Hi Country Mum 82,
Thank you for sharing something so intimate with us on the forum, you sounds like a wonderful mother.
It sounds like your getting overwhelmed, and I'm so sorry to hear this. Have you taken your daughter to a mental health professional to see if she is suffering from anxiety? That could be a good first step.
Or maybe your just going through a rough patch, but don't let this rough patch worry you, things will turn out fine.
Keep being the great mother that you are and if you feel you need to talk with someone call the Beyond Blue line for a chat... a chat can go along way!
Let us know your thoughts.