Hello Mininonna, and a warm welcome to the site.
Your concern and dedication for your son is obvious and hope we can help you, although we aren't doctors, most of us have had similar problems, especially when they decide to hide whatever is concerning them and pretend that nothing is wrong.
Whether or not he is taking his medication is not known, but drinking, as well as gambling as a way to cope with his problems, may need the help he's been pushing away.
Being intoxicated, people have no fear in telling others what's happened although it may be exaggerated in some form, doesn't matter because at least they are talking with you.
There could be one problem that starts with this, and that's being that they may need to be intoxicated so they can then talk because when they are sober it's all hidden away, that's a situation we want to try and avoid.
Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800 are trained counsellors but they dress in casual clothes, which may break the stigma of seeing someone dressed in a tie and suit.
These people can be contacted by phone, webchat or online and you can contact them for their opinion.
Can we start with this and would love to hear back from, so we can continue.