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Forums / Young people / I feel anxiety, insecure and hopeless; all sorts of bad things daily.

Topic: I feel anxiety, insecure and hopeless; all sorts of bad things daily.

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  1. anonymoussss12
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    8 September 2021
    From my self-esteem and how my current daily routine is really stressful.
    I binge eat, get fat-shamed, shamed for my anti-social n gloomy personality, I don’t feel that my family and friends can stand me anymore. I’ve become less enthusiastic n less motivated to do anything, I relieve my stress with food, I started to hate myself, especially my weight gain, I get no nice comments from people around me, the first thing they say isn’t how are you but you’re so fat now, what happened to you. Also, I chose to do art for uni because that’s the only thing I’m good at and enjoy but I feel the disappointments around me. My parents say it's fine but also say “I wish I had at least one child who did a good career like a doctor.” I’ve never gotten compliments or praised for anything I do. I don’t feel like a proper adult and I’m already in uni, not ready for grown-up things to handle, I stopped driving lessons cos I was ashamed at how slow I am compared to all my friends who all have licenses now and some say ‘just get it, if I can, u can too, why haven’t u still’ but every mistake I make, I feel so guilty and embarrassed to continue on.
    My friends don’t call me out to hang anymore too, they must think I’m a drag to gatherings or I’m too ugly and sad for them. I cry myself to sleep very often now. Also, my parents are basically splitting up and everything around me has made me have no hope for my future. It doesn’t sound like anything big or major but all these things accumulating has made me very depressed or fatigue (or at least that’s what I think it is cos some say ‘it’s just all in my head’ when I finally let out what I feel).

    I feel very lonely and useless.
    I’ve rarely opened up cos I’m scared more people will ignore me or get uncomfortable with what I say.
    Could I have any piece of advice and comfort pls??
  2. Croix
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    8 September 2021 in reply to anonymoussss12

    Dear Anonymoussss12~

    I'd like to give you a warm welcome here to the Forum, where so many people have gone though hard times there is no judgment, just a desire to share and help. You will never be put down here or have the feeling others are disappointed.

    It is one of the sad facts of human nature that if you are constantly put down, feel an object of disappointment, lead to believe you not as able as others and most importantly are starved of the praise everyone needs then you start to believe all those things, and judge yourself harshly, feeling less worthwhile and having nothing to offer.

    OK, so in part you have coped by eating. This is a pretty usual thing and there is even an organisation that is set up just to help. It's called the Butterfly Foundation and you can phone their Helpline (1800 33 4673.) or webchat or email for advice and assistance - they are very used to your situation

    https://butterfly.org.au/get-support/helpline/

    Being so down you can't complete your driving lessons, feel less able than others, cry by yourself and get to feel the things you are good at are not worthwhile is a horrible way to live. It is a real shame as life can be so much better. Your parents were silly, if the gave genuine encouragement to you and to themselves as well they may not be thinking of a split.

    Your parents possible split will mean you need to be able to cope in better ways, and I realy think you need a had to do that. Have you heard of the Kids Help Line (1800 55 1800)? They are very friendly, and very competent, and not prone to overreact but be sensible. You can call, webchat or email

    https://kidshelpline.com.au/

    It can be comforting to talk with a human voice that knows how things are and makes good suggestions.

    Talking of talking is there anyone in your life you can talk with , who you do not have to hold back with and will simply listen and care? It can be a big help.

    I think I've said enough for the moment, there is more of course, but I'd like you views on all this - and also particularly about the kind of art you like,

    I hope to hear from you again

    Croix

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