dear JC, I would like to thank you for posting your comment on this site, as sometimes people are hesitant in telling others how they feel, but it's good that you, because AGrace can relate to your situation and her remarks are something that you will relate to.
It's no fault of yours that you have border line personality disorder, you never put your hand up saying that you want it, and your husband has no respect for your illness, nor does he have any inclination of wanting to help you, and to keep the family unit together, which also includes your daughter of 8 years with him, and at 10 years old they are now developing into an adolescent with so questions they want answers to.
I know your love for him, but unfortunately it's not reciprocated, because all he wants to do is to play up, and eventually he will tire with this female and again move on, so it's going to be his ongoing problem.
I am so sorry that he hasn't supported in your endeavour to get well. L Geoff. x