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Topic: how can I start transitioning

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  1. uhhhhhh
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    9 January 2021

    Hello,

    I am 15, i recently figured out that I am ftm transgender and I've only told a couple of friends who I know are also transgender and my mother. My mum didn't really know how to react. it wasn't much of a conversation but I'm pretty sure she was supportive. it was a really tough conversation for me since I'm already really shy and embarrassed about my existence around my mum lol. She's trying to get me to see a therapist which is nice but she won't let me change my name yet.

    i want to ask if I can start hormone therapy but I'm so scared or being rejected. anyone know any tips on how I can build up enough courage to ask

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  2. Tay100
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    9 January 2021 in reply to uhhhhhh

    Hi uhhhhhh

    It's great that you are here to share your story and that you've approached your Mum. Being vulnerable like this can be very hard, but it's very important and shows amazing growth.

    As for the hormone therapy, you could actually ask the therapist about how to best seek out treatment and how to ensure your Mum and anyone else in your support network is as supportive as possible. You can also check out the Sexuality and gender identity thread here to find out more general advice on building up more courage on how to take those next steps too. Feel free to let us know how you go!

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  3. uhhhhhh
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    9 January 2021 in reply to Tay100

    thank you so much this is really helpful.

    thanks

    alex

     

  4. eight
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    10 January 2021 in reply to uhhhhhh

    congrats on coming out to your mum alex even if it didn't go warmly. you mentioned at the beginning of the post you also have trans friends - are any of them out or transitioning, have you asked them how they got there? they might be able to recommend you people or places

    if you want to discuss legal/medical transition the process usually depends on what state you live in - are you comfortable divulging where, mate? no sweat if you aren't. if you're planning to discuss with your therapist a good professional will try to walk through it with you but having a plan or the know-how can help you bring up the topic with your mum

    also if you haven't yet and have the financial means to do so try looking into buying chest binders (alt. sports or compression bras) or packers. good investments 👍

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  5. uhhhhhh
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    10 January 2021 in reply to eight
    thank you for replying
    none of my trans friends are out yet only to a couple of our other friends, I did say where I was located in that post but it got deleted since I don't think I'm allowed to say on here. do you know where I can maybe find good therapists or gender therapists I don't know where to start. i saved up for a binder and finally got my first binder a week ago :)

    thank you so much!

    alex

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    10 January 2021 in reply to uhhhhhh
    hello alex,

    so glad you've reached out - you are amongst friends here.

    i just thought i would mention a couple of places that might help you, regardless of your location - they have heaps of resources that will help you:

    * qlife.org.au

    * gendercentre.org.au

    and you are always welcome here to talk through anything you are going through.



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  7. Tay100
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    11 January 2021 in reply to uhhhhhh

    Hi uhhhhhh

    No worries at all! There is some great dialogue from others you can consider too. Let us know if you have any more questions and feel free to continue to use this thread to share your story and your progress!

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  8. Tay100
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    21 January 2021

    Hi uhhhhhh

    Just thought I'd check-in and see how your progress was going? How are things with your Mum and seeking out treatment? We are here if you would like to share.

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  9. uhhhhhh
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    22 January 2021 in reply to Tay100

    hey,

    thank you for asking. we did end up seeing my gp and I should be getting in to see a gender therapist soon which is really great :) still haven't been able to change my name around her but I have emailed my school about changing it within the school and they said they'll do what they can which is awesome. I've come out to some other close friends and I'm so lucky that they're supportive. She is being supportive i think she just doesn't want to do the wrong thing.

  10. Tay100
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    29 January 2021 in reply to uhhhhhh

    Hi uhhhhhh

    Oh goodness, that is great! Hopefully, the school will make name/pronoun changes soon! And being able to see a gender therapist will be such a foundation for you. It's good to hear your Mum is supportive, and hopefully she will be open to name changes soon. How are things going with your Mum generally?
    Having helpful school mates is great too- are you excited for school to start again soon?

    Tay100

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  11. uhhhhhh
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    4 February 2021 in reply to Tay100

    hey,

    yeah im not so sure anymore about my mum. She still hasn't bothered to make and changes with using different pronouns or even ask about the name again and she has barely talked about the topic apart from one time she said that I was faking it because it's in the media heaps. she's still taking me to the clinic to get an analysis thing but we haven't gotten a call back. I haven't gotten an email back from my school and school did start a week ago and the teachers have been using my deadname very often so I'm scared to ask again about it bc people in my class might question it and my friend is already being bullied for 'acting gay' and I get made fun of already for 'looking like a lesbian'

    i really want to make changes with my name because i do look quite different from the end of last year and I just wanted to start fresh with a new name and have no one question it but I guess I can't now

    anyway thank you so much for checking up :)

  12. Missing user
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    5 February 2021 in reply to uhhhhhh

    Hey uhhhhhh.

    Congrats on coming out as transgender, I'm proud of you. I do hope your Mum and friends were supportive, even if the conversation wasn't that long. Regardless, we support you here.

    I don't know much about sexuality and transgender (please forgive me and don't hate me), but I fully support you.

    I hope you can start therapy, and get hormone injections, like you said.

    Best of luck.

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  13. Tay100
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    8 February 2021 in reply to uhhhhhh

    Hi uhhhhhh

    No worries, we are here to support you! And you absolutely deserve the fresh start you crave. Could you email the school again or speak to someone directly, so that all the teachers are briefed properly and call you by the correct name? And when do you expect to hear back from the clinic?

    Tay100

  14. uhhhhhh
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    4 March 2021 in reply to Tay100

    hey,

    it's been ages and I came out publicly to pretty much everyone but the rest of my family. I don't think id ever get to a clinic. My mum said to me "you don't want to be a boy, you're just confused and going through puberty" and then just continued to bash on my door since I didn't want to let her in bc I was really upset about her saying that. I'm now kind of kicked out of my mum's house which is fine I guess since I can just go to my dad's.

    i am seeing a therapist because I ended up asking my dad for help and the therapist helps with lgbtqi issues I think. I can try and come out to my dad since I do know he's more educated on lgbt issues and he is more supportive but it's still hard. with the school, I talked to a school counselor and I think I can change my name through the school when I'm ready which is good.

    thank you for asking

  15. Jo8049
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    5 March 2021 in reply to uhhhhhh

    That's awesome . Through the therapist you should get some good ideas . Remember be kind to your self and do seek support as it is so necessary whatever your age .

    I have been doing home grown hormones for quite a while but supervised is so much safer . Yesterday ( 4th ) I had my first gender clinic appointment . Absolutely fantastic !!! Had no idea there are so many beautiful folk in the health system .

    Find the true self and be happy . It will all come in time . You are brave , I know !

    Best wishes and enjoy the ride

    Jo&LD ( hugs & lol )

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