KG82, 815, Steve , Lagela and everyone reading this,
815 it is find to ask and as you know I can only talk from my experience.
You might look through some of the threads below -pushing a loved one away when depressed is a very common experience. You might find some more tips in these threads and perhaps find others going through similar experiences that you can talk to:
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My partner is pushing me away
He pushes us away - how do I help?
Pushing friends and loved ones away
I have pushed my husband away
I pushed my husband away
If you love someone with depression, you need to watch this
I think the first thing I hope you know is that it is not your fault and the partner's behaviour is not to do with you.
Those of us who suffer from this illness, may need to be alone. We can still love our partner , it is just we need some time and space alone. It is not because I want to cut them away. It is a very confusing sense of feelings and even harder to try and explain. I wrote before I felt I was so worthless and in a dark place that I didnt want to be with me so how could he. Of course when I was alone I felt lonely.
I realsis it is hard to be there for someone who may say to go away, may tell you they dont love you etc.
815 everyone is different. One thing as a partner of a depressed p[erson you really need to care for yourself and have support. It is very stressful. I think doing hat you are all doing and being their for them despite their behaviour is a good start. Since depression plays ricks on us and we believe no one loves us and that all is hopeless, we may say things that are hurtful but that is the depression talking.
Not sure this has helped. I think supporting each here is a good place for support.
I think the main thing is that you can help but depression cant be fixed. What works for one person wont for another.
You are only human so if it gets too much reach out. You can ring the BB support line where a trained person will listen to you.1300 22 4636
Thanks.I welcome wuestions and hope posting here helps you all.