Thank you for the welcomes.
In regards to how I've gone about speaking to my partner regarding his mental health I try more than anything to be completely honest and open with him.
I have explained what I have done in the past to seek help, I've had him see councillors to help him, we spoke to and involved his family with his journey to recovery (this lasted maybe four months before they cut him off again because "he was too much"), I have left out little flyers or post it notes with numbers/suggestions to help him, I've sat back and watched him struggle through it on his own before falling apart (this was an early tactic, he said he wanted to do it alone and I let him), we have seen couples councillors, our own councillors, a psychologist, switched GP's, medicated with natural remedies (he won't take 'the drowzy stuff' as he has not had positive history with any medication before), his family got a crisis team involved and the police before, I've also tried just sitting him down and saying 'enough' and told him how I'm feeling, I've moved away, we took a break, we got a pet, I encouraged him to see and talk to his friends (this didn't work as he decided to cut them all off), I've taken him out with my friends, we joined a gym, we tried hypnotherapy and relaxation retreats, he will try things, but only for a little while before getting fed up and reverting back to sitting in our apartment all day.
My partner is stubborn, he's so stubborn, but I have so much patience for mental health.
I am doing my own thing most of the time, he's not a burden on me, he pays his own way, and cooks, cleans and does things that I ask him to when he is okay enough to get out of bed, he's okay most of the time, but I feel his mental health will only get worse if he continues to badger me to leave me ('go find a better man, a man that can look after you better than I can') and doesn't seek help for his mental health. He has tried things but as soon as there's a bump in the road he can't do it anymore, or he argues with someone and things get out of hand and then we're back to square one.
I think he has self image issues, he feels a man must be the breadwinner and be this big masculine thing, maybe my working so much is making him feel bad? Maybe he feels like because he thinks he has to be this macho thing that taking care of his mental health is admitting defeat? I don't know, all I want to do is encourage him to get help and stick with it.