I think there is a lot of pressure on guys to conform to the image of being outgoing and self assured, but lots of guys are more reserved - as you say, not necessarily shy just quieter. I've always liked quiet men! They're often kind and more sensitive which always appealed to me.
Quiet people are sometimes mistakenly misinterpreted as aloof or unfriendly. I wonder if this happens to you at all?
I had the same pressure on me at your age to get married! I do understand what that's like and it gets really tough when your friends and colleagues start getting married and having families!!!
Don't let that pressure push you into a relationship that isn't right for you.
Things are opening up where I live and although we're not out of the woods with this virus, all sorts of social activities and events are starting up again and hopefully it won't be too much longer for you in Melbourne. I love Melbourne, I think you're lucky to live there! I have family there.
I was walking around here today and it was hard to recognise this regional city as suddenly all the shops and cafes are busy again and everyone is out and about again!
Have you thought about living in a share house with other people your age? That can be really fun! I used to live in a big share house in inner Melbourne and it was a great time!
You might find you're happy once you get work in your field and have friends and colleagues with the same interests. Most of the friends I have now I met through work.
I had to move here for reasons I won't discuss here and I've found it hard to break in as people seem to form tight friendship groups which I can't break into and long lockdowns have made it almost impossible! I've found the music scene here is the place I seem to fit in with best as they are friendly and more open to different types of people.
I fell in love with a quiet guy a long time ago so don't worry, you'll find someone!
I think you sound really nice! Some girl will be lucky to meet you believe me!
I think you should feel good about yourself!