I’m new to this site and this is my first post so I really hope I’m posting this in the right place.

I moved over seas about nine years ago after a huge natural disaster. I felt fine about moving at first since I’d be free from what happened, but now after a few years I’ve started feeling really upset about it and I don’t know if it’s normal to feel sad about it nearly every day or two.

I probably cant ever go back to that country due to passport issues and financial reasons and I just feel hopeless so I’m giving up on the idea because I’ve been told it’s childish and that I need to get over it. I just don’t know how to stop feeling so upset about it when I’ve been feeling like this for years.

could someone please offer some advice?

Hi WheresTheMarmite

Welcome to the bb forum and thank you for sharing your story.

I can understand how you feel, as I have experienced intense homesickness myself. I came to Australia some 30 years ago to marry the love of my life, yet despite the happiness, I still had some real difficulties at times. Particularly when mothering young children.

It's never easy to leave your home country, even if it was for a very good reason. And home sickness is gut-wrenching stuff. I am so sorry that you now find yourself struggling with this issue.

What helped me to get through was to decide that I couldn't live my life waking up everyday wishing I was somewhere else. And since there was no way to move home, I decided to make it work. It was either that, or be miserable. Life is too short to waste time.

I had to live my best life, which meant focussing on what I had and learning not to worry about what I didn't have.

It's easier said than done, but it can be done.

Kind thoughts to you