I’m really sorry to hear that your daughter is so unwell. I know how hard this is for you, as I have walked in your shoes.
My daughter was 13 when she fell seriously ill with anxiety and OCD. She thought she was a freak and that we (her family) and the world would be better off without her.
I just remember being so scared. Slept on the floor of her room. Removed all sharp objects and medicines from our home. Had every mental health help line and emergency number in my phone.
I also felt guilt. I kept thinking we’d done something wrong or missed something. Truth is, she was seriously ill and it was nobody’s fault. She needed professional help and the right treatment—exactly the same as if we were dealing with cancer, heart disease or diabetes.
I also remember a profound sense of loss. I grieved my happy healthy girl and was terrified about her future. It was a long road but I got my girl back. She graduated high school, went on to university and part time work, has fallen in love, travelled (pre-Covid). She is amazing.
The best thing I ever did was to seek professional help for myself. I found a mental health nurse in private practice.
She helped me work through my issues but more importantly she coached me on how best to support my daughter. She also helped me navigate the mental health system, which is really tricky.
I think you and your girl will really benefit if you reach out for support. Your daughter really needs you now and you need your A game.
Before I finish, I want you to know two important things. First, you are not alone. Post any time to talk. Lean in friends and family. Talk to your husband.
Second, while people do unfortunately fall sick, they also get better. Recover is possible and it does happen with the right treatment and support.
You sound like an amazing loving mum. You are doing an amazing job in really difficult circumstances. You can do this.
Kind thoughts to you and your family