Hi loner welcome
Your friends suggestion of breaking up is the one reason not to seek their advice again. So sad I feel for your partner.
A few ideas-
If he vould seek a part time job, just a few hours a week it might help his confidence and distract his attention.
Radical ideas like seeking cheaper housing in a quieter environment
Listed below are some threads. Reply if you like on them or here. Use google.
Topic: be radical- beyondblue
Topic: the financial world of snakes and ladders- beyondblue
Topic: the balance of your life- beyondblue
Topic: who cares for the carer?- beyondblue
Topic: talking to men, some tips- beyondblue
Topic: how I eliminated anxiety- beyondblue
I hope they help