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Topic: Drowning beside Denial

2 posts, 0 answered
  1. YK
    YK avatar
    6 posts
    20 December 2017

    Hi to everyone reading,

    without giving a long history, I'm struggling to support my partner who has long term mental I'll health. He is in his early 40's.

    we have been together only a short time, but known each other for a while. My partner has been on and off depression medication for some time.

    In my opinion his medication does not alter his unhealthy behaviour which includes verbal domestic violence, aggression, anxiety, delusional thoughts and paranoia.

    over the past 20 years he has been dependant on alcohol and other drugs from marijuana to meth and binge drinking. Which in my opinion further impacts his mood and behavioir negatively.

    I have sought help with over the phone counselors but nothing has changed the fact I cannot make my partner seek medical attention to assess his mental health.

    Bi-polar and mental health runs in his family and I strongly believe he has Undiagnosed Bi-Polar. The saddest and most frustrating thing for me is I believe with the correct medication and support his life and mental health could completely turn around.

    But at my insistence, asking for months now - he has not made any attempt to see a new GP and look at a MH assessment.

    he belives he can heal himself and I'm worried he may be in complete denial through fear and or shame that he may be needing treatment for Bi-Polar OR another MH disorder.

    his agression, paranoia, negativity, verbal abuse and current AOD dependency is ruining our relationship and it's ruining the goodness I'm him.

    Any advice you can please give to me on how to coax him to seek treatment would be so welcoming.

    thank you.

  2. Bethie
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    Bethie avatar
    326 posts
    20 December 2017 in reply to YK

    Hi and welcome

    I can only tell you from personal experience what I did. Using my phone I videoed my partner at his worse and showed it to him when he was in the best mood possible. It was risky because I wasn' sure how he would react but at the time I was desperate for him to see himself.

    Maybe that may help.

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