To me, it sounds like you already are the better person, in comparison to those who are behaving in a highly questionable manner. To have the courage to take a hit, so your ex doesn't suffer speaks to your nature.
People...hmmm, they are a problem at times. You gotta wonder about people who have no problem with putting you down and bringing you down. What is their deal? If you belong to a Christian church, you also have to wonder what Christ would be saying to those people, under the circumstances. Could it be something like 'Why do you choose to believe in lies when you have the opportunity to seek the truth? Why do so easily believe the worst when the best in a person is presented to you?' Inspiration, as opposed to degradation.
Tyrone, this is a terrible and cruel test people are giving you. I feel it is a test for you to maintain faith in yourself. Do you think that maybe it is also a test that is requiring you to being questioning others, instead of questioning yourself? What do you feel would be some good questions to ask of others? Perhaps
- Why do you insist on depriving me of things in life? Why are you not inspiring me?
- Why do you insist on judging me, without having all the facts?
- Why do you insist on not looking for the best in me?
- Why do you not question your own behaviour, how cruel and heartless it is?
Just a handful of possible questions.
Tyrone, I hope you come to look back on this time in your life with the ability to say 'While I have done well in not failing to be there for others, others have failed me'. You will be able to see the full extent of your nature, your compassion, your tolerance and your courage.
Do not let the closed minds of others keep you from seeing the best in yourself. A closed mind can bring out the worst in people.