Hi and welcome to the forum.
It sounds like you’ve got a lot on your plate right now and it sure doesn’t help that there’s a global pandemic bubbling away in the background. I’m not surprised that you feel overwhelmed and that you’re struggling to cope. Hugs to you.
I’m really sorry for your loss. I imagine that with the kids and life it’s hard to even find the time to grieve. I know I felt that way.
I lost my mum two years ago—can’t believe it’s been that long, seems like just yesterday—and felt my life was so busy that I had to slow down a bit to deal with my loss. Everything felt out of control and off kilter.
Grieving is a process, akin to riding a roller coaster with highs, lows and unexpected twists and turns—minus the fun. But I can tell you that it does gets easier over time.
I think it helps at times like this in life to be kind to yourself and to look after yourself. Try to make time to do something you enjoy each day—even if it’s just half an hour to read or listen to music. Aim to include some exercise daily, as it will help to lift your mood. Try to get good rest and eat healthy food.
Most of all it’s good to stay connected with friends and family. Posting here was a great move, too. We are a community of people who understand mental health and there is no judgment—just kindness and support.
Please post any time.
Kind thoughts to you