Hi Bonnie B,
Thank you for sharing this here. It sounds like a really difficult situation, and we really hope the advice and shared understanding above is helpful to you.
We just wanted to reach out and encourage you to start a thread of your own on this topic, it might be easier for other community members to spot it, and I'm sure many of them would love to offer their support and understanding.
We also think it's worth reaching out to the Beyond Blue counsellors to talk this through on 1300 22 4636. Their support is absolutely for you, as well as for your husband. As Carmela has mentioned in her post, taking care of yourself is extremely important, and this includes reaching out. Carers Australia
could be helpful, on 1800 422 737 (weekdays from 8am to 6pm AEDT).
Thank you again for sharing. The forums are a really safe and supportive space, and you never know how your words might helps someone else.