Hey Farmer wow that's the best news.

Congratulations so very happy for you.

This nightmares over so glad.

As Grandy said you held on throughout this which is incredible. Well done.

Hope to hear how you're going and your lovely family.

Oh and fantastic you have work again. Fabulous news.

You've done incredibly well Mr Farmer.

Wishing the very best for you all.

🌿

Thank you I would never of done it without use people I was so close to ending it it wasn’t funny we are truly blessed to have beyond blue you saved another life and I can’t thank you enough when I get back on my feet I am going to give a good donation for all the wonderful people who helped me through this nightmare now I know what it was like for my work 2 friends and the lady that lost her husband but with your help I was strong enough to fight the dark thoughts . And by the way my name is Anthony I would still like to keep in touch with use beautiful people if that’s ok.

Hello Dear Farmer...

We would love it if you stayed in contact here...

You are a beautiful person and I wish the best life ever for you and you’re beautiful family..

Love with a gentle hug dear Farmer..

Grandy..

Thank you I really appreciate your kind words, it’s good to know there are still. people out there with a heart of gold. Thank you

Hi there Anthony 🌿 Grandy and everyone 👋

So good hearing that Anthony. You held so strong throughout such an ordeal. I believe you would have been an inspiration to many.

I'm so pleased you want to stay in touch. Great news it'll be good seeing you and knowing how lifes unfolding for you all.

So glad you have your life back. You deserve a good life you've helped so many.

Take good care Anthony.

Thoughts and care to you and your family 🌿🕊

Hi everyone, sorry it's taken so long to message back, my life will probably never get back exactly the way it was but its pretty close I started my new job, and actually, she did me a favour by me losing my other job this one is way better I am now an orderly in a Hospital I meet new people every day taking them back to there rooms, I am so glad I got the help from use wonderful people we won the battle the dark thoughts never took over we beat them. but sadly I am just one of many trying to beat these dark thoughts, if only we could help them all because I know exactly what they would be going through, Thank you once again i will keep messaging, take care everyone and be safe. Regards Anthony

Hello Dear Farmer...

Please don’t ever be sorry about posting....It wonderful to hear from you and I’m so happy for you that at least one good positive came out of all your destress....

Those dark thoughts are so very hard to Choof off...but together we done it..especially pleased and happy that out beautiful Deebi has been with you right from the start...She really is a very caring person...like you are dear Farmer...

Please..lovely man....if you ever feel like up to you...you are so very welcome to talk to anyone here...with your lived experience you will be asset to others going through the same as you...No pressure Farmer.....it’s your choice..

So happy for you that your slowly but surely getting your life back..

My kindest thoughts..

Grandy..

Dear Anthony (Mr Farmer) and readers

Hi ☺ it's good seeing you matey thanks for keeping in touch it's warming knowing how you're going which sounds really good.

So glad you have another job that was a much needed major light when it was all so stacked up against you.

It'd be a refreshing change being an orderly and that you're liking meeting new people sounds good for you.

It was a victory of the best kind Farmer. I'm so happy that you didn't join your friends making the ultimate decision which also must be a relief for you especially that the right outcomes come at last.

Depression is so incredibly powerful on our minds. It has a deep impact on our moods and makes us feel there's no options as you've experienced.
Thing is there is and it's as you've and many people proven it can change.
So hard seeing that under the Black cloud though isn't it.

You conquered the beast.
I think without places like this there'd be higher suicide numbers that already are devastating.

Keep on keeping on Anthony and to your loving family please pass on the very best wishes for them and yourself to continue with a good life again 🤗 hug for anyone needing it.

Thanks for keeping in touch. It's ok just when and if you're wanting to post. No pressure here.

Good travels 🌱 new beginnings

🌿

Thanks precious Grandy for your lovely words 👩‍❤️‍👩 that apply to you too dear lady ☺

Hi sorry everyone for taking so long to get back to use, have been busy with my new job and everything else, but the problem is I still feel depressed I keep it to myself and don't show it but inside I am always sad, they were pretty serious false allegations made against me, I don't think I will ever get over it, how can one person be this evil, after all, we had done for her. I feel sad for her, we have never hated her for doing this and never will, we had been through hell and back, hope everyone is ok and i really do appreciate all your kind words and help, have a nice day. Regards Anthony

Gidday Mr Farmer man 🌿 and readers ☺


Good seeing you Anthony ☺ not good though but I think quite understandable hearing you're still feeling depression.

You've been through a major heavy ordeal taking it's toll on you physically and especially mentally poor man through nasty unjust accusations that were cruel and deeply hurtful. I doubt if anyone after that sort of rot can bounce back easily and quickly.

Especially that depression took you to rock bottom seeing at times suicide as the only release from the mental torture you were going through.
That takes time to recover from matey and it was over several solid mths you were living on the edge poor fella.

Time really can help with healing.
And adjusting to your new life that in some ways are better with the new job that I hope you're still happy with. So glad about that.

Anthony if you're ok with me suggesting that I think it'd be a good idea to talk to your wife about how you're feeling.
She sounds like a loving good lady who I'd think would want to know and be there to continue to support you as you have eachother.
She too possibly is feeling the same.
You both/all went through this including your younger daughter together.

I feel if dear Mrs Farmer found out later it's possible she could feel shut out and wonder why you chose not to reach to her.
Loves powerful.

Another option which potentially you both might benefit from is talking to someone in a professional capacity.
Maybe a psychologist or counsellor.
I'm unsure if there's free visits if someone works.

I really hope things becomes more settled sooner than later.
Something good is that depression can be managed which can be easier with guidance.

Be gentle with yourself ☺
Much care and support to you and your family 🌿


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Hi Anthony, 

Please don't be sorry, we're here for you whenever you feel like sharing. We're really glad you could open up, we're so sorry you're feeling depressed and we want you to know that you can talk about this, we're listening. You've been really brave in sharing it here, and we don't want you to feel alone with this. 

Do you have any support with how you're feeling? A lot has happened, and no one should be expected to take this all on without any help. If you want to call the Beyond Blue line on 1300 22 4636, the counsellors will be able to help you to work through these dark feelings, and help you to work out the next steps so that you can find some support in your offline life. If you'd prefer to contact the kind, understanding support team via webchat or email instead, you can do so here.

Please keep sharing and let us know more about how things are going, if you feel comfortable to. This community is here for you, and can provide you with as much understanding, advice and conversation as you need. 

Kind regards, 

Sophie M 

Hi Everyone thank you once again for taking the time to reply I think i might go see someone, i can't seem to stop thinking about it, which gets me depressed, i never want the dark thoughts to come back they are so horrible,i know there is worse off than me, i will try my hardest to stay positive and not get depressed so much. everyone on here are beautiful people who have a heart of gold. thank you i will keep in touch and let you know how i go. Thank you very much regards Anthony

Good man you're a survivor matey.

Thanks for keeping in touch it's good knowing how you're going.

Take good care Anthony Farmer man ☺⚘🌿

Hi thank you every day is a struggle I get very depressed it’s hard to sleep I can’t concentrate much anymore it’s getting me down where I might not be able to get back up sorry

Hi Farmer680, 

Depression is an incredible struggle and it can make it hard to do the things we want to do. We can see that lots of other people are here to support you, and so are we. We are really sorry to hear that you are struggling right now. One thing that is wonderful is that you are sharing your experiences with us all on the forums. It can be hard to talk about our mental health in the bush, but you never know who will read your post and feel less alone in their own story. 

We really encrouage you to give us a call on 1300 22 4636. Our team are here for you at anytime, to talk about anything. 

You can also call our friends at Lifeline 13 11 14 who are also friendly and understanding. 

The thoughts it sounds like you are having are really tough and the people who answer the phonelines above understand how difficult it can be. They will never judge and are here to help you in anyway they can. 

Thank you again for your courage in posting here Farmer680, your voice is an important part of our community. 

Kind regards, 

Sophie M

Hello Dear Farmer...

So very sorry to hear that your struggling so much with being very depressed....You have been through so much, the truth came out and I know you’re a winner....

What you went through was so hard and understandably you would be feeling all sorts of emotions..You done no wrong Anthony...all you done was give her your care, love and kindness..this is who you are...a very kind and caring man....

You are not what your depression is trying to make you believe...depression lies to us...

Not sure but I hope you don’t mind me asking you if you have reached out to some professional help from your GP...to help you get through these emotions/feelings you are experiencing..

Trying to get to sleep with a chatty mind is near impossible, it happens to me at times...that’s when I reach to my iPad and listen to sleep stories...by listening to them with mindfulness...it might help you to sleep....I know what works for one doesn’t always work for everyone...but just wanted to share what helps me....

Are you still worker dear Anthony?...

My volunteer work has stopped because of COVID and it’s been really hard trying to keep my mind distracted from my depression....I think that distracting our thoughts by doing something we like is about the best way we can manage our depression....

Please Anthony...please don’t give in to your depression you have a beautiful soul that has helped so many young children get their lives back... think about all these children you have helped in the past....Please don’t let her win...

We are all here for you, with our care, support and respect..continue talking here, we will try our very best to support you through this...

My kindest thoughts dear Farmer....

Grandy..

Hey Mr Farmer man 🌿 and everyone 😊

Good man it's very sad hearing you're going through depression.
I suspect that would be quite normal and certainly understandable.

What helps me which I dearly hope will you too matey is the fact that in the past we've managed to pull up and out before.
Chances are you didn't think that possible. You did and can again.
it's a huge achievement. That's still there it's depression smothering it.

Be gentle with yourself you lived for several mths in deep with anxiety and excessive stress that you and no other innocent people trying to do the right thing by people should ever have to go through.

Sadly you have though you poor man and the ripples affecting your good wife and daughter. I hope they're holding up as well as could be expected.

I honestly believe you can get through this too Farmer man.
Though I doubt you'd feel you can which is how depression makes us feel.
Doesn't mean it's true!

Best not to believe you can't because that'll keep your mind in negative space.

Instead believe in yourself bud that you do have what it takes and you've proven that.

Positive reinforcement not only helps give hope it also I believe makes room in our minds to explore ways of pulling up.

I wonder have you been sleeping and
are you able to do things at all?
I know you and your wife have a lot to do to keep the farm running.

Being busy doesnt solve problems but it can even tempoarily shift the focus to the task at hand.

To give yourself a break from the darkness if you dig deep and think about something that did/does give you pleasure. Feel it as you remember how it made you feel at the time.

Wether it was a good TV show a song you enjoy a food you like. Anything.
The drift is to give your mind some lighter moments.
Redirecting our thoughts to lighter moments can help ease the pain.

Don't give up Farmer man you're loved and needed in this world.
All good people are ☺🌿

Hi thank you everyone, I am still working as an orderly in a hospital during Covid times I have to put on a brave face in front of everyone, I have been doing a lot of reading how many innocent people are in jail because of these sort of evil people who make up lies just to get back at someone. but no one ever realises the after effects the trauma they have put on the person. with false allegations. They know the system and they use it too. I will try my hardest to beat this depression. thank you everyone

Hey Farmer man 🌿 readers and all 👋

It's really good hearing you're still working. Yip a brave face doesn't mean it's good underneath all the time does it.

I just dropped by to remind you you're cared about and that we and I'm sure many readers are also cheering for you. You're not alone in this.

I started a post to you early this morning. A few happenings all good glad to say and till now haven't been able to finish. So when it's completed I'll pop it up and some bits are in this post.

What gives me hope and faith in you is you pulled through your probably darkest times in your life over a period of mths. Long ones too as you well know poor fella.

You can and I believe will again. It's important to not believe depression that'll have you thinking you can't.

Believing in yourself and abilities is good. I think opens our minds making room for constructive helpful thoughts opposed to negative painful ones.

A thought alone can't hurt us.

Our emotional reaction to it can and often does.

We can learn as I believe we're all capable of to direct our thinking to how we choose to feel. Not an overnight job but we gain strength back by the more we put in.

I'm wondering if you feel it'd be worth a chat to your GP Anthony about exploring choices for something to help with the depression. It wouldn't have to be permanent but potentially could make it easier to get through this.

As you'd know our minds become so consumed and smothered with depression making it very hard but doable to have other thought on how to get better.

By gently allowing yourself to think past the first thought that lands helps no end. We tend to believe it.

Self backing's what we need at anytime especially now.

If we do the opposite to what depression says we gain traction because we allow good thought to counteract negative. A lovely girl from these forums 💙 psychologist told her. Brilliant!

So by letting this apply to a down thought by thinking of the opposite. EG. I can't get better...I can get better... can lead to further thought along those lines which I've experienced in the past and just yesterday. I was getting pretty fired up being down hard and fast, it gave me enough lift to pull out.

Ok I'll be back Anthony. Hold on matey and don't forget we can get control over this. It is in us!

Thoughts and care to your family too ⚘🌿☺

Thank you, it just seems like I am in my own world and everyone around me doesn’t even know I exist I know there’s worse off than me I have everything I need but at the end of the day it means nothing,it was the biggest struggle of my life fighting the dark thoughts the things that were running through my mind I don’t even know how I got out of bed and yes the easy way out was end it but I fought back it wasn’t going to win, but now I just don’t know what is wrong with me I can’t think straight it’s like the dark thoughts are trying to sneak back I don’t know, sorry if I talk to much

Hello Dear Farmer,

You have been through hell and came out the victorious one...because you were the person, that a very ungrateful girl lied about...The truth came out in the end...I am very happy that has all passed now...Unfortunately your mind has stored those horrid times you’ve been through and now it seems like it’s causing you some mental health problems...Which I am deeply sorry about..

Farmer...If you can and feel up to it...would you consider talking to your GP about the way your feeling and thinking...Your GP can help you if you have depression or anxiety....if it’s gone on to developing a form of PTSD you will more then likely need professional help to get through this.....I’m not saying you have PTSD..I’m not a Dr or professional...I mean you’ve been through so much trauma with this girl and maybe it’s still effecting your everyday life and living...,

Farmer..Please don’t be sorry about talking to much...honestly the more you do talk the more we can support you...You seem a very gentle person and you have been wronged in a way that effects you in a way you’ve never been effected before...and it can be very scary....

We are here for you dear Farmer...whenever you feel up to talking..

My kindest thoughts Dear Farmer...with our care..

Grandy..

Hi very sorry everyone the girl who made false allegations against me and my family and it got thrown out of court has now gone to another foster child who lived at our place and put stuff in his head about me the police were at the farm today i had to be interviewed this has already been HELL on earth for me and my family when is this EVIL person going to stop she has told him to make up a story about me and go to the police I don’t know if I can take it anymore honestly she won’t stop why aren’t the police arresting her for false allegations how can they get away with it, she’s now 18 I am only casual in my job soon I will have nothing left to sell I can’t take anymore sorry

Hi Farmer680, 

There's no need to be sorry, this community is here for you, and has as much kindness, understanding and advice as you need. It sounds like a really hard time, we're sorry to hear that this has happened. 

We're really glad you could share here, though. Please remember you can call the Beyond Blue line on 1300 22 4636, at any moment you're feeling overwhelmed, distressed, or want to talk things through. Our counsellors are always really happy to help and would love to help you work out the next steps to make sure you're supported through this difficult period. If you'd prefer to contact them on webchat or email instead, you can do so here.

We can hear how difficult a time this is, and we know you've struggled with depression. Have you spoken to the GP about this in the past? It's something our counsellors can help you to plan out, if you'd like. We'd also encourage you to have a look at the Beyond Now suicide safety planning app, here. If you feel up to it, you can even call Lifeline on 13 11 14 and complete it with one of their counsellors over the phone.

Please know that we are here, and if you want to share more our kind community will be happy to listen. We hope we can bring you some comfort, and help you to get some support. 

Kind regards, 

Sophie M 

Sorry it’s to hard to keep going I was all happy started my new job now it’s just gone downhill how do I pick myself up now the dark thoughts are over powering why do people do this why do it to good people that were only there to help is this the thanks I get it’s harder than it’s ever been

Hey Farmer 🌿 and everyone

Oh man what a malicious spiteful piece of work she is.

Matey one of my first thoughts amongst a few others about her is the fact that it got thrown out of court.
I hope that will be strongly against her and that this rot stops here!

You poor man you've been/going through so much.
Matey seriously don't let her take anymore from you mentally.
I know the depressions been strong and how hard it is to handle but it is doable.

I also know you have it in you to get on top. You have and can again Farmer.
Depressions making you feel and think you don't.
Ignore that and explore what you have in your life that's worth fighting for bud

• Your Loving family
• A nice home I imagine
• Friends
• Hobby farm
• Playing guitar
• The animals
• Your job (that maybe could go full time)
• Good memories
• Nature...the beauty of

These are things to think about and why they make you happy dear man.

You have a right to be again Farmer.
She clearly has serious problems.
You did right by her and her sister amongst others.
You certainly don't deserve this.

Just don't give up or allow any further bad thoughts ok matey.
She absolutely can't win!

I think it'd be wise to make contact with some one from the numbers Sophies given Farmer.
They can help guide you and be another outlet.

It's too much to tackle alone not that you are of course because you have friends that care deeply for you and yours here as well.

Suggesting too if the Dr can help you with sleeping which I imagines gone South too. Every help to gain strength and energy's needed.

With you every step good man and your family 🌿

Thank you the thing is she’s going around to the Foster children we used to have on the farm putting stuff in to there heads who’s going to stop her I don’t think we can bounce back after this it’s to much the pressure and dark thoughts are in control sorry

Dear Farmer 🌿

Ah matey she's a vicious piece of work.
This is SO damned wrong.
My heart truly goes out to you all.

Anthony I really do get that it's too much. The pressure would be immense.

These feelings are best not to be thought anymore about because then we feel them and they avalanche.

Our focus needs to be directed to coping.

The only reason to be sorry is if you give up good man.
Please hold on.
You have a lot of reasons to keep going including love.

Matey It'd be hard to feel worse than how you are now I know.
There's a reason for hope...that this'll in time be behind you to then build a better life again that you all richly deserve.

Yes times needed to heal which with the right guidance can help.
I know you have the strength to call on it's about learning and applying how. It is in us.

Strength resurfaces through our thinking.
By allowing other thought of how to cope.

Your strongest lifeline at this stage is NOT allowing further thought about giving up.
It doesn't solve problems and there's no gaurantee it takes them away imo.
You have a right to live and know happiness again.

If we don't think about the pain we won't feel it as easily.
It blocks room for coping thoughts.

Instead... how can I cope with the stress.

This sounds small but it does help with stress.
Our bodies tense under pressure. We need oxygen.
Breathe good man. Deep long & often.

On breathing out relax your neck and shoulders.
Focus on feeling the muscles softening.

If you can walk outside observe your surroundings, grass trees sky sun light animals etc.
Can you feel wind or warmth on your face. Listen to sound. Be one with it.

When thoughts bombard as they will, tell yourself I'll deal later and calmly refocus on your surroundings/breathing.

These don't take it away but they can give your body and mind even a temporary break from downs. We hyper focus in hard times making it hard to have helpful thought or pleasure.

Believe you can and you're more likely to achieve.
Honestly I do believe in you.

Sending warmth & care to you and your farmer family 🌿

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Hi very sorry for taking so long to get back to use well these second lot of false allegations never went anywhere now she is being investigated I feel better today but just want it to end all the lies so we can get back to a normal life instead of waiting for more false lies, thank you everyone for your support I really appreciate all your help. Regards Anthony

Hey Mr Farmer 🌿 Anthony ☺

Wow that's really good news so glad to hear it's all settling. Good job she's being investigated she's caused serious grief for many people.

Hope your lives recover well and good things happen for good people.

Never feel bad for a late reply just so pleased to hear how you're going.

Often thoughts

Take good care good man ☺

Sorry more allegations I am at the lowest I have ever been today I can’t handle much more I am arguing with my wife it’s put massive pressure on our family it seems to be lies after lies I don’t know what to do I just feel in a lonely world of my own sorry