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Topic: Newbie

7 posts, 0 answered
  1. shucks46
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    19 posts
    1 April 2020

    G’day all

    46 year old single male from from Adelaide.

    I’ve suffered with depression sense my early teenage years. Though recently seems to be getting the better of me.

    Like others, I have times where things are going well then at the drop of a hat, it’s a major kick in the guts.

    Anyway, I’ll leave it at that and move on the to forum topics, where I’m hoping to learn a thing or 2.

    thanks any have a good day stay safe all.

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  2. Before
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    3 posts
    1 April 2020 in reply to shucks46

    Hi Newbie

    mom a newbie too! I read your introductory post and it resonates with me so I thought I’d say hello.

    im 48 and still overcoming a lot. Im pretty resilient I think but at the moment I’m a bit down. I don’t know whether it’s aid life crisis but I’m angry and then sad. I’m tired of not being able to meet with the expectations of others and then when I feel I’ve made a connection I say too much and it’s too intense I think.
    I’ve been looking for a Counsellor for an outlet and guidance with how to manage my emotions - I am negative and angry with the world but also incredibly time poor so can’t even schedule a time to see someone.
    I hope perhaps I will get some relief from talking with people who may have or going through similar.

  3. RJ#3
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    29 posts
    1 April 2020 in reply to shucks46
    Hey shucks46

    I'm fairly new too and I fully relate to what you say about everything going well then all of a sudden it's like a kick in the guts. I still don't know how or why that happens but it's scary sometimes.

    I find it really helpful sometimes looking around the forum at the different things people say and they're going through. I hope you do as well.

    Great to meet you.
  4. shucks46
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    19 posts
    1 April 2020 in reply to RJ#3

    Hi Robyn

    thanks for the reply.

    I’m thinking the same thing, looking around the forum in hopes of getting something out of. That’s the crazy part about this mental issue/s we know it’s their and sticks it’s ugly head out but the million dollar question is why or what’s causing it. I’ve been to counselors, in and out of mental wards and still asking why.

    Seems all the professionals want us to do is take medications, the way I see it that’s only a band aide, me personally I don’t like taking pharma poisons.

  5. shucks46
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    19 posts
    1 April 2020 in reply to Before


    Thanks for the reply.

    Mental health is hard for us to get our heads wrapped around mainly due to what ever under lying issue/s are causing the depression and/or anxiety.

    For me anger was and sometimes still is a problem, anger and hating the world and everything in it then comes the sadness out of nowhere. Meeting the expectations of others was something that I once thought highly of but after a while it seemed to me that was part of my problem/s ( worrying about) what others thought or expected of me which only caused a downfall when when they wasn’t met once I realized that I started focusing on what I expected from myself and stuff the the others.

    When I decided to finally seek help and actually going to see someone brought out the anxiety at first but got easier as time and visits went on but that’s the main thing for us do ( seeking help) rather it’s talking to a close friend/family member and so on which helps a lot as well though the counselor was and at times still plays a big part in the recovery process due to them being a outsider, nonjudgmental. On that note I did see a Facebook post from a registered professional here in Australia who is offering online, phone counseling for a very low fee of $35 a session, I’m happy to get her details for you if you’re interested?

    That is my intention as well joining this forum, reading through, communicating with others and how they deal and cope with what they’re going through. With that said Liv, I’m always happy to lend a ear and chat with anyone.

    Cheers and have a good day stay positive and safe.

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  6. Before
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    3 posts
    8 April 2020 in reply to shucks46

    Hi Shucks

    thanks for replying. I wasn’t expecting to hear from anyone on this post so it was a pleasant surprise to get your response.

    yes I am angry at the world. I do think it’s a mid life crisis although I have experienced a lot of trauma over the last 7 to 8 years and I’m only just realising the effect it has had on me.
    I think I need to reconnect with the world and get a new life. (Sod’s law that this feeling has come upon me during a pandemic requiring social distancing - although Upside of that is that I’m used to isolation and rarely venture out these days.)

    Have you been down for long - your advice is thoughtful.
    do you see Condell ORS very much? I should make the time To try and see a Counsellor Soon as . The time has come to face my anger and inadequacies. I am somewhat terrified as I know I just don’t fit the script and I get confused when Counsellor ask me questions which also make me uncomfortable.

    I hope we stay in touch and that you are feeling better. It was really nice to hear back


  7. geoff
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    15310 posts
    8 April 2020 in reply to Before

    Hello Liv, Shucks and Robyn, and realise that you are new, but have been reading through all your comments and understand your circumstances and apologise for the situation we are all in at the moment.

    I'm just concerned about the counsellor found on Facebook, although I'm not qualified or justified to make this comment, so can I just warn you that it may be a hoax.

    I may be wrong which I'm sorry for, but please be careful.


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