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Forums / Young people / Afraid to face consequences, making big decisions and do I really have control my life?

Topic: Afraid to face consequences, making big decisions and do I really have control my life?

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  1. noella99
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    8 posts
    18 May 2020

    I'm currently unsure of the decisions I've made. I recently broke an agreement that costs me my entire savings. It took a lot out of me to break that agreement, because I thought it was the right decision for me in the long run. Yet now I find myself digging a deeper hole than ever and it made me rethink whether I made the right decision or not. I don't think I predicted the consequences would be this difficult and now I'm living through it. I'm too afraid to ask for help out of fear of others would judge me for my decisions. Some people have judged, with good intentions because I know what they were saying is true. However, a part of me just refuse to acknowledge it and feel hurt by it. I would just proceed to shield myself from doing the things they told me to do.

    Some people told me things on what to do and I let them. I hate that I let them. When I show some sign that I don't want to do it, they would tell me that I'm indecisive and that it's immature for me to do so. I overthink about it. Maybe I am immature. Maybe I should just follow through one decision, no matter how much I feel like I change my mind. They say it's for the best for me. I doubt it, but I never say anything. So I kept swallowing everything and kept things to myself.

    I wonder if anyone have ever felt this way? I'm only turning 21 this year and I still don't understand how adult-ing works. I feel like some people makes me feel like I'm not doing enough or just too immature with my decisions. I don't know how to break the chains from them and take over control.

  2. Deckt
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    18 May 2020 in reply to noella99
    Hi noella99!

    Whether it feels like it or not, you ARE adulting! Adulting is making costly mistakes. Adulting is never being sure of whether you have done the right thing, and learning from your mistakes. Adulting is learning which people can be safely ignored, and which ones you should probably listen to. Just because someone is older than you doesn't mean that they are wiser.

    For the record.... what do I know? :) Advice is based on personal experience, and that colours EVERYTHING. Keep what you like, discard the rest.

    Hugs, Dt.

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