How to start?
Little about myself first I suppose. I've had anxiety and depression problems my whole life, but it's like a rollercoaster, sometimes I struggle more than other times. At the moment, I feel ok with where I am.
About 18 months ago I started to see someone casually, which has now evolved into a harmonious relationship. Everything is just perfect or at least so it seemed....
After spending more and more time together, I've come to the realization that he has a drinking problem and he knows that there is a problem. He is seeing a counsellor, I'm not sure in how much detail he goes with her, especially because he has other issues to overcome.
He also suffers from depression and is possibly bipolar and I am very worried that I can't help him the way I'd like to help him.
Yes, it is a new relationship, but emotionally I am already too invested to just walk away. That's not me! That person means the world to me and I cannot imagine a life without him anymore. But I don't know how to help him? Where do I even start? I am always there for him. I listen to him when he is down and I am grateful that he usually does open up to me. When he drinks, his mind wonders to dark places and it just scares me. They are not suicidal thoughts, but he questions his whole existence.
I feel so helpless :(
How can I help him? How can I make sure, that I don't slip into depression again myself while worrying about him-trying to help him?
Are there any books which have helped others in a similar situation?
Thanks for taking the time to read this and I am most grateful for any help you might be able to offer!!