Hi Tony and all at Beyond Blue. I don't suffer depression as such although I did have some issues with it. I do have a problem that I would appreciate some ideas on dealing with it. About 3 years ago I foolishly reconnected with a guy I had known in the early '70's. We split after 3 years due to too much outside interference. I never saw him again till 3 years ago when I discovered he had relocated here (we knew each other in N.Z). Our lives had taken different paths and I have realised what we had is no longer. He phones me constantly, he lives about 40 minutes from me. I have repeatedly explained we have absolutely nothing in common. He is the 'waif/hermit' character and both traits are difficult. He is in a rental house which has drainage issues. His real estate agency has done nothing to assist him. I have given him option after option to follow but he chooses to do nothing, he complains regularly. I have blocked him, deleted him, ignored his repeated phone calls, I get abused and accused of being everything from ignorant to treating him with indifference. Nothing I do seems to explain why he needs to do something to improve his lifestyle. He has said countless times he needs to change and wants to, but saying and doing is two different things. He can't seem to grasp that I am not the same girl he knew all those years ago. He has told me several times he intends seeing his Dr to get a referral for a counselor but, as usual, he's done nothing. I'm at a loss to know what to do. Each time I block or delete him, he somehow finds a way to reconnect. I'm reluctant to report him to the police. I think he has brain damage as a result of a serious car accident, so I think his memory could be partly at fault. He is a semi-regular drinker. I don't drink or smoke so again nothing in common.