Hi, I really need some help supporting my partner of 7 years who has been diagnosed with depression and harm OCD. Sorry, this post is probably going to be long.
He had been taking meds for depression when we started dating and we've managed to help each other with our mental health, until COVID hit.
He has been seeing his GP every couple of months about it all (now every few weeks) and has been going to all of his appointments.
However, he doesn't seem to be getting better, though he keeps telling me he is ok. There has been a few times where I have had to sit him down and push him tell me what's going on in his head as his body language is saying he's not. He seems to feel a bit better after talking, but getting him to keep communicating with me is doing my head in (so to speak). I try not to push all the time as it annoys me when people do that to me, but I have to sometimes so I know what's going on. He won't even tell me when he's seeing his GP, that's his meds have changed etc, unless I push him for it.
He tried to commit suicide last year and I'm worried he is heading in that direction again.
He has been recently diagnosed with harm OCD, is pretty much withdrawn from everyone and sleeps 14-15 hours a day.
I can hardly get a conversation out of him. He just replies with yes/no answers most of the time.
He has told me that nothing interests him anymore. He would rather be dead than alive. He also thinks the world would be better off without him. I'm doing my best to reassure him that this isn't the case but it feels like I'm talking to a brick wall.
Last week, I started getting him to come to the gym with mum and I twice a week. He seems to enjoy that so I will keep that up.
I don't know what else I can do for him. I feel helpless. I'm trying to not let it affect me, but it is. I can't save him and I really wish I could.
Any tips to help him (and my own mental health) would be great, especially with the harm OCD (totally new area for me).