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Topic: Fatigue and lost motivation

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  1. Jolly Chaplin
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    30 September 2020

    Hello all. Chris here. Hope your day is going ok. If you have any of the following, please leave a comment, if you wish, and I may be able to help you.

    - Everything you do feels like an effort

    - You've given up hope, and feel that nothing will cure you

    - You don't see the point in trying

    - Overall, you're tired and wondering why you can't reclaim your energy?

    Many people feel these feelings in their lifetime, but you do have the power to change how frequently these emotions occur. There is hope for you if you're willing to make some changes. Now, you shouldn't expect immediate results. These things can sometimes take some time, so don't give up just yet. Small steps are sometimes all you need.

    You also shouldn't feel weak for seeking help from others. You are actually a stronger person to open up.

    Hope you're going well, and I look forward to seeing what I can do for you. :)

    -Chris


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  2. Tay100
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    30 September 2020 in reply to Jolly Chaplin

    Hi Jolly Chaplin

    Thanks for posting, we really appreciate this contribution to our community. The gentle advice and non-judgemental, encouraging words are exactly what a lot of people need to hear right now- it helps them know they aren't alone. We hope you continue to enjoy the forums!

    Tay100

  3. Want to succeed
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    30 September 2020

    Hi there I could definitely use your help. I googled stuck in a rut and your post came up. I have a hard family situation at the moment and I’m exhausted all the time and don’t feel like exercising. Before this situation happened I used to exercise a lot. I feel I’m stuck in a rut and don’t know how to get out or even start to take the small steps.
    thanks so much

  4. Jolly Chaplin
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    30 September 2020 in reply to Want to succeed

    Hello. Good work for seeking help. You’re on the right track. :)

    Ok. Time to find the main source of your problem. First, you could try to isolate exactly what your main concern is.

    It may be general wear and tear of the hardship you may be experiencing draining your energy; which is a natural reaction to have during tough events in life.

    Don’t get discouraged cause you’re not feeling how you would like to feel. We all want to be happy all the time, but this creates too much pressure on yourself and is an unrealistic approach to take if you would like to heal. It can be a gradual process. No need to rush.

    For starters, a great tactic is to pull all the information you can gather from your head and write them out on paper. I do it often and it helps. It clears the head and puts things in perspective. It’s a more manageable way to lay out the facts.

    Eg. What bad experiences have you had? Was it something you or your family said that was distressing? Is there a better path you can choose to follow?

    Ask yourself if you have any control over your circumstances, and all the possible options you can take. It’ll then come to weighing up the odds as to what you can do about it.

    Remember, your attitude towards your circumstances is what matters most.

    Take it on like a challenge. A challenge you can win.

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  5. Want to succeed
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    30 September 2020 in reply to Jolly Chaplin
    Thanks so much for your help. I will try those things...I need to make it a priority to make time to do this. You’re right about the expectations of life.......I have had a hard few years but this is below baseline and just a season of sickness with a family member in hospital 15 weeks.
    thanks I appreciate your help.
  6. Jolly Chaplin
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    1 October 2020 in reply to Want to succeed

    No worries. Yep, even if it’s 10 minutes to do something helpful. Everyone can afford to spare just a little time.

    Yeah, that does sound very tough. It’s definitely a unique, difficult time right now. Very strange. But, like a lot of things, it’s a temporary thing. I hope for your situation it is also temporary. Hang in there matey. (:

  7. Jolly Chaplin
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    1 October 2020 in reply to Want to succeed

    There’s a lot of useful pieces of knowledge I’ve found in books. One of them is called ‘How to Stop Worrying and Start Living’ by Dale Carnegie. It has practical tips and stories to read.

    But Theres only so much you can read into. In the end it all comes down to doing it.

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  8. Tay100
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    2 October 2020

    Hi Jolly Chaplin and Want to succeed

    Thought I'd just check back here and say it's great to see you talking and supporting each other, that's what these threads are for and what our community at large is all about. If you'd like any assistance navigating the forums or anything else at all, feel free to let us know :)

  9. quirkywords
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    2 October 2020 in reply to Jolly Chaplin

    Jolly Chaplin,
    what an encouraging thread.Reading books getting help from others only helps if one is on the right mood to change,
    most of us know what we need to do to be motivated but so many don’t know how to do it.

    quirky

  10. Want to succeed
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    6 October 2020 in reply to Jolly Chaplin
    Thanks for your help. A few days later I’m still really tired but I can do a little bit where before I could do nothing. But a bit of one step forward two steps back with an awful night last night but that’s ok there is a little bit of hope. I had no idea post trauma fatigue could be so debilitating.
  11. Jolly Chaplin
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    6 October 2020 in reply to Want to succeed

    Hello again. All good matey. :) I've experienced very much the same thing. I've been surprised how draining it can be too. Stress causes probably the most fatigue out of anything. I was away from home by myself for 7 weeks on a trip about 2 weeks back. Taught me a bit about myself. Was a good experience. There were definitely low points and dark times in there, (past trauma) but I reckon that can just be part of it.

    Ah yep. Well you have the right attitude towards it. Good to hear that. Good work. To say every day is a new day would be the truth. Carrying yesterday's worries or stress about the future shouldn't play any part in today's activities. Plan for tomorrow and live for today!

    No magic cure though. Only the way you perceive it. (: You're already on your way. Cheers to that!

    -Chris

  12. Isaac98
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    24 October 2020
    Well I've lost most motivation to thrive for a few years due to trauma and my hate of this country and its culture.. How do I deal with this when I constantly feel so bitter of our country's authoritarianism which I face so much (like gun control oppressing me since I love guns) in conjunction with having so many cultural differences with our people to the point of being an extremist? Not a violent one, but I definitely am VERY radical as someone on the anarchist right sector of politics/ethics when even a libertarian right party has less than 0% of votes for two states. I can't even trust nearly any Australian citizen with any friendship stronger than aquaintance because they'd hate me if they knew my differences.
  13. Isaac98
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    24 October 2020
    Also, I forgot to mention that nearly everyone here doesn't know words like individualism and liberty due to being so brainwashed by our government who treats us like convicts. That alone should show how culturally alienated I am.
  14. Jolly Chaplin
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    30 October 2020 in reply to Isaac98

    Hey Issac. Sorry you feel that way. It looks to be a difficult place to be in.

    But it is less a battle with others and more a battle with yourself. I’m not saying it’s your fault. But there’s just some things that we can’t change. I wish more people voted to people committed to the environment, nature for example. But what I support is the minority group. I can’t change it.

    I can’t choose the next prime minister so I just deal with it in my own way with things I actually do have control over. You can hate things but the hate does not solve anything.

    You should never assume what someone will think of you before you’ve even met them. That’s putting your thoughts into their heads, everyone has their own way of thinking, also a thing you can’t change.

    Saying you can’t be more than acquaintances with a particular race/ethnicity is very unjust.

    If you keep fighting against the majority then you’ll be fighting a war you cannot win. You’ll dig your own hole deeper and deeper.

    Its hard to accept the way things are sometimes. I personally try to steer well clear of politics in general. It often just stirs trouble.

    Hope you got something from what I’ve said, anyway.

    Everyone is fighting their own battles. Everyone is different and going through their own hardship. The world can be a better place as long as there’s people willing to support each other. I hope you got the support you needed, and good choice with using Beyond Blue.

  15. Isaac98
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    7 November 2020 in reply to Jolly Chaplin
    Its very difficult to constantly have to cope with, but its okay.. Its how it is unfortunately.

    However; I get that I'm super maldaptive and pretty defensive when dealing with this, but how do I not fight the majority without sacrificing myself? That means abiding by subjectively terrible laws along with silencing myself to make others feel comfortable when I'm had enough of being under others' boots, I don't know what else to do while being able to protect myself.

    Sorry, but this culture's pretty subjectively toxic so I'd rather preserve my cultural preferences from bossy people than be civil.. 

    I know its discriminatory to not trust Australian people because of a culture they follow, but its out of fear that they'd disown or hurt me if they found out who I really was if I tried to be friends with any of them. I don't know what else to do because most of our people even hate most or all Americans just because of their culture being more individualist so it feels rather scary connecting with them enough. It also doesn't help that I already been so bitter with Australia itself for a few years either, I wish I could somehow socialise with our people due to my kind being so rare here but its impossible without submitting to what they want instead of doing what I want. I need to somehow leave this country in at least a year or two.

    Though, I may talk to my psychologist about this but I'm rather afraid that he won't understand or may potentially force me into more serious mental health treatment for looking dangerous when I'm not.
  16. Sophie_M
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    7 November 2020 in reply to Isaac98
    Hi Isaac,

    We’re sorry to hear that you find Australian culture toxic. It sounds lonely to be so distrustful of others. We’re concerned about you, so we’re getting in touch with you privately.

    We would strongly urge that you do open up to your psychologist as this will enable them to provide you with the best care. However, please know that there is always support available, also between sessions. If you would find it easier to open up over the phone, MensLine Australia is a free 24/7 telephone and online counselling service for men with emotional health concerns. You can contact them on 1300 78 99 78 or https://mensline.org.au/

    We would also urge you to get in touch with Kids Help Line. They are a confidential and anonymous, telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged 25 and under. There is a webchat service available on the website if you’d prefer to speak over the internet.

    If you would like to post further, please tell us more about what's on your mind and how we can best help you get through this tough period.

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