hope that you can find something to bring yourself some comfort tonight, whether that is calling one of the helplines we've previously recommended, having a long shower, or just watching a TV show.

     
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    31 December 2020 in reply to Farmer680
    Hi there Farmer good seeing you ☺ hi everyone 🖐

    Glad hearing your Dad had Xmas with you all. That would have been nice for you all I imagine.

    Dear man it would have been so hard visiting the cemetry.
    So many emotions ignite with grieving.
    How it is as the moment in your life with such high stress would have made it so much harder.

    I'm so sorry you're feeling so terribly low.
    It seems it won't change doesn't it.
    It's near impossible to see a better future.
    Often we don't notice changes happening they can be very small which can ultimately unravel creating better times.

    Farmer you haven't done anything wrong. You've cared enough to make better lives for many.
    Good people don't deserve this rot and certainly can't give in to the raw pain that becomes too much at times I know.

    It feels like there's nothing left in the tank doesn't it.

    There is matey... it's in these times the way to get through is to dig deep.
    Use the pains energy to keep going.

    Incredibly hard but try hard not to think too much and feel why your hurting.
    Might sound silly but for now it's about survival.

    Directing your thoughts to things that give you pleasure and security like the beautiful strong love of your family.
    Your lovely animals
    Friends here included
    Your achievements
    Goals
    Sunrise/Sunset

    You are strong enough Farmer man!
    You can't waste all that effort and strength by giving in.
    I don't believe it's in your character.

    Hold on good man ⚘
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    Thank you, it was real hard going to the cemetery but something kept saying visit your mother she has been gone 25 years and that was the first time I had been to the cemetery, only because I wanted to remember her the way she was. My father is from the old school he is disgusted at what the now 17 year old is doing to us he can’t believe the law won’t put a stop to her is she going to be happy then when she has destroyed us then what move on to the next poor victims, she knows the system inside and out, she knows she can go from lawyer to lawyer and it’s all free for her but it’s costing us a fortune.I will just take a day at a time and see what happens.
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    5 January 2021 in reply to Farmer680
    Hi everyone 🖐
    Hey Farmer you're very welcome ☺

    I think at times when there's reasons we may never understand rather than question them can be good to follow our feelings as you did.

    You listened to your inner voice that was leading you to the cemetry.
    Good on you that would have taken a lot of courage I'd imagine

    Understandably it was very upsetting for you.
    Some pain sounds like it was released which is so needed. It needs out.

    Farmer I wonder if on a subconcious level you needed to be near your dear Mum.
    The visit might have revived in you some more much needed energy to keep going. Dunno but I sensed a renewed energy in you which is fantastic.

    I hope matey you're finding it a little easier now not that it ever is of course but maybe a sense of closure without letting go.
    And that you'll feel your Mums presence in support and love that'll always be.

    Hearing you say you'll take a day at a times incredible.
    You really do have a strong spirit. Rightfully so. You've done good by so many, not bad.

    Power to you Mr Farmer ☺ 👍

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  15. Farmer680
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    6 January 2021 in reply to demonblaster
    Thank you, it was the hardest thing I have had to do and that’s go to the cemetery it was like my mother was calling me, I could feel she was there I know she is watching over me, I am sorry I never got to see her because she died while on holidays in NSW and never got to come home. she was hard working and loved her children she was 51 so I have really never got over it, and all the stress isn’t helping either I pray to GOD it would just go away so we can live a normal happy life like it used to be.
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    6 January 2021 in reply to Farmer680

    Farmer man hi ☺ and everyone 👋

    We don't know what goes on after loved ones pass on. Imo and many people including myself have had happenings that indicate there could be more that goes on.

    You've been feeling your dear Mums presence which is absolute Gold I'm very happy for you, that must be of great comfort to you. In our deepest pain our walls are down which might make it easier for contact. It's a good feeling knowing a loved ones around keeping an eye on us isn't it.

    So good that you seem so much more settled and kinda accepting in that you'll take each day as it comes. It's really good you've come to that point Farmer. If you can keep thinking that way to hopefully hold the mindset it'll help no end. I think you as well from deep down have accessed the goods to keep going. Often in the deepest dark times is when we seem to gain more strength. Survivals a mighty strength that helps us through.

    I'm so sorry you had such an incredibly sad loss with your poor Mum and so young too. Would have been an awful shock. There's no time limit with grieving dear man it's terribly hard isn't it. Acceptance comes also in it's own time. You'll always love and be loved.

    Easy to see you follow in your lovely Mums footsteps being such a hard worker and having strong love. How are you going with the workload I keep thinking but forget to ask. I hope your good wifes foots on the mend too the poor lady.

    I hope in some way through the days you're able to direct your thoughts to happy times hope and feel comfort in the strong love you have including your Mums. There's enormous power and healing with love. It's the biggy.

    Always wanting a good outcome for you all Farmer ☺ I quite often wonder how it's all going for you.

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    11 January 2021 in reply to demonblaster
    Hi thank you I always appreciate people taking the time to reply, I just feel confused and what she is getting out of doing this to us she might be laughing now all this big game but as our lawyer said he is going to have the last laugh, we don’t hate her we feel sorry for her mentally she needs help before it’s to late and she gets the wrong person, some days I feel fine then the next day I think why am I still alive then I try and fight it, it goes away after a while,but the thing is we are one of many many cases in Australia I have even spoken to people who went through the same thing as us but unfortunately she did loose her husband he couldn’t take the lies that were said about his family, and she said the only person you will get help from is your lawyer you will not get help from anyone else, she also was entitled to legal aid but got knocked back just like we did I am staying as strong as I can the long hours the stress all taken there toll my wife’s foot is nearly better I try and keep it all hidden inside , but I did say to my wife I don’t care anymore which got her upset I didn’t mean it we have been married 31 years and she works just as hard as me. I will try and stay strong.
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    11 January 2021 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi Farmer ☺

    Just wanted to pop in and tell you I've read your post but left it a bit late to reply so I'll see you tomoz hopefully to chat.

    You're welcome and thanks ☺

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    13 January 2021 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi there Farmer and everyone 👋

    Yes it's a bit of a mystery as to why she's carrying on like she is.

    It seems clear she has some undiagnosed MH issues that need adressing but unfortunately probs won't happen for a while yet.

    Possibly her pain before living with you carrying on like this subconsciously is her only way of releasing it at this time in her life. It's appalling and cruel.

    I do believe and certainly hope she'll trip over herself in time.

    I think try not to worry yourself and get deep into thought why she's doing this. Your energys needed in keeping yourself afloat which you really are doing such a good job of.

    So many reasons she could be including a power trip but as I say it won't last well let's hope anyway.

    Good your wifes foots on the mend. Must be a relief for you all. She won't know herself soon and in time more rest for you, better sleeping I hope.

    It's so incredibly sad hearing of poor people taking their lives through nasty malicious ungrateful people.
    Innocent people so often suffer the bad in others. Wrong!
    RIP Good People ⚘

    It must be a great comfort your lawyer saying that. I hope he has plenty which it sounds he has a few things to throw at her to take her down.

    It's you that has to win and you do Farmer every day you get out of bed. She can't win!
    Many people would be seeing you as a courageous example.

    Easy to suggest though very helpful in hard dark times is keep thinking of anything that has/does give you pleasure dear Farmer.
    It gives your mind some positive reinforcement to break the darkness and change the downward spiral of emotional thought.

    You're doing amazingly well in bloody horrid circumstances.
    Keep going matey. You can and will because you know there's a better life ahead.

    Take care Farmer man ☺
    You're very welcome btw and thank you 🌿

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    1 February 2021 in reply to demonblaster
    Sorry for taking so long to reply, their is no mystery as to why she is doing this when she got her phone taken off her she was already hooked her sister who is living with us said her sister told her I will get them back for taking my phone, the sister living with us is doing fantastic at school she will be starting 2 days a week in childcare then moving on to a kindergarten teacher she excepts not having a phone she said they are trouble, but her sister that took off and made up the lies about us and has a mobile phone is struggling at school, some days are so hard for me feels like they will never end then some days are ok I try not to think about the hell she is putting us through, I really do feel sad for the lady that lost her husband through lies, suicide needs to be highlighted more because it’s happening everyday some where in Australia these sort of people need to be held accountable if someone takes their life,I will keep struggling from day to day it’s the best I can do.
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    1 February 2021 in reply to Farmer680

    Hi Farmer good to see you ☺

    No probs at all when you post or how long it takes. One of the many goods about here's there's no obligation it's entirely when you feel up to.

    I've been thinking about you and your rotten deal but this happens at times I've been thinking more lately and here you are.

    You may have told your lawyer I'd think but if not I'd assume that's important about her telling her sister.

    Not at all easy trying not to focus on our pain because it's so consuming esp when sleep deprivation sets in weakening our energy. I'm so pleased you're working on it. I felt a glow reading that.

    Absolutely it's heartbreaking knowing how the poor wife has the horror of losing her husband. Her pain would be so intense and unbearable that he took his life on top of the grief they went through leading up to this. So terribly sad what so many people are forced to suffer the rest of their lives and knowing they're innocent would be incredibly painful.

    Yes this does need to be highlighted. It's so wrong! So much malice to people trying so hard and opening their hearts trying to help people have a stable good life.

    You and your wife are such good people not hating her but feeling sorry for her. She certainly hasn't done herself any favours doing this and missing out on a better life. I can't imagine she'd be in a good place now like she was with your family and sister. She dropped a good life security and being cared for out of bratish behaviour.

    I maintain this will end up biting her imo but that wouldn't help you all I think.

    Rest as much as you can Mr Farmer and family. You need as much strength as you can muster. You really are holding up incredibly well.

    Hope each day there's something that can give you some light. Loving hearing of her sister doing so well. Youse must be so proud. How exciting.

    Take care Mr Farmer this is worth you giving everything you've got for survival like you are.

    Never forget... she can't win!.

    See you when you're up to posting ☺

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  22. Farmer680
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    25 February 2021 in reply to demonblaster
    Hi I am back right when I thought things couldn’t get any worse with all these false allegations I lost my job of 21 years today they are getting contractors in to do it I am my lowest I have ever been 😭😭😭sorry
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    25 February 2021 in reply to Farmer680
    Hi Farmer680,

    So sorry to hear that you have lost your job today, 21 years is a very long time and this was a very big committment that you made to your work.  It understandable that any false allegations are hurtful and dissapointing to you.  We can only imagine how low you would be right now.

    If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals. 

    MensLine Australia is a free 24/7 telephone and online counselling service for men with emotional health and relationship concerns. You can contact them on 1300 78 99 78 or https://mensline.org.au/ .

    The community is here for you and you are not alone.  
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    25 February 2021 in reply to Farmer680

    Dear Farmer ☺

    Oh matey good to see you but so sorry hearing about your job poor man. What a blow that is.

    Of course you'd be feeling so sad. Wow long time at one place good on you.

    Our good lady Sophies given you some very good suppirt numbers that I hope you'll find helpful when you're up to.

    I really am sorry to hear this matey. It's just not fair is it.

    See you when you're up to talking anytime friend ☺🌿

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  25. Farmer680
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    26 February 2021 in reply to demonblaster
    Thank you I think I need to talk to someone I am feeling really really bad. I get told at 230 pm I loose my job after my shift which is 830 finish time the stress it’s put on my is unbelievable, I don’t know how much longer I can keep going I am so sad right now.
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    27 February 2021 in reply to Farmer680

    Mr Farmer 🌿 and everyone hi ☺

    Geez it doesn't rain it pours aye matey.

    I really am sorry hearing that hard news. Don't blame you at all feeling very down about it. That's been a large part of your life for such a long time. I sincerely hope that down the track something might come along for you.

    You know you always have here for support and to vent anytime. I hope too you feel up to talking to any or some of the numbers Sophie left.

    With luck your good wifes foots in recovery. I know it was going better a while back.

    I worry that you might sink very low again Farmer. You've throughout this entire ordeal kept yourself together very well from what I've seen with you. Strong man.

    No doubt a void will be there. I'm hopeful you'll be able to catch up on needed rest and wondering if there's any hobbies you might be keen to pursue? Maybe atm it's too soon but something maybe later to consider.

    Hoping with your at home daughter schools continuing to go well. It must be incredibly good seeing them do well.

    Just had a lovely vision or thought of your nice guitar times. I imagine making and playing music would be so stimulating and a buzz for all concerned. Guitar has a nice sound. Don't know if you sing or not which might be a good outlet too.

    Always have best thoughts and wishes for you and your family Farmer man 🙂

    Appreciate you keeping in touch it's good knowing how you're all going.

    🌿

  27. Farmer680
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    12 March 2021 in reply to demonblaster
    Sorry it’s getting harder and harder for me the things she has done and got away with to my family is so heart breaking I never realised a teenager could be so evil over a stupid phone it will never end while legal aid keep funding she will keep playing her evil games every day is a struggle I have no job now after 21 years all of a sudden I loose my job I am not blaming anyone but I have a fair idea who was behind it she won’t stop until she has destroyed us then she will move on to the next family she has intervention orders against them she will destroy them. Seriously 11 intervention orders that has to say something surely where the law why don’t they step in.
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    12 March 2021 in reply to Farmer680

    Hey Farmer man ☺

    So much to deal with. It's so wrong.
    I really am sorry you have this rot to have to work through.
    The frustration must be so hard.
    You're doing incredibly well holding up like you are.

    Strengths there to pull on even when it doesn't feel like there's anything.
    I think we access it when we think of ways of pulling up.
    Thought into how and setting the mind to recovery helps.

    I know it'd be so hard not working and will take time to adjust after such a long time there.
    I'm hoping you're getting some extra rest which you've been needing for quite some time.

    I imagine this seems near impossible Farmer and I've spoken of this I know. It can take enormous effort but worth it if you're able to redirect your thoughts when you can onto something neutral or if possible a positive to get some reprieve from constant downs. A very wise lovely lady here said she looks around which can be effective too. Anything to break the cycle.

    I've played around with some success at times picking a letter or in order ABC from the alphabet thinking of anything starting with the letter but not anything depressing. Eg. A for Apple. How it looks feels tastes grows on a tree etc

    It's simple but not as easy as it sounds.
    The more different thinking gives your mind and the pain a break which is needed badly.
    A few seconds is better than solid darkness.

    Wondering but doubt it, is your lawyer in a position to tell them she's abusing the system.

    If you're up to a walk around your property might be a good change for you or a drive might be good.

    Appreciate very much you keeping in touch Farmer.

    As always thoughts and hope that your life turns for the better matey you and your loving family are well due for a break.

    Just a gentle reminder about the numbers Sophie left in case you feel you'd like to talk to someone with voice.

    Keep going Farmer you all deserve to.

    🌿

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  29. Farmer680
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    13 March 2021 in reply to demonblaster
    Hi my lawyer said he had written a letter to legal aid months back but haven’t heard back from them, she is abusing the system it’s just getting to hard now we have court again in a few weeks the last court case the police said they won’t be representing her anymore but she still wants to keep going it would of been over a few months ago but she’s want to keep going with all her lies and games her sister who is living with us said she was addicted to her mobile phone she had hidden from us that’s why when it was taken she said she wanted revenge on us. I honestly don’t know what’s going to happen I have sold so much stuff to fund all this while it’s cost her nothing that’s why she brags about it everyday is a struggle and getting worse
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    13 March 2021 in reply to Farmer680

    Hey Farmer 😊

    Good I'm glad hearing he's contacted them. I'd think that the police don't want to deal with her anymore would be a strong plus in your favour.

    It's taking a ridiculous amount of time and it's so unfair you having to sell things to pay for her problems basically the wretch.

    I stand by with hope but also belief people can't get their way all the time especially when she's lying. It'd be good to see your lawyer shred her.

    I understand being addicted to the phone but there's clearly an unbalanced disturbed mind in the ott reaction.

    Farmer out of 10 where do you rate your depression I've been wondering and do you you have at least some moments or periods of time when you have a break from pain. Geez I hope so.

    I admire you holding up like you are. You're a good and strong man.

    Hope you're managing some quality sleep these days. Hard isn't it when so much is going on.

    Wishing you the best Mr and to your family.

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