I have a child with anxiety and OCD who fell ill at age 13 (she is now 22).
I would also be questioning the advice your daughter says she received from headspace. If it helps, my daughter has never received advice of the nature your daughter says she has received.
If someone at headspace said these things, it doesn’t mean you have to adhere to it.
It’s hard to challenge “expert” advice—at least it was for me. I felt like I was “just a mum” and not qualified to question the experts.
I quickly learned that not all experts were necessarily providing the right advice for my child and/or family. I did a lot of research and work to find the “right” practitioners.
I would find it incredibly difficult to let the situation continue. I’m not a doctor but it just doesn’t feel right to me and you yourself are observing that it really isn’t helping. How can so much screen time be good for anyone? How can your child function whilst tired at school?
I would suggest you ask your daughter if you could attend for the last 10 minutes of her next appointment. The purpose would be for you to ask the practitioner how best to support her and ask questions.
I would also suggest you do some research into “plan B”. This might include a joint visit to your GP to review the current treatment plan and seek advice on other ways to access professional help.
Your daughter is obviously resourceful and independent and that is to be applauded. But she is still a child.
She lives in your house and her illness and behaviour affect you (and presumably the rest of the household), so in my book you have a right to be included in the treatment process.
I was lucky that my daughter agreed, let me in and largely let me guide her through it. I think it’s really important that you make your case from a place of love and concern and not control.
Does any of this make sense to you? Happy to keep talking.
Kind thoughts to you