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Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. Shelll
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    27 March 2020

    Media is definitely a no goer for me. I only watched and listened to an update from channel 9 for about 1 minute.

    And I started to feel troubled and fear. I started to soak up the media presenters own emotions.

    Wish they can say some happy things.

    Well I am not going to live in fear, not going to be motivated by fear, not going to be trapped in fears jaws, not going to consumed by fear and not going to be a slave to fear any longer.

    Instead I am going to look up into the sky, focus on beauty and lovely things, smile at people. (if I happen to see any)

    Those presenters don't smile. They are just spreading doom and gloom.

    A cheerful heart is good medicine. Surely that is what everyone really needs. Myself included, as I am not feeling cheery at all.

    I feel for me, I just have to take a vacation in my thoughts about this whole virus thing.

    Distraction, think pleasant things, focus on whatever makes you smile. Notice the beauty.

    I need look at little babies they can still smile and laugh at the simple things in life. They seem to have a simple trust that everything is going to be okay.

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  2. Kewbear
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    Struggling with anxiety for a while now but Coronavirus has tipped me over the edge. The last 12 months I’ve struggled since my Dad was diagnosed with motor neurone disease. My 77 year old mum is carer with my sister and myself trying to help. I work full time and live 100 kms away but I am there on most days off. I am married with no children. Dad is 100% dependant on us. He cannot walk or use his arms so relies on mum for feeding, toileting, hoisting into wheelchairs and bed etc. His mind and mental capacity is perfect which makes it very frustrating for him. His frustration means he is demanding of mum and they bicker and argue as they both struggle with his reliance on her. I work in the health field. I struggle not only with the grief of watching my Dad suffer/die but can also see it sucking the life out of my mum. I am trying to be strong for them and help but deep inside I am crumbling. I feel I can’t let this happen or let them know it’s happening as my sister and I are all they have. We don’t want to put Dad in a nursing home if we can help it. So, I decided to take 6 months leave from work to move in with them to help mum with the physicality of looking after Dad. This begins in 3 weeks. However, I am not sure how my mental health will cope with this and not being able to escape from the situation. Now add in the Coronavirus and I am falling apart. The fear of contracting it at work (essential health worker) is one thing. The fear of my mum and dad getting it (both would almost definitely succumb) another. I had planned on returning home to see my husband a couple of days every few weeks both to see him and as a sanity break. However, now I fear that this will expose me to the possibility of corona as I feel without me around reminding him he may not be as compliant with washing hands etc. Mind you I am obsessing about cleanliness to the point I disinfect things constantly. And now the straw that breaks the camels back. My husband is over me obsessing about everything and not coping with my anxiety. He acknowledges the problem I have with dad but thinks I overdramatise everything and make it into a bigger problem than it is. He can’t cope with me and my anxiety anymore and we are arguing. So now I have an added anxiety of my marriage suffering. I just don’t know what to do. I’m normally the strong one that people come to for help and advice but now I feel so out of control. I can’t sleep, cry all the time and don’t even like being around myself
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  3. Sleepy21
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    27 March 2020 in reply to Shelll
    Wandering if anyone has this problem - I do not have laundry facilities in my apartment.
    So now I have 2 problems, to go out and to use coins which is the way that laundry machines work>
    I don't have any coins and would have to get change from somewhere.

    My doctor said I should stay awy from shops, but I now need clean clothes and sheets very desperately :(
  4. Kewbear
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    27 March 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach
    Thanks Pepper, I just read your post and it’s what I am trying to do. Take things day by day. I might go outside, take a walk in the open air and try and find some beauty in life. It won’t take my problems away but I need to find ways to cope
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  5. It’sme
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    Self Isolation

    I hear people are struggling with self isolation. Yes it’s going to be tough for many and I worry about the mental health of our nation. I worry about the people who have lost their jobs. Who are feeling desperate.
    Welcome to my world. This is how it has been for a large amount of my life. As a disabled person who parents a disabled person we are accustomed to isolation. The only difference is, we did not choose it. It was not due to a directive of our government. It was due to people’s fear of difference.
    Since this started I have made an effort to reach out to people to check on them. I started a street pantry. I email and text funny memes to family and friends. Because I know too well how it feels. Being accustomed to isolation does not make things easier for me with the covid19 crisis. My anxiety is creeping up. I’m worried about my parents. I see people assaulting the elderly over toilet paper. This is nuts. We need to be supporting our most vulnerable not attacking them.
    So I decided to write some words down in a circle. I’ve been learning about physically stepping into a circle that I visualize in moments of joy. It helps you create an anchor. Something to keep you grounded when facing difficult times.
    Please use my words to help you create your own anchor.
    Step into the circle
    I wish you all well. Please stay at home. Read a book. Play some music. Write a journal. Bake something. Plant something. Write a letter to a loved one and post it. Sing out loud. Dance around. Start a tag you’re it with friends by sending funny or beautiful memes. And tell me if you can think of any other great activities.
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  6. Guest_9043
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    I just really need to vent right now. I feel like screaming. I'm being pushed way beyond my capacity to cope with this anymore. My anxiety is no issue, my depression is severe and it's getting worse each day. I do not watch nor read any news at all. For my sanity. It is like I have no choice but to see what's going on as no matter how much you just try minimise it, it's like a disease itself without the coronavirus.

    I went shopping thus morning and for the first time ever since this happened we were told exactly what to do at the checkout and then remember for next time how to proceed as we made a mistake. For goodness sake, we are not used to this. Give us a damn break. I felt like we were cattle being herded not treated like people.
  7. Bellajade
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    27 March 2020
    It's been really hard especially when I'm already quite isolated and dealing with external and personal stressors, being this completely isolated is creating a lot of panic for me and making it hard to keep on my uni tasks :/
  8. Ellu
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    27 March 2020

    My son taught me this mini-meditation : use it when you feel that awful wave of anxiety or stress starting to overwhelm you.First, think of three things you can see. Look at them carefully, their shapes and colours. Now think of three things you can hear. Listen to their different sounds. Now think of three things you can smell; savour each smell and lose yourself in it.

    If you concentrate on this and focus your attention on your senses you will find that you suddenly feel less anxious/stressed. It sounds silly, but it works - I speak from personal experience.

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  9. Matchy69
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    The thing with living in a small country town is like the coronavirus dosnt exist.Kids are at playing the neighbours are still talking to each other like they allways do but then you go into the big town people walking around in mask and gloves,the shop shelves are empty,social distancing is taking place.It really hits you when i have to go into the big town.
  10. Con:nie
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    27 March 2020

    I wanted to begin by saying how much I value and appreciate everyone's advice on this forum, it is nice to see that I'm not alone in my feelings.

    The full scope of this virus has only just begun to hit me. I have lost 90% of my hours at work, and with not much annual leave I am likely to go on unpaid leave soon. I was in the midst of a mortgage application to build a house, which will have to be postponed until all of this has passed and work goes back to normal which has devastated me. Although I know it is for the best, the thought of going into lockdown absolutely terrifies me and I am filled with anxiety every time someone talks about it. My depression and OCD are getting worse and I am fighting to keep them at bay. It is exhausting. My parents keep telling me to stay positive, and that our relatively small city will be fine. Anyone else find this frustrating, when it seems like nobody is sharing in your fear? I feel ridiculous sharing these concerns with my partner, always being the person that has blown things off in the past. But this time feels different. Despite the fear around impending lockdown, in a way I am almost hoping for it, so that at least we will have an answer. The uncertainty around 'what's next' seems to be the worst part. How is everyone coping with the uncertainty, and learning to sit with that awful feeling?

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  11. Sleepy21
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    27 March 2020 in reply to Ellu

    Hey Ellu - not sure how old your son is , but that's a really amazing trick!!

    I do that with 5 things each, and it helps!

  12. Sleepy21
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    27 March 2020 in reply to Con:nie
    hey Con:nie, that can sound frustrating and a bit invalidating. It's pretty normal to be worried, confused, overwhelmed. I don't think it comes down to "having a good attitude."
    The uncertainty is very hard for me. I feel insecure. I do find, similar to you, when I speak to a particular family member, that she can't relate to my anxiety at all about it, and talks to me like i'm a baby. Then I remind myself - who's panic buying, if no ones anxious? Anxiety is palpable and so common now, and not silly. I hope you can get some clarity with your partner, it helps during this time to have as much clarity as possible. Sending support and encouragement
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  13. Guest 6546
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    27 March 2020

    Hello Everyone :-)

    While the current situation is scary – it doesn’t have to be.

    There are three simple strategies you can adopt right now to eliminate, or at least significantly reduce the anxiety and fear of the unknown:

    1. "This too shall pass". This is a strategy for HOPE. Keep reminding yourself that this difficult situation - no matter how painful it is for you at this moment - is only TEMPORARY. There is a brighter future on the other side; see it in your mind, feel it in your heart, and KNOW that it is going to arrive.

    2. "You can't control everything - control what you can". This is a strategy for RESOLVE; your resolve to get through to the other side, no matter what. It brings your energy into focus: “what can I do right now to support myself in this crisis”? Focus on what is within your control, now: Your thoughts, your emotions, the time you go to bed….people you contact to talk to…..how you talk to your partner and your kids….what you eat and don’t eat…. whether you exercise or not….the music you listen to….the book you read…. how deeply you breathe… the plans you make…the changes you consider…See? You’ve got so much control over your life right now! This is the backbone of your RESOLVE that you WILL get through this to the other side.

    3. "You are NOT alone - if needed, seek help”. This is an important strategy supporting your RESOLVE. Whether it’s a health issue; financial, emotional, or family pressure there is plenty of help available. The slogan “We are in this together” we are now hearing all over the place is not just a slogan – it is a back-bone truth. Reach out!

    In addition:

    - Breathe! Remind yourself to breathe deeply and slowly whenever you start feeling anxious. Imagine you are breathing through your heart in and out for few minutes. This bizarre technique will calm you down, I promise!

    - Ensure you are getting enough sleep. If you find it difficult to fall asleep at night, try to catch a nap during the day.

    - Meditate. Give yourself 15-30 minutes of uninterrupted time every day. Meditate in silence, to some relaxing music, or to a guided meditation. Simply relax, close your eyes and place your awareness on …nothing…the space around you. You are safe. All is well.

    Will see you on the other side! :-)

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  14. quirkywords
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    27 March 2020 in reply to It’sme

    welcome its me,Thanks for your helpful post.

    Bellajade thanks for making your first post and welcome.

    Can you keep in touch online with friends and text and message people?

    quantum 88 welcome to the forum and thanks for your informative post.

    here has been a lot written about what we can control and how we can help ourselves and others.

    ou have made a good summary of many of the points that have been discussed so far on this thread,

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    27 March 2020 in reply to Xtinex

    Xtinex

    Welcome to this thread. I am glad yout are trying things to make sure you are calm. It is hard when you are surrounded by so much information.

    Do songs help yoou calm.

  16. Sleepy21
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    27 March 2020 in reply to Matchy69
    hi Mark I find that one of the odd things about this, it's very different depending on where you are. Some of my friends are in an area with many cases and almost everyone is self-isolating. Other areas people are out on the street as normal. Til recently in my area I did see quite a few people in the shops. I guess now we have crossed over and are all following the same guidelines, which is good.
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    27 March 2020 in reply to quirkywords

    Instead of Watching the News I am : -
    Watching Arrested Development

    Lighting a candle and reading

    Emailing friends

    Listening to music

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  18. Guest 6546
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    27 March 2020 in reply to quirkywords

    Thank you.

    Yes, we do "know" a lot, but often don't pay attention or simply forget.

    There is nothing new under the sun until the light shines from a different angle. "oh, I haven't seen this before..."

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    27 March 2020 in reply to Sleepy21

    I read we should be saying physical distancing rather social distancing and physical isolation because we can stay in contact when home in many ways. Just a call to say I am thinking of you, how was your day, do you need anything.

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  20. quarantined
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    Hi all, I arrived back from overseas a few days ago. I am in self isolation but I am living with family in a small apartment. I am doing my best to keep my distance from them but it is very difficult. My family still have to work. I am waking up every day thinking I have coronavirus symptoms but usually end up deciding I am imagining it. I am feeling incredibly stressed. I am not worried for myself but so worried about unintentionally infecting my family. If I could do this week over I would go stay in a hotel by myself. I feel like I've made a huge mistake. Is there anyone else in this situation? How are you handling it?
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    27 March 2020 in reply to quarantined

    Hi Quarantined,

    Thanks for your enlightening post. Firstly, I think you're going great guns, and to write so openly should be commended.

    Secondly, you haven't made a mistake, your just doing your best, that's all a loved once could ask. Keep smiling and just rest, just rest.

    Looking forward to hearing back from you.

    Regards,

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  22. texoz4
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    I'm an Aussie living in the USA. More and more lately I'm having trouble controlling my anxiety. I have a "need to know" type personality and always research everything to the nth degree. With this virus, I found that I need to back away some as it was making the anxiety worse. Last night I looked at the current map and saw just how bad it has become here in the US and it hasn't even reached peak. I had a horrible anxiety attack. I'm afraid. I'm the poster girl for "underlying conditions." I'm in my early 50's, have medicated high blood pressure, suffer from asthma when sick, pre-diabetic. My eldest two kids, 20 & 17, don't take this seriously. They still want to go out and do stuff because they're bored. Of course their lax attitudes also add to my anxiety. We are currently all on lock down. Most places are closed here, except necessities. There's talk of opening up stores and businesses again next week. The thought of my kids going back to work this soon is terrifying.
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    28 March 2020 in reply to Guest 6546

    Hi Everyone :-)

    the power of 'distraction' can be a huge plus during this temporary crappy period

    we are here and listening

    Paul

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    28 March 2020 in reply to texoz4

    Hi Texoz

    I feel for what you are going through....'kids' at 20 & 17 dont take a lot seriously....as you know they are invincible and having a good time

    I understand you about having 'spiking' anxiety.....this is awful yet very common to have...I hope you can 'let go' of tracking the media....I just realised that I have been doing the same Texoz and have to back off as my anxiety has been accelerating...doh! Have you spoken to your doc about this? You have nothing to lose by doing so

    you are always welcome to write your own thread (same for everyone above) as you will have better support :-)

    just a friendly note...I have a 26 year old daughter that lives with her BF and has the same attitude...oh my god

    my appreciation and kind thoughts:-)

    Paul

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    28 March 2020 in reply to blondguy

    It's good to see that so many newcomers have joined the forums by posting on this particular thread because this is something that none of us has had to go through before, in such a large magnitude, with lockdowns and restrictions in what we are able to do.

    We are all in full support of one another and hope the sooner a vaccine has been trialled and then approved, then we can get back to life.

    Remember to have the 'flu shot' this winter, if you decide to, as my GP says every year it improves, which brings me to the question, I wonder how many people have had last years flu injection and not had coronavirus.

    Take care.

    Geoff.

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  26. randomx
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    28 March 2020 in reply to geoff

    Gees that's a bloody good point Geoff. l've never had one but l'll get one this yr just as soon as they're out - when do they start btw ?

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    28 March 2020 in reply to randomx

    Hi Randomx

    If you didn't know, you can also receive a flu shot at most pharmacists. I called to book in our family last week (my usual practice) and was told the vaccine will be available in April.

    Kind thoughts to you

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    Hi everyone,

    I hope you are all being extra gentle & kind to yourselves (and each other) during this challenging time.

    I just wanted to address and thank some lovely forum members who addressed me directly on this thread.

    I hope that’s okay :)

    Summer Rose: Thank you so much for your very encouraging and supportive words. It was generous & unexpected, & made me tear up a little.

    It is now Saturday, so I’m in a more relaxed state of mind compared to earlier in the week. Many thanks again for supporting so many of us, including me, and I hope you’re taking good care of yourself this weekend :)

    Kewbear: I’m glad that my words resonated. Yes, I think there is definitely something to be said about taking things day by day these days.

    May you continue to find some moments of beauty & light during this difficult time.

    All: I’ll be home as I don’t need to go out for work or essentials today. I think that I will look up some free exercise lessons online, make some art, and FaceTime a loved one tonight.

    Staying home is an act of love for myself, family, friends, & the wider community, so I always try to remind myself that :)

    Kindness and care to all,

    Pepper

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    28 March 2020 in reply to randomx

    Hi RX, he surgery where I go tell patients that names will be put on the list in April, that's in the country, and injections given to people by the pharmacist may not have all the strains as what the one is given to you by your doctor, so just check.

    Only going from what my GP told me.

    Take care.

    Geoff.

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    28 March 2020 in reply to texoz4

    Hi Texoz4

    Firstly, I'm sorry you are experiencing increased anxiety. This is a really hard time, particularly in the USA. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

    I have young adults (22 and 24) living in our family home and we have had many discussions regarding their need to adhere to social distancing requirements. It's a little different for us in that, their father works in an essential service. The consequences of him falling in would be catastrophic, not just for our family but for our State.

    Talking to them about the need for all of us to work as a unit has resonated with them. They understand that no one in our home can put others at risk because we are only as strong as our weakest link.

    We set the rules together. I do the weekly shopping, hubby continues to work and they stay home and study uni on line. Everyone can take two walks a day. At the first sign of a sniffle or symptom, the unwell family member will be isolated within our home.

    It's really as simple as that. Although we did have to fork out for some new gym equipment to keep the peace.

    Without overly scaring them, try talking with your children some more. They need to appreciate the very real consequences for you should they bring the virus in your home.

    Kind thoughts to you

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