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Topic: seeking online support buddies

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  1. bettina1985
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    10 June 2013


    my name is bettina and i am new here, i was wonderering if anybody would like to become "online suport buddies" with me to help me overcome my mental health issues. im currently not seeing a counselor/support group nor have any friends due my current circumstances, im 27 years old.   

  2. baloo
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    11 June 2013 in reply to bettina1985

    hi, im new too. you still have friends, we just don't  think we do, and shut them out. why? cause we don't want them to see us like this. we hide our feelings , sometimes too well. 

    im 43 and shaking this black dog off my back . with help from friends. I thought I had lost them too. but had not, just lost myself.  Rich

  3. @butterfly
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    13 June 2013 in reply to bettina1985


    We can be friends, anxiety and depression is horrible. 

    I've wanted to leave this earth so many times.  I don't know how I make it to work some mornings.  It sucks because you can't put life on hold for this condition, the bills still roll in and you can't just quit.

  4. geoff
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    14 June 2013 in reply to bettina1985
    dear Bettina, it's good that we have new members join this forum, as we all need each others help, and welcome aboard. L Geoff. x
  5. LostNConfused
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    15 June 2013 in reply to bettina1985

    Hi Bettina, I'm new here as well.

    Personally i've felt like everyone in my life has abandoned me in one way or another - which is true but, good and bad, I still have some people i can talk to.

    In life you rarely if ever find friends who are strong enough or care enough to deal with people who have problems like me (after my suicide attempt - my best friend cut me off, and everyone else just doesn't want to talk about anything that isn't happy)

    I'm willing to be your support buddy - having someone to talk to, who understands what it's like to suffer is really helpful.

    Best of luck to you

  6. shattered_soul
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    16 June 2013


    I am new to this site too.

    I am extremely shy so I do not have many friends. I have one good friend who tells me we have a lot of mutual friends but it doesn't feel like it.

    My biggest regret in life is not having my heart broken, but not killing myself all those years ago when I had the chance.

    It would be really nice to connect with others who are struggling to stay alive and fight these demons.

  7. S.A.D.
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    16 June 2013

    Hello All. Thanks to Bettina for creating this thread. I'm

    m, 31yo, full package loon, and formally studying my condition at uni. The 7+ psychiatrists ive seen,  plus a dozen other doctors and another dozen shrinks, have been unable to categorize or diagnose me, even after years of tests and observations. I feel unique,  alone, isolated, different.  Slightly proud to have been a ground-breaking case study, and to be so different the results were inconclusive,  but mostly I'm lonely. Social interaction eludes me, especially intimacy,  and mostly because I don't feel worthy. Also partly because there are a lot of people offended by facetiousness. Can you take a joke?

  8. geoff
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    17 June 2013 in reply to S.A.D.

    dear All, ( except me ), yes this is a very good thread, and after reading the points you all make, it reminds me when 98%  of 'friends' disappeared, excluding my twin and someone who I still saw everyday, but my wife ( ex) always asked someone else to come and see me, the problem was that I didn't like this chap, as he was always after as much as he could get.

    So when he arrived without any notice I would hide from him, I didn't want to see him nor talk to him, I never felt comfortable with him, and if he brought his wife ( ex ) then the gossip would be spread around town in no time.

    So it got to the point where I just said to him that I want to be alone, in other words p------s off, thank god that worked, and now if I see him he barely talks to me, bingo, I still don't care. Geoff.

  9. Lucas
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    17 June 2013 in reply to S.A.D.

    Hi Bettina,

     Seems like you have many online support buddies here :D 29 yr old male and currently working in the mental health industry. If you have any questions feel free to message here :)

  10. Mel D 1978
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    28 posts
    17 June 2013

    I am a red hot mess but I'll be friends with anyone.


  11. shattered_soul
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    26 June 2013


    Just checking in...

    Hope everyone is surviving. I had a really bad week but I guess we all are.

    Stay safe everyone. Oh and feel free to drop me a message or contact me via posts!

  12. The Real David Charles
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    27 June 2013

    Dear Bettina,

    It's the Moderators Cat you want to be friends with.   To cross reference the movie "Pretty Woman" when the manager says "The maids know everything".   Well, the Moderators Cat knows EVERYTHING.    

    I've been responding for 2 years and have a good friendship with the one they call Geoff who has 2 dogs in his avatar.   The old BB site had a whole bunch of about 12 friends in a closely knit core but only a few transferred to the new BB site - Scotty2013 is one.   Scotty used to joke that all we needed to fix ourselves was a bit of burnt pavlova, or burnt pav.    We used to joke about that all the time when support was needed.  Plus, 95% used their real names.

    I find the number of new members very encouraging although I'm still a bit perturbed when I am responding to an anonymous user name (without gender) that seems more like a title from a Stephen King novel.  But, that's the new system.

    I hardly post at all - maybe once every couple of hours........I would have to say that any responding or posting is beneficial.   You can't always get such a diverse advisory canter when you are sitting in the stirrups of the counselling chair.  So, Tally Ho !  Or as the latest "Lone Ranger"movie led to clarifying, it's "Hi Yo Silver !" NOT "Hi Ho Silver !".   

    I hope you find your own "Hi Yo" or "Hi Ho" in these Boards.  And be nice to the moderators.  The line between rant and abuse is ever correcting.

    Adios, David.

    PS   A GP can put you on a Mental Health Plan and organise free counsellinig.  Mmm.  Probably should have put that first.  But, experience has taught me that most will respond to the last bit of info first in a post or email.  We tend to be friendly on BB as we are in similar situations within our uber communities.

  13. Carlo40H
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    27 June 2013

    Hi Bettina & all the group

    I've had Anxiety in the past like many years ago and has resurfaced recently.

    I thought I was trying to help my family with their respective health issues to find out that the Anxiety has just returned to my disappointment.

    The reason I got upset because I've gone out on a limb to help this relative but between him & his mum it felt like I was being rejected. So the moral of the story is in future don't help relatives that don't appreciate me.


  14. Gav
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    27 June 2013 in reply to bettina1985

    Hey Bettina, I'm new here but feel welcomed already by the wonderful people on this forum. I would gladly love to be a support buddy with you and help you with advice if I can and no doubt will learn from your experiences as well.

    I couldn't agree with David more with about going to your GP to organise a MHP. It's a tough first step but a very rewarding one.  Plus you have us here to help you along the way.

    Take Care,


  15. TristanM
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    29 June 2013 in reply to Gav

    Hi guys,

    Also new here. I'm having a fairly good run lately, having been off medication for depression, anxiety and massive mood swings for almost 12 months, but I've joined up hoping to find a way to help others have the same success and become as fortunate as I. I'm 24, regional background, and have seen too many friends end their own lives to not try and help others.

  16. mee
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    29 June 2013 in reply to bettina1985

    hey bettina :o)

    anytime u need a ear 


  17. missy86
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    4 August 2013

    Hi everyone, 

    I also am new to this site. I'm 27 and have anxiety and panic attacks ( hopefully not for much longer ) I am welcoming all new friends 


  18. geoff
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    6 August 2013 in reply to shattered_soul

    dear Shattered_soul, even though it's been bad for you, it was good to hear from you.

    Do you want to reply back to us. Geoff.

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