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Forums / Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition (carers) / Please help my daughter had just been diagnosed with quiet borderline personality disorder

Topic: Please help my daughter had just been diagnosed with quiet borderline personality disorder

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  1. Guest_2965
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    14 May 2018

    I have a 22 year old daughter. She lived in Melbourne and is in a mental health facility at the moment after years of depression and self harm issues.

    She has just been diagnosed with quiet borderline personality disorder which I have never heard of before. I know that Dbt helps but I also know it is. Dry expensive and lengthy process. Does anyone know of cost friendly forms of support or advice we can seek for her? Desperate thanks

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  2. PamelaR
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    16 May 2018 in reply to Guest_2965

    Hi Guest 2965

    I'm sorry it's taken so long for someone to respond to your post. Our website and forums have been down for almost 24 hours.

    Welcome to Beyond Blue forums. It's good you've found your way here. I'm not a therapist or health professional so can't really answer you questions relating to the types of help your daughter could be given in the mental health facility.

    It really sounds like she is going through a very difficult time at the moment. You sound an awesome mum! She is so lucky to have you as her support!! I don't know that much about treatments for specific mental health issues.

    You could if you want ask the question in the post - Got a question for Dr Kim in the forum Treatments , health professionals and therapies.

    Alternatively you can wait until someone with BPD provides a response to you here.

    I would make a decision about where you want your thread to be. Once you've made a selection stick to the one thread so you and those who respond don't get too confused.

    Hope this helps.

  3. romantic_thi3f
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    17 May 2018 in reply to Guest_2965

    Hi Guest_2965,

    Welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out.

    I'm sorry that you're struggling with this - it makes me incredibly frustrated when money has to be a barrier to getting treatment.

    Unfortunately we cannot recommend specific services here, but what I can recommend is this:

    - Google "borderline personality disorder melbourne bulk billing" I've actually managed to find a few practices that bulk bill. You can also try "dbt melbourne bulk billing" which comes up with results.

    - This site: and filter through.

    - Here:

    - and here:

    A lot of these are Government funded organisations which means more likely to be affordable than private specialists. They tend to be good directories as well, so if you don't find exactly what you're looking for they are likely to be able to refer you on to someone who can.

    I hope this gives you a place to start! It may also be worth having a chat with the nurses/social workers in the facility. Often they can give you a few directions to go since you're not the only one in the same position.

    Best of luck,

  4. NurseK
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    17 May 2018 in reply to Guest_2965

    Hi Guest_2965

    I am currently in my third DBT group in Sydney. I do not have BPD but struggle with distress tolerance and emotional regulation (both modules of DBT). Like you I could not afford to pay for DBT as I have been off work for two years now due to my mental health complications. My first two short DBT programs were delivered by the local university in their gambling clinic. Try calling around different university's that teach psychology, especially Masters in Psychology, there are typically clinics and groups that are helped run by students and their advisors. I am currently in a 32 week program that is solely aimed at clients with BPD (I manage to wiggle my way in), it is run by a team at my local hospital, I did have to wait 10mths but this is the most extensive free DBT program around and worth the wait. Try contacting your local community mental health team, it's great to be linked in with and they can assist with crisis support, they should also have an idea of the programs running in your area.

    It's very frustrating having to either pay through the nose or wait for large periods of time to get the services your daughter needs. I'm not sure what is available state by state and what is national, in NSW a GP can write up a mental health care plan that assists with 10 sessions which can be used on psychology, some psychologists may have a gap fee our may not. There are psychologists that do one-on-one DBT and that might be something your daughter may be interested in while you navigate your way though the health system.

    Im am currently doing an assignment on BPD for my masters. Having a diagnosis can sometimes bring some relief to your daughter and family. I work with teens and once given a diagnosis most feel like there is a reason for the way they feel and act and feel less alone in what they are going through.

    It sounds like you are a great, proactive mum!!!! Whilst your daughter is in hospital it might be a good idea to write down all the questions you have for the team looking after her because it is easy to forget what you wanted to ask them. Also if you are meeting the team (Doctors, psychologists, social workers etc) and you feel comfortable, having someone come with you for support can be very useful . There is always lots to take in and having someone there to listen as well can really help.

    I hope your daughter is discharged home safely.

    I wish you and your daughter all the best,


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