There is a fine line when separating in terms of promoting you want to reunite or not talk at all.
However once you've told your spouse that you want to work on your marriage any further mention of that desire can turn him/her away. The reason for this is that often they just need space or they might feel crowded. After all if your spouse has made up his mind not to return then nothing you say will change his mind at least at that time. I'm well aware of your feelings and you're not in a good place mentally, but I can also assure you that as this is an initial period, your coping issues will change over time to self blame to anger then resolve. When you arrive at resolve you'll accept it was meant to be and it wasn't anyone's fault. Sadly it's the way life often works.
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