Yeah, I can only imagine how difficult it must be without her there, given that you have been together for so long. And I must admit, it doesn't actually surprise me, now that I think about it, that there are people there much younger than your wife; most of the people that I drank with didn't even make it to 50. They all died quite young, in car crashes, or from alcohol-related diseases, or from suicide. The ones that have made it past 50, are the ones who turned their lives around, like I did. It's quite amazing that she has made it this far, being alcoholic and with mental ill health.
I do hope that she starts to settle in at least a little bit soon. For me, when I first got sober, I felt a bit the opposite; like I was the only young one, and that it was 'about time all those older ones stopped drinking, but what about me?' I thought I was too young and the wrong sex, and should come back when I actually had a poor pitiful story to tell. But that feeling and thinking didn't last for long. I began to really identify with the way that they described their feelings and their thinking patterns, and began to notice less and less of the 'age' of people, and more and more of that common thread; alcoholism and all the crap that comes with it.
Anyway, on another note, perhaps you would like to tell me about what you have been up to in the last 9 days? Have you managed to do something nurturing for yourself, like catch up with an understanding mate, or family member? Or maybe some gardening or golf or .... I don't know, something that helps you to relax, even if it is more mental relaxation than physical?
Given that your wife is obviously being kept very busy while at the rehab, perhaps this could be a good time to remember what you like to do, as well as what she likes to do, and develop a plan for the 'idle times' that may occur when she comes back home in a few months, yeah? If you are both retired, or not working as much as before, then it's the perfect time to do what YOU BOTH WANT to do, yeah?! Idle time can be dangerous time, as it's the perfect time for our minds to 'turn' on us and plummet into all those worst case scenarios it can possibly muster, and then some! Having a routine with plenty to do, is good for both mental health and physical health.
And now, I'm running out of room again! Must go. Keep in touch, yeah? You are both often in my thoughts.
Regards, Mel. xo