I’ve recently left my mums because our relationship was fractured and wasn’t getting any better, stayed on the streets for a week or so and then moved back into dads, dad and I have had a history of abuse and name calling but he was working really hard to get better and has been doing a fantastic job, but there’s still the underlying tones and the memories, when we have fights it goes straight to me being called names and him telling me various ways he wants to harm me, mum and I left dad because of how much of a horrible person he was and I’ve always resented him for it but he’s stuck around in our lives and I dislike it very much and they still hangout all the time and it makes me uncomfortable because they play happy families, I want to move on and I want to move out but even before the struggles of covid-19 I was living on $120 a week on my 10 hours at hungry jacks due to my lack of school qualifications, and a lot of that money went to abusing drugs and alcohol to make myself feel better after having to deal with all the abuse in my household, I’m in now way saying I’m a perfect child and a lot of it started from me rebelling against the way dad brought me up, I don’t have any idea what to do but I want to move out, Or some guidance,

 

please and Thankyou for your help

Chris <3

Hi, welcome

At 17yo I joined the Air Force. Not everyone is suited though.

The defence forces provide- adult wages, meals and accommodation, adventure, mate ship, a career and later a home loan not to mention fun and free medical.

worth thinking about.

TonyWK

Gday Tony

Thankyou for your reply

I struggle a lot with my social anxiety amongst other things one of the biggest things I’ve struggled with is taking the first step I’ve always been better suited to running away from things it’s how I’ve always coped and whilst it’s something I’m working on it’s something I still do a lot, I don’t know how I’d going joining any forces because I don’t know how I’d cope with the stress etc

but Thankyou for your message it’s something I’ll look into very much appreciated!

Hi there, I am don't have much experience in the military as I am only 13. The only experience I have is ROBLOX Army groups. They were horrible those groups to me and gave me some PTSD and made my parents hate games so much that they have banned me from anything multiplayer. And has almost discouraged me from joining the military. But luckily, those groups are not real, and the real military treat their members much better then they would ever do!

But I do want to help. The Military do accept far and wide, from the most strongest, to the most inspired, and even people like you. Because even if you don't have the experience yet, they will help you to become experienced. They even help people who can't swim, to swim!

Hey Chris,

I just want to start by saying there are a few things you mentioned which actually are really important steps towards a secure, independent and happy future (I'm sure reading your story that you will get there).

While the hungry jacks job isnt the glamour life really some of the best jobs you can have as a young person are COLES, McDonalds, Officeworks etc. This is because every employer knows what you can accomplish having worked in these roles. They are all looked on really favourably and if you are a hard worker will always provide a channel toward both increased responsibility and $$$. Be proud of your ability to hold down a job through all these difficulties its a major achievement and you can wear it as a badge of honour when youre feeling like the situation is hopeless.
Together with government support (centerlink) you can start putting money away but the second key is the maturity in living alone (which is often as hard).
Having experiences with drugs and alcohol doesn't make you weak, but better informed on what may hold you back. We all have vices, but we have to make the choices as to how many we indulge in. Believe me there are so many ways to feel amazing that don't cost a week's wages in a few hours. Exercise, friendships and accomplishing self-determined goals are the trick.

Set yourself challenges:
Learn to cook a new meal (youre gonna spend a lifetime cooking, may as well get good)
Manage a weekly budget. Grow your savings.
Learn something new (youtube is great for this (school of life, eddie wu, etc).
Make a new friend who shares which betters you.

As you accomplish yourself you will not only gain the confidence to move forward but become the best judge of who leads you forward and who holds you back. Youre young enough to accomplish anything. There is more time ahead of yourself than you can imagine. Ask for opportunities to show people how you talented and determined you are. Build the structure for your new life and surround yourself with thoughts who make you grow.