Hello Mum Chris, (you didn't say, would you rather be 'Chris'?)
I dn't know about wise words, but one thing seems clear, if someone is not ready, & their minds are not open to help from anyone, you cannot make that horse drink! That's where that analogy belongs.
& another thing, a really frustrating thing, is when you are so absolutely convinced of your own position, that when someone voices another you simply are unable to accept another person does indeed have a right to hold those opinions. Wish they didn't, & you can't stop them either.
If you can both be open to discussion, agreeing to disagree, you might come to understand why they have their opinion & they might come to understand yours, & hopefully, you'll both feel you were heard.
Don't ask me how to achieve this ideal sort of communication - I'm not there yet! That's something my PDr & I are working towards, little by little.
For the most part, when someone makes some sweeping statement, usually it seems without thinking first, I firstly, feel I don't know where to start - because I want to refute what they've said, after all ,it's the offensive comments that we notice. But I usually must let it go. I don't know anything I can say to persuade people from those 'outrageous' views.
& they may think what we think is equally outrageous, right? Don't they have a right to that opinion?
However, I also think, certain comments must be responded to. I can also agree with this statement, that offensive & derogatory, racist, sexist, etc statements must be challenged. If we don't feel we can voice our own objections, & let them go unchallenged, they will go on making such statements, conveniently assuming they are okay.
My problem, when I would like to challenge what someone has said, is that I am easily intmidated, I also feel if I cannot give a well-thought out & knowledgable response, they will have good enough reason to reject my argument then & there, making me look 'stupid'. No, I'm not, just lack self confidence & esteem.
The voice you hear from a recording is missing the sound you perceive because of the way the bones of the skull add some tonal qualities that the recording device can't pick up. Something like that, I think, from something I heard long ago, echoing around my head... worth researching?
But shopping to do now.