i feel like I have had a small breakthrough yesterday. My husband had told me he didn't want to talk to anyone or go on medication as he didn't want to bring it all up again. Yesterday I made he suggestion that he could ask his new doctor to go through his file and see what medication he was on last time (as at that time it worked) and perhaps that would be a start. He shot me down! So I left it and didn't say any more.
i made my way out to uni, I had a big assessment and my mind just isn't in it, it's the last week of the semester and I have so much stress around that but I can't focus. Anyway, I had been at uni one hour when I received message, from my husband. He told me he is ready to ask for help, he told me it wouldn't be easy and he would have more trouble sleeping as that happens when he drags everything up. But he knows he needs to act now for mine and the kids sake. and his of course. I felt instant relief this is the start I wanted. I sent him a great big message back, telling him how good that makes me feel, how I know it will be hard but we are there for him, how I don't want to loose him or end up in the same position we did last time which was him with no job, no money, debts etc.
his doctor is on leave so he wanted to wait for him to return to book an appt, straight away rang the doctors to see when his doctor is back , not until end of July. That's too far away, so last night I told him about it and he said well I guess I just need to see someone else then. This is good, alough I'm still very worried and I don't know the direction our lives are going to take in the coming months, this is a good start.
Thank you for listening.
Ps. I can't help but think I put this thread on the wrong page, possibly should be on the carers page. Do u know if I can fix this?